Do you allow your husband to meet his woman friends ?

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Do you allow your husband to go to dinner or travel with his female friend just two of them?

Of course. Not that DH has any female friends now, but up to about 4 years ago he had one who he used to scuba dive with.

hasn'treally come up tbh. Travel together, just the two ofthem, I would find a no-goer.I wouldn't like that.

Going out for lunch wouldn't bother me in the least. Going out for an evening meal... it's a bit iffy. If I didn't much like the woman or I found her boring etc, I would be quite happy for them to go out alone for a meal but tbh it doesn't really happen as far as I can recall offhand. It would depend for me on what I thought of the particular woman a bit.

Is this happening a lot? Where/for how long do they want to travel together?

Well I would not use the word "allow" because DH is not a child but to answer I do not think I would be chuffed by the idee. DH has no female friends (that I know of)other than my friends or the wives of his friends and I do not think he would e remotly intereseted in lunch/dinner one a one to one bases with them.

I think he would probably ask me to join actually.

I agree with DAnZZZen. Doesn't really happen with us, except of course he does have lunch with women for work....

He hasn't got any that I know of.

But I meet my male ones when I feel like it.

yes the word "allow" in your OP is a bit unfortunate because you can tell him you aren't happy about it, tell him if he does it, you'll do such and such but you cannot very well allow/forbid it IYSWIM

I get what you meant though. Have you toldhim you aren't comfortable with it?

Has never come up. I wouldn't be bothered about him travelling to a conference with a female colleague, but suppose that's a bit different.

Yes. Dh has one female friend he sees regularly in the evenings. Doesn't bother me in the slightest although they've been friends for years, he knew her before he knew me, and there's never, ever been the slightest hint of anything between them.

If someone 'new' popped up out of nowhere I think I'd be concerned.

Eh? Of course I would!

A friend's a friend. I'd be very disappointed if I had a partner who couldn't be trusted around a woman, and I'd be mighty miffed if I wasn't 'allowed' to see any male friends.

I agree that "allowed" is a very odd word to use. He is an adult, isn't he??

I don't allow him to have any friends, much safer.

Of course, my DH has female friends he sees. It would be very odd to not allow him to see his friends...

Have also been on the other side of this - I had a very good ( male) friend I'd known since university - lived in same student house etc who I emailed and saw regularly until his girlfriend said "no more". I haven't seen him for about 4 years now and I still miss him! There was nothing going on, just a lot of shared history.

Can I ask a question? Those of you who feel uncomfortable with your partner being alone with a friend of the opposite sex, how do you function as a couple? You obvioulsy do not trust your DH/DP then? Or am I reading it wrong?

My best friend is a man. If his DW/DP stopped me seeing him I would be most put out. I have known him longer then her. Know more about him then her. If I wanted to sleep with him I would have done it years ago.

Dh is the only male on his university course, so yes he goes out with women, although usually more than one.

PotteringAlong I had exactly the same with a male friend on mine, nothing had never happened between us, we were just great friends, his now wife couldn't stand it though, so the friendship has just dwindled away, Sad really.

I don't "allow" him to do or not do anything, he is a grown adult, I am his wife, not his keeper.

I trust My GH. I would have less of a "problem" with him being out for lunch with 10 women that just one for some reason

Of course. What a strange OP. Do you actually believe each gender should only be 'allowed' same sex friends?

Men generally don't need other female friends. Simon Cowell does though, and that's because he's insecure and needs his ego stroking a lot.

An odd thread title. Dh has lots of female friends. I trust him. He's an adult though so we dont do the whole 'allow' thing. Did you marry a child

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I find that last comment rather strange really, animation, as you seem to be assuming that a man could not possibly have a female friend because they had interests in common.

DH has a few female friends that he sees regularly, sometimes all of them, sometimes one at a time - they share an interest in writing Captain Scarlet fanfic. I occasionally join them, but not often because I am sane only marginally interested in Gerry Anderson and all his works.

He goes to conventions with them, has lunch with one when he is working in her town and it bothers me so little that I can't even remember whether or not he may have had dinner on his own or travelled on his own with any one of them.

Snort at animation . So you mean the friends I made at uni are not friends because we have interests in common and share a lot of memories, but simply because they are insecure and need their egos stroking? Because that is all women are there for? They can't possibly be interesting people in their own right?

Yes my dh sees female friends and I have no probs with it. In fact he may be travelling up north with one this week for a funeral (I don't really know the person so decided not to go). They will be driving up together and staying in a hotel. I trust him so I am not worried. If I found out he was meeting friends and not telling me I would be concerned but he tells me and I know all his friends now too :-)

Howstheserenity I'd have no problem with you continuing a friendship with my dh, but I'd have a big problem with you thinking you knew more about him than me just because you have a shared history. I don't assume I know more about my best friend that I've known since school than her dh does-that would be ridiculous!

I think new friends popping up is harder to deal with.

Of course, DP has even been away on a short holiday with one of his best female friends. Surely gender should be irrelevant, they're just friends whether or not male or female.

I would be v.unhappy if DP said I couldn't spend time alone with my male friends. I often stay at my best male friends house after a night out due to convenience. He is my friend, I have no interest in having sex with him.

Yes. Why do you ask?