To not like BIL snooping around our house

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At ds's birthday party last month (dh's) BIL refused to use the downstairs guest bathroom & kept going upstairs to use the main bathroom - found this odd but fair enough , everyone else was happy to stay downstairs & use the bathroom . Later that night when everyone had gone home i noticed the attic door was fully open now this door is high up in the ceiling with no stair access so difficult to open (you would need to stand on the stair banister to get up there or get a ladder and the spare bedroom door was also open (junk room always locked )
We said nothing to Bil but now its DD's birthday party on Thursday & BIl will be here again & i am sooo tempted to bring it up in a jokey kind of manner ( something like "oh we must have some v strong mice in the attic as they are able to open the doors") but dh doesn't want me to .
What do you think ?

YANBU... I'd be more direct, however. 'Did you go in the attic when you visited last time?'... If he admits it you can ask why he didn't ask first. If he denies it, he knows you're wise to him and probably won't try it again. Doesn't have to be unpleasant but no-one likes a 'moocher' (as my mum would say)

I would do it.

Or get locks for all the doors and say nothing.

Your message will come across loud and clear.

Or when he goes upstairs, give him a minute then sneak up after him.

Or tell everyone that the upstairs loo is blocked so everyone will have to use the downstairs one.

Or if he goes upstairs, say "didn't you get a good enough look round last time?"

Why the hell shouldn't you challenge him?

I am very annoyed by it tbh as i feel the upstairs of any one's house is private .
What he expected to find up their baffles me .
Dh won't say anything to him .

don't bother with the mice comment. Just tell him he has to use the downstairs loo or nothing as you do not appreciate him snooping.

I'd put an alarm or a cowbell on the door. Thats fucking weird going in your attic, what do you think he's looking for?

You could of course be REALLY mean and fashion a guy, then suspend it by a noose so it's dangling from the rafters. For added effect place a chair on its side directly below.

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ooh, perhaps he hid somethign in your attic.#

or have i been watchign too many soaps?

re; the loo, perhaps he needed to make a smell, or several smells

thanks for that image slarty

Great idea happy very inventive

fab not sure i could be that blunt with him tbh but your right .

I would really love to ask him what he expected to find up there .
Every time i see him now I'm going to be screaming WHY , WHY in my head lol

@ Hec

YANBU I'd be so tempted to go with Hec's second post.

do it do it do it.

or you could bring the conversation round to, I dunno, bats.

"Talking of bats, I'm sure we've got them, I can hear scrabbling. Did you see anything, X, when you were up there during the party last month?"

Of course, your husband would likely choke on his drink but oh to see the look on your bils face.

I'd just loudly say when everyone gets there that the upstairs loo isn't flushing properly so eveyrone has to use the downstairs.

And rig up some sort of alarm to go off if the loft hatch is opened.

And please go up in your loft and have a good poke around, check he's not actually hidden anything...

Strange, I would be open and honnest, and make sure when everyone is there that you tell bil that he has no need to go upstairs again, that there is still nothing in the loft and he can use the downstairs toilet like everyone else, why the hell should he make you feel uncomfortable, shame the odd bod!

Rofl happy ooh you have a wicked mind

fakeplastic Actually a lot of houses around me have burst pipes & we all have water restrictions due to the ice/snow melting causing floods etc so might get away with that excuse .
DH went up there to look around after i noticed the door pulled back , didn't see any thing unusual .

you must ask him - did he see any bats/squirrels/skeletons last time he went up there?
does he like your insulation?

Definately do the noose thing.

Or so a giant hairy spider falls in his face.

the beauty of the hanging man is you don't say anything to him- thus going with your husband's wishes.

And if your bil doesn't snoop -he won't get the fright of his life.

and if he DOES snoop, you get the joy of watching him try to explain what the hell he was doing in your loft / spare room.

yes def set a trap-ping pong balls on attic door which fall noisily down when he opens it.I also think that every time he goes up you or someone else in on it "happens" to need something from upstairs,how many times does he need to go ffs?Please let us know what happens tho.

well last month he was only here for about 1.5 hours maximum & he must have gone upstairs about 6 times & was up there for ages each time i remember making a joke to his wife that he must have fallen into the loo when she was looking for him little did i know what he was up to up there .

that is so weird,im 8 months pg and dont go that often.When is the party?Why doesnt dh want you to speak to him,its your home hes snooping around,maybe they are in it together and have both hidden a mouldy cadaver in the attic

Just thought - I don't suppose he was looking for his christmas present was he?

I mean, it would be a very odd thing to do, but it's a possibility.

Sorry, but 6 times in 90 minutes and staying up there for ages?

He's stashed something.