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AIBU?

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Original poster

to be furious with DD's friends parents?

186 replies

WhyIsThatThenWithJingleBells · 10/12/2010 21:55

Tonight is the end of term school disco and as I have woman flu I arranged lifts for DD to get her there abd home again. The disco ended at 9.30pm and at 9.43pm DD rang me to say that the parents thought the disco ended at 10pm!! We live 30mins drive from school.

I am furious and feel like just shutting the door in their faces once DD is home (and safely in the house). She is 11ys. AIBU??

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insertexpletive · 10/12/2010 22:12

So, they are at a school disco, their lift is late and they are waiting on the pavement?

If this was the case, I would be more upset with the school to be honest - is this primary or secondary?

Or, are they really waiting inside?

SantasENormaSnob · 10/12/2010 22:13

You pity our children?

I don't leave mine to be picked up without confirming times.

Or I pick them up myself.

Original poster
WhyIsThatThenWithJingleBells · 10/12/2010 22:13

Why should I not clarify times? I didn't think I had to, given that their child was at the disco.

Yes, its at school. They were waiting in the foyer, which is unlocked....the children were nervous about being 'left'.

I'm done with this thread. Thanks for making me feel like a shit mum.

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SerendipitousHarlot · 10/12/2010 22:15

FFS. Don't ask the question if you don't want the answer. You're not a shit mum, I'm sure, but YABU.

Kendodd · 10/12/2010 22:15

Not a shit mum, just a shit person.

pooka · 10/12/2010 22:15

Not a shit mum. But massively massively over reacting to a simple mistake that would have no adverse consequences.

11 year olds waiting in a school foyer are not in any imminent danger. They are together and have phones.

You need to calm down and BREATHE before your dd is dropped off because YABU to want to be rude to the friend's parents.

magicmummy1 · 10/12/2010 22:15

Nobody has said that you are a shit mum. Just that your attitude towards her friend's parents is shitty.

Summerbird73 · 10/12/2010 22:15

DS is only 18mo - he isnt allowed to go to school discos yet - mind you i heard his nursery xmas party got a bit lairy!

mummytime · 10/12/2010 22:15

If it was a school disco surely some poor teacher is staying to supervise until the last child is collected? If not then I would be furious with the school (they are so many issues).
However as some one who often makes mistakes I think you are a bit U with the neighbours who gave the lift.

ChaoticChristmasAngelCrackers · 10/12/2010 22:16

YABU

It's a school disco. As has been pointed out the staff aren't going to go home and leave the girls on their own.

It must be nice to be so perfect Xmas Hmm

Original poster
WhyIsThatThenWithJingleBells · 10/12/2010 22:17

Oh fuck off all of you.

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SkyBluePearl · 10/12/2010 22:17

as long as someone is waiting with them (teachers/parents clearing up most likely) it should be fine. I can't imagine they would have been left on their own to wait for the lift.

Summerbird73 · 10/12/2010 22:17

eloquently put... Hmm

Kendodd · 10/12/2010 22:18

Oh, worse thing I have ever said on MN, should take it back, sorry. But YABU

BelligerentGhoul · 10/12/2010 22:18

Why are you feeling like a shit mum? Nobody has said that - just that you are over-reacting to be 'furous' at people who are doing you a favour and have made a genuine mistake. You probably over-reacted because you feel ill but if you thought things through, you'd realise that.

QuickLookBusySanta · 10/12/2010 22:19

I think most have you have managed to make the OP feel shit. Well doneHmm

OP I'm sure your DD will be home soon.

StewieGriffinsMom · 10/12/2010 22:19

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NadiaWadia · 10/12/2010 22:19

YABVU.
OK, its not ideal, but seems the girls will be fine. The other parents were doing you a favour FGS! Stop being so precious.

Summerbird73 · 10/12/2010 22:20

quicklook i am sorry but OP asked a question, the answer was YABU and dont shut the door in neighbours face as she is doing you a favour etc.

then she got all shitty and told us all to fuck off. if she feels like shit it is her own doing. her posts were v angry

LauraNorder · 10/12/2010 22:20

You're not a shit mum, you are just concerned for your child, only natural.

However you are feeling like shit, you just want her home where you know she is safe, it's out of your control because someone else is picking her up and you are annoyed because someone else has made a simple mistake.

It would be rude to shut the door in their face, smile, say thanks, behind gritted teeth and ask your DD if she had a good time then get yourself to bed - really hope you feel better soon Smile

Simbacatlives · 10/12/2010 22:21

The thread is am I being unreasonable not everyone must agree with me and be sympathetic.

pigletmania · 10/12/2010 22:21

YABVVVVVU, rude, ungrateful and lacking in social skills, Its a school disco fgs, there will probably be responsible adults there to wait with the kids whilst they wait for lifts. If you are so concerned about safety why dont you drive down there yourself instead of on here.

StewieGriffinsMom · 10/12/2010 22:22

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SantasENormaSnob · 10/12/2010 22:22

Quicklook, op asked a question and got honest answers.

pozzled · 10/12/2010 22:22

If they have genuinely been left, out of side of adults, and without someone telling them 'Don't worry, we will make sure that you are collected' then you have some right to feel a bit angry- with the school.

I would be EXTREMELY surprised if this were the case. They probably feel upset at being 'left' because it's awkward for 11 year-olds to be left with the teachers when all the other kids have gone home. Not because they're in the slightest danger.