young, close relative has become an "escort" WWYD?

[notreallymehere]

20 something low closeish relative has become an escort. She has been thinking about it for a while, tried it in London, stopped but now has gone back to it in her home town. She is with what appears to be reputable agency and seems to be making quite a lot of money. Lots of reviews now appearing on her webpage etc. She appears fully happy with her choice - she had a job before (working in a coffee bar) but says that the money is better with this (she has previously worked as a lap dancer). My question is what do I tell my friends/acquaintances if they ask about her. I've discussed this with some people when she first started in London and the reaction was very aggressive "well you should have stopped her" etc etc. (hence name change) Fact is that she is an adult and this is her choice and I cannot see how I can stop her - she is making a far bit of money at this and is very financially motivated. However she is part of the family and it is difficult to avoid the questions but many people are very judgemental (of me for somehow "allowing" this to happen).

why is it not okay to encourage someone into this industry?
Well a) if you stand to benefit from someone entering prostitution it is actually illegal.

and b) because of the higher potential of emotional harm than most jobs. I would think it would be unethical to encourage your son to join the army for example, knowing that he has a higher risk than most jobs of being traumatised.

I do not feel demeaned by what I did for a living at all, but I do feel demeaned by being TOLD on here what I think and feel and my motivations are for my choices in life, by women who are supposed to support women's choices. That is not even supporting human choices!

the fact that prostitution is sexual abuse

Nope not a fact - your opinion. There is a difference you know.

In the worst possible way?
Hah again dittany how can you possibly say it is the worst possible way never having experienced it yourself?
I have worked many many different jobs, I never got into this industry until I was in my 30's and trust me I was far more exploited in many of them for min wage.
But what the hell would I know I have only experienced both sides of the coin first hand.

How many people here would have been happy if their mother had been a prostitute? I wouldn't have been

Maybe not when I was a child I would have been unhappy, because of the stigma which is (wrongly) attached , and which you are actually furthering with comments like this. But as an adult now, I honestly would not mind if it transpired my mother had been a prostitute. I have actually thought about this a few times.

No more than my mother minds that I am a prostitute (amongst other things)

why doesn't she mind Shd ?
I have read accounts of prostitutes who admit they're prosituting themselves so their daughters will never have to prostitute themselves

Do you think it's because your mother has a rose-tinted view of the industry?

Sounds like you want a cheerleader not a feminist

"How many people here would have been happy if their mother had been a prostitute? I wouldn't have been"

That statement seems to have more than a hint of cheerleading

And you think you will free women from men's oppression by telling me what I think and feel and why I made choices etc?

Doesn't sound like it to me. Sounds like you are trying to cover up the blatantly ridiculous assertions you have been making about someone's life who you have never met using the guise of feminism.

My mother knows me well, she gives me credit for making choices that are right for me. She affords me respect to be able to make my own mind up as an adult and does not dare presume that to know more than I.

I've had crappy minimum wage jobs too, and trust me, the sex I didn't really want, with men I didn't really fancy was far worse.

That is why the money is the sweetner.

Shd
I didn't understand your answer about why it wouldn't be okay to encourage your daughter to become a prostitute?
MOthers often encourage their daughters into various paths in life-rightly or wrongly- why not prostitution?

Besides you are always focusing on us not enjoying the sex, I tell you now as FACT in my job I enjoy probably 9 out of 10 men that come to see me, they are perfectly respectable, clean and yes my body and mind can and often does respond to the pleasures of what is happening.
The other 1 out of 10 makes you remember just why it is so well paid.

Again sakura already answered, if you have something different to add to the debate I am more than happy to answer other than bang drumming out the same questions over and over, it is tiresome.

OMG I am doing it for the money the money and nothing but the money and with the extra time it gives me thrown in as an added bonus, where on earth has any of us said that it is for anything other than that?
Of course I do not fancy all the men that I see, who on earth said otherwise, I do it for the MONEY is that clear??
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I used to sit at a desk from 8am - 11pm for THE MONEY and a hell of a lot less of it!

I'm not drum-banging. I'm really interested to know why on the one hand you see prostitution as a job like any other, and yet, would not encourage your daughter to enter it.

It's because you and I both know it's not a job like any other, and no mother on earth really wants her daughter to become a prostitute

You are getting quite ridiculous now dittany who has to sexually desire someone to have sex with them for money?
That is an added bonus but not a necessary part.
I CHOSE to have sex with men I find unattractive as the financial aspect is actually all I need to be attracted to.

Have a look at the men in your life dittany, for every 10 you know 1 of them has failed at humanity and the lowest of the low in your eyes, good luck at spotting which one.

You think that the majority of people that are slave wages do not shut down and get on with it? Ignoring their feelings because they need that money to pay their wage?
No different.