Sakura. You wrote: "This is a feminist board so the emphasis is on the men punters actually do have a choice"
If it is a feminist board, and I accept that description if you wish to use it (qualified by the caution that the term is sometimes used by women who want to claim the authority to speak for their sex - something I would automatically and as a matter of principle bridle against if any man made a similar claim on my behalf!), I think it is appropriate for it to consider any topic from any perspective. I have a sister in her late fifties who was a radical feminist in the 1980's and she scares me with her intellectual power, penetration and flexibility. Actually, no she doesn't scare me! She exhilarates me! Part of this is to do with her intellectual honesty. By all means place the emphasis on the choices that men punters have but, as with women, this is a matter of degree. We can talk for ever about the matter of degree, the mitigating circumstances, the particular difficulties appertaining to each person's situation as an individual and as a representative of their sex, our conditioning, our society, our history, etc., and hope that our situation will be considered kindly. Certainly we should be kind to each other because we are all subject to constraints. However, we tend to overplay those we are subject to and underplay the constraints of others. That is human nature - female and male. I am 50 years old and I tell you this is true. I am certain it is true of me and therefore I am certain it is true of you. We can have the discussion I have described but we can also speak about what tends to the good and what tends to the bad, whether it is a feminist board or not.
SNB
"But Andre everyone in paid employment rents themselves out to the highest bidder according to contract. 
I chose to not line others pockets but my own."
I have also worked for minimum wage. I have done very demeaning jobs but there is a way of doing a demeaning job in a manner that does not demean you. To an extent what you say is true, but the extent matters. The degree to which most paid work has the ability to transgress on you as a person is different to the degree to which having sex with someone can transgress on you as a person. This does not have to be the case, but it usually is. I have worked and I have had sex. They are different for me and that makes me believe they are probably different for you. Coming from the other direction: I want it to to be confirmed that they are different for me and I want that to be confirmed for my children who are approaching adulthood. If you make them different for you you help me and my children make them different for us also.
Sakura
"unfortunately, Andre the type of "power" you're talking about is in your head.
The truth is, the cold hard facts, are that women are under-represented in all economic and political institutions.
That is power, real power, not fake empowerment"
When women have at least 50% representation in parliament and hold at least 50% of society's resources, then and only then, will I be able to take stories of female power seriously
Everything I speak of is in my head. Where else would it come from? I agree that women should have equal representation in parliament and equal economic power. I will fight for those things because they are appropriate and just. When we have achieved them through our combined efforts there will remain many other things in our lives that we should be concerned with. Incidentally, I suspect that many prostitutes have more economic power than their punters but I do not consider this to be a gain for women!
I do not know the particularities of your situation. You may have a great deal of power or you may have almost none. My experience of men who have power is that they very often succumb to the temptation to abuse it. My experience of women who have power is that they very often succumb to the temptation to abuse it. When men abuse their power they deny it or claim it is not their fault. When women abuse their power they do the same. Men who have integrity do not do this. Women who have integrity don't either. If you want an example of where women have power look in the home. Many woman are not satisfied with this as their only province of power, and I agree it should not be, but it is their province of power and very real nonetheless Domestic violence is a very overt and obvious abuse of power in the home, although it is not the only one. The most prevalent form of domestic abuse is female on male. That is because the incidence of mothers hitting their sons is much higher than all other forms of hitting in families. I'm pretty sure that mothers hitting their daughters comes next! Mothers hit their children for all sorts of reasons, just as husband hit their wives for all sorts of reasons. However, the main reason is that the person doing the hitting is stronger than the person being hit. That is how it is with human beings but it does not have to be that way. My mother had enormous power, but she did not hit me. Furthermore, she taught me a great deal about honestly, integrity and responsibility. Her own background gave her every reason to be excused but she did not excuse herself. Such things are possible.
I am inclined to like feminists because they generally like women and so do I. I usually find that I end up on the same ground as them if they are advocates for women as human beings. If they are merely advocates for their sex, I always end up disagreeing with them and consider them in a similar light to those men who play the same dishonest game.