dittany Sun 09-Jan-11 19:50:58 wrote:
"Morality means the right way of acting with regards to the world around you, including people.
The most basic morality is do as you would be done by, or don't do unto others what you wouldn't have done to you. It's called the Golden Rule.
That's why men who would never dream of selling their arses for money or seeing their daughters or mothers or wives in prostitution should not use prostituted women."
You are absolutely right! And women who do not want themselves or their sisters, mothers and daughters to be regarded as sexual commodities should not dream of selling themselves to men for money - but I think you have said this also, and congratulate you for doing so.
I have a similar message for those women who have complained here about being denigrated by men. I would ask them to try to speak about men without also denigrating them. It seems to me that it must be very difficult for most women to do this because I rarely hear them speak of men without making deeply insulting claims about them. There is a particular and almost universal tendency among women to generalise criticism of some men to all men. There is also a widespread tendency for women to excuse themselves every failure and to consider every vice they have a virtue but do the reverse when speaking about men. This is often done implicitly and, I'm sure, mostly unconciously. If women think this is what men do, I agree they sometimes do, but you should listen to yourselves more carefully because very many women do the same. In fact, in my experience of listening to men speak of women, they denigrate them a great deal less than women do when they speak of men. Furthermore, they are generally more aware that they are doing it and are more likely to be challenged by other men than women are aware and likely to be challenged by each other. As the feminists of old used to say, you need to liberate your language! In the meantime I will continue to challenge men who imply that all women are whores at heart because some women sell their bodies. I will also challenge those who talk about the pussy they saw at the strip club last night. However, I very rarely have to do this because men do not generally speak about women in this way (at least the ones I know!) I will continue to challenge men while I listen to supposedly enlightened women make remarks about punters and penises and engage in a discourse that equates men with their sexual organs and lecture me about my own sexuality without having the wit to even realise that they are doing it and, presumably, the good manners to care!