long post - sorry but I have to get this out!
I have packed his bags for him....
He doesnt know it yet but its the final straw and Im not going to be treated like a mug anymore.
Yesterday he said he had some errands to run for his mother so going to the bank got shoved aside. I did suggest that in fact the best thing would be a standing order for a fixed amount each month would be better than a joint account as all comes out of my account now and it would be too much hassle to change all the direct debits etc. He seemed happy with that but said we would sort it out next week.
So while he was doing his own thing yesterday I said I would go to the sales with my mum & look for a cot as right now we have nothing for the baby due to arrive in Feb. He told me to enjoy shopping, get some nice things etc etc.
So got the cot yesterday and mattress....had intended on leaving it at that but my mum was saying that I just needed to get these things otherwise the baby will arrive & I'll have nothing! While in the shop my mum was asking me what pram/pushchair I planned on getting..it was great to have her there as when I've been to mothercare or any other store before, prams have always just confused me and Ive never made a decision...there is just too much to choose from!
Anyway, found a pram and it was lovely...a bugaboo bee 
and mum suggested we get it now while I had some money in my purse. I told her I couldnt really afford it right now and would buy in Feb but she said she would happily pay half the cost. She knows OH has been no help financially so far and she said she wanted to help...saying it was her first grandchild and why should he go without or not have a few nice things because he's got a rubbish dad....
We got the pram and I am so grateful to my mum as I now have the main things for baby. My mum also bought me a moses basket & some sleepsuits etc so I can pack my hospital bag and have things ready.
On train home my mum said she had been saving up to get the oven fixed (which has been broken for about 18mths) but that she was more concerned that I had all I needed. She was really cross with OH and said that he should now be responsible for buying anything else we need such as car seat, steriliser, monitor etc. I felt so bad when i realised she had spent her little bit of savings...embarrassed that she should have to do that for me to be honest 
Got home and told OH what we had bought and he was really scathing when I mentioned pram, saying I was stupid to get the expensive bugaboo pram. I informed him that I had paid & my mother had paid using her savings...that he should be grateful someone cares about his son, even if he doesnt! He then said he would get the carseat and some other furniture for nursery to make amends.
About 10mins later he calls me over to the laptop and shows me a £19.99 car seat...a brand I have never heard of....and says he is happy to get that for the baby. I dont care about costs but £19.99 seems to be very cheap...and the fact there wasnt any info on safety or testing etc tells me that maybe its not going to be that good! Car seat to me is very important as it could save my child's life at the end of the day and I felt offended that he thought that was acceptable. I said we need to get something that fits our car properly and you need to be shown how to fit it right so its safe etc. He just said "well if you want it let me know". I just walked away....
He doesnt want to use his money to help pay any bills....and now he doesnt want to pay his way for his own baby.
I would have thought he might have offered to give me some dosh for the cot etc but no. He knows Im struggling but offers nothing and I know he was paid yesterday.
Anyway, so the last straw is this....
He is going out for NYE tonight. Going to a club where it is £50 just to get in the door. There is a group of them and they are also booking a table at this club which they all need to pay and additional £250 (each!) for as their minimum drinks spend.
He is going!!!!! 
He is out getting his hair cut now!!!
So he can afford THAT....but cannot afford any bills or to help buy things for our baby.
I am so fucked off and have packed his bags. I am not saying anything though...I will leave him to go out and when he comes back early hours of the morning he will find his bags outside the door.
I cannot believe he is doing this & Im not taking this any longer! How dare he go and spend £300 just to go to a nightclub and offer me a £20 car seat for our child!
I have spent the last few hours crying my eyes out and now Im just SO MAD. I want to punch his lights out!!!!!