young, close relative has become an "escort" WWYD?

[notreallymehere]

20 something low closeish relative has become an escort. She has been thinking about it for a while, tried it in London, stopped but now has gone back to it in her home town. She is with what appears to be reputable agency and seems to be making quite a lot of money. Lots of reviews now appearing on her webpage etc. She appears fully happy with her choice - she had a job before (working in a coffee bar) but says that the money is better with this (she has previously worked as a lap dancer). My question is what do I tell my friends/acquaintances if they ask about her. I've discussed this with some people when she first started in London and the reaction was very aggressive "well you should have stopped her" etc etc. (hence name change) Fact is that she is an adult and this is her choice and I cannot see how I can stop her - she is making a far bit of money at this and is very financially motivated. However she is part of the family and it is difficult to avoid the questions but many people are very judgemental (of me for somehow "allowing" this to happen).

i have work as an escort. i dodn't work for an agency though, i am an independent escort.

an escort is someone who sells their time by the hour, and sex is expected. escorts work either from home, a rented flat, a hotel, or in the client's home.

i would not have done such work aged twenty, this is something i started in my early thirties. i am glad i started it when i did and not earlier. we each grow up differently - some twenty year olds are remarkably mature and self-aware, i only know that i wasn't.

i lost my virginity at the age of sixteen. i slept with about thirty different young men by the time i was 24. the majority of them were one-night stands. i enjoyed it, but then i fell in love...

after we broke up, a few years later, i made friends with some gay men who worked as escorts. i realised that instead of having one-night stands i could do escort work - which would give me the sexual life i enjoy AND pay the bills, rent, etc!

when my sister passed away i took on my nephew and niece. now i work strictly part-time when they are either with their father or at school, and i no longer work from home.

this allows me to have my fun, single and carefree adult time without affecting them, and yet i earn enough in three hours for us to live well for two weeks, so i have lots of time and energy for them.

I have no problem with what you do, you also sound quite sensible.
But you say that you have taken on your niece and nephew, is this a private arrangment? Or are social services involved?
The reason I ask is because I have dealings with ss myself re DGD.
IF they are involved, I am pretty certain that they would not take kindly to your work.

this is a private arrangement. social services are aware of our arrangements but are not involved.

if my relative or friend told me they were thinking of working as an escort i would ask them how they planned to manage the risks involved. for example some escorts have a security buddy, use a combination of vetting procedures, etc. i would ask them about where they would be getting emotional support from, and i would talk with them about safer sex issues. if they sounded sane, sensible, and in control i would wish them well.

No-ones business but hers, unless you thought she was being taken advantage, that might be different but if it's all her and she seems happy, stay close and keep stumm.

auntma Glad to hear that SS are not directly involved because believe me, they can sniff anything out!
Good on you then, as its never easy raising other peoples children.

yes, it was stressful while the SS were investgating us but they did quickly realise that we are fine and do not need any help from them. hurrah!

i didn't work for four months, until the kids were relatively settled in and the SS had long gone.

slight tangent here but i've been perusing a few of the threads on here about prostitution and there is one myth i would really like to smash. at least in my experience, clients do not come to me because of a problem in their marriages. those who are married generally tell me that they have an extremely happy and fulfilling sex and love life with their wives. i believe them, partly because of the look on their faces when they say this. some men, (like me and like many other women too) simply like variety in their sex lives. that's all. these guys are also, whilst i'm on the subject, very very careful about safer sex. i don't offer unprotected oral or penetration and i have never had a client try to persuade me otherwise. i have had clients tell me though that they don't visit women who offer such risky activities.