To not like BIL snooping around our house

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At ds's birthday party last month (dh's) BIL refused to use the downstairs guest bathroom & kept going upstairs to use the main bathroom - found this odd but fair enough , everyone else was happy to stay downstairs & use the bathroom . Later that night when everyone had gone home i noticed the attic door was fully open now this door is high up in the ceiling with no stair access so difficult to open (you would need to stand on the stair banister to get up there or get a ladder and the spare bedroom door was also open (junk room always locked )
We said nothing to Bil but now its DD's birthday party on Thursday & BIl will be here again & i am sooo tempted to bring it up in a jokey kind of manner ( something like "oh we must have some v strong mice in the attic as they are able to open the doors") but dh doesn't want me to .
What do you think ?

6 times in 90 minutes suggests he might have had diarrhoea and didn't want to use the same toilet everyone else was using because he was embarrassed about the smell? Possibly?

Not sure why that would involve going in the attic. Maybe he was looking for more loo roll.....

What is he like normally? Wanted by police?

I need you to get to the bottom of this, or it'll bug me!

I don't know though; are you sure, absolutely 100%, that it was him? I think you have to be before you do anything. Doors couldn't have been opened in some other way, for some really mundane reason that you or your dh then forgot about?

Or could your dh have opened them and doesn't want you to know why and that's why he'd rather you said nothing? Just speculating, no offense meant to your dh...

That is so weird YANBU!

Agree you need to be absolutely sure it was him before making a direct comment - I prefer the idea of following him.

Bowel issues would be one explanation, but surely if he needed to shit that much, he wouldn't have come to the house? And you would've, presumably, smelt something telling? Also doesn't explain why he went into the loft, most people don't shit there afterall....

Is he the type to be stashing something? Or is it possible he thinks you have something worth stealing up there? If DH doesn't want to confront him, could he possibly know something you don't? Sorry, don't want to be negative, just spinning scenarios!

I also really need to know what's going on here, it's like the mysterious lump of meat from a while back!

getting on this thread
Please go with Hec's idea - but warn your DH first!

BIL's are just plain odd sometimes. I managed to have my BIL screaming at me on Christmas Day, threatening not to come to my Mum's because he was feeling too sensitive. ( I was thrilled at the thought of him not coming). Unfortunately he did though. He's just stayed here for 6 days and now gone home, the relief is indescribable!

off the subject but ils are weird full stop,sil is currently having a tantrum cos i said she cant bring her massive bull dog to stay 5 days after my baby is born by section.
I dont like dogs,esp around babies and will bearly feel like putting up 3 adults in my small hosue never mind a dog.Aparently i am "putting baby before the dog" um well yeah!
When is the party,can we all come?

6 times in 90 mins

is he snorting coke up there? My bil has done this

tainted-tell me about the "lump of meat"

but more likely to do coke off the bathroom surfaces than stood with head in the attic.
And 6 times in 90 mins is he pete doherty?

make sure you offer round the pom bears

I can't find the thread ledkr, but it was an MNer who had a roast dinner chucked over the fence, not sure if it was ever resolved though (was very reminiscent of a scene from The Osbournes!).

Has your DH inherited an item that he and SIL think should be theirs? Or an item that they've recently discovered is worth something? This is weird behaviour. Is he normally curious?

My bil is worse than pete doherty unfortunately and his activities are far from limited to bathroom surfaces

tainted-a whole roast haha,people really do funny things dont they?
This is really bugging me now,i almost want soemone to do it in my house so i can do the hanging guy thing.

Me too ledkr.

Thinking nye

do you think BIL is possibly having an affair? Perhaps he was in attic and spare room trying to get a signal on his phone for illicit texting etc?

secretly film him? i know that's the only thing i would be working on doing!

maybe he is on ali - is he a heifer? not sure about the attic bit, maybe he wanted to stuff some insulation down his knickers to absorb the fatty excrement?

makes me think secret smoker/drug taker/talking to secret girlfriend on phone - though why he needed to do attic/spare room as well as bathroom has me wondering about other scenarios too...

OK I'll try answer a few questions before i go back to deep cleaning the dc's bedroom (make them nice for Bil to go snooping )
Yes Sil & Bil are a bit strange tbh , they are both in their 50's with grown up kids .
No drugs involved as far as i know but he is a heavy drinker . She's tea total .
Dh is a carpenter as is Bil so dh reckons Bil was trying to find his tools to see what he has & maybe ask to borrow some could be that but why go to all that bother to get up into the attic ? He could have just asked .
By the way the door was left wide open it looked as though maybe he was disturbed & had to make a quick get away .
Yes you can all come to the party & watch/follow Bil for me if you like

surely could have waited for 90 mins to text gf tho?This is hilarious we have him down as gangster no 1 and hes probably just a nosey twunt.

is it a door or a hatch? Does sil or bil know what you keep in there? What is the dress code for the party

ledkrs - not if GF is some kind of bunny boiler though who is threatening to tell wife/end her life if he doesn't reply immediately thereby demonstrating that she is the all important one....... :o (guess who re-watched Fatal Attraction recently :o )