Do you allow your husband to meet his woman friends ?

[splendid]

Do you allow your husband to go to dinner or travel with his female friend just two of them?

Riiiight..

My mouth is hanging open now.

OP, you're nuts.

The bisexuality thing is also nuts.

That was to christmaseve

Eh? What about bisexuality is nuts?

bisexuality in general is nuts or just in the context of this thread?

Sorry, Bertie, thread moved on while I was dithering!

I was agreeing that you can reduce the argument to absurdity when you bring in bisexuality - 'If your husband was bisexual would he be allowed to have no friends'.

For the record, christmaseve's claim that men only spend time with women they fancy is bonkers too.

UnquietDad
can you give me Jessica and Natasha s numbers

They sound like a pair of goers

Ah I see

booy - bisexuality is highly recommended!

Btw, I just read out to DH the thing about men only spending time with women they fancy. To which he replies, 'But love, I spend time with you.'

@ your DH.

Not depressing really. I have enough female friends to spend time with.

I've had a few male friends but have made it clear that I'm not interested in them sexually, who have still invited me out. The friendship has usually petered out once they meet a partner.

If my male friends stopped getting in touch once they found partners, I wouldn't assume they'd fancied me. I'd assume I was a bit boring as company.

Just saying.

Christ I must have been sex on legs a few years back then..
I worked mostly with men and I had loads of great, briliant friends.
If Christmas thinks that they ALL fancied me.... Blimey I was hot...

Trillian speaks sense. If a partner wants to cheat it is not about opportunity. You could stick me in a room with the hottest men alive and I wouldn't cheat. I don't regard dh as being totally penis driven. He is occasionally in charge.

I have never felt the need to make it clear to my male friends that we are not going to shag.

Do people genuinely do this?

Perhaps naively, the fact that we have been friends for years and not so much as kissed would have been clear enough.

Loud, I don't usually need to assume that that men fancy me, thank you!

at Pag's DH being 'occasionally in charge'.

LaWeasel - it is a strange idea, isn't it? Do you think there's an appropriate point when you're getting to know someone? 'By the way, old chap, although we've met for coffee three times, I am not in fact ... well ... about to jump your bones at the slightest provocation. The wife has given her blessing: we may now meet for a fourth coffee in peace!'

"allow"?

I am not his keeper.

christmaseve your assumptions are ridiculous.

3rd Coffee definitely 'the moment' just in case he misinterpreted meeting casually for dates.

Apparently men might find the two confusing(!)

Ah yes, I used to be the sort of sexual magnet that christmaseve believes herself to be.
It made shopping and socialising very complicated, what with all the sighing and longing and ravishing and whatnot.
It's easier now I'm older and able to make eye contact without my magical succubus powers taking over.

Well, LaW, men are but simple creatures. And ruled by their penises (Pag's DH excepted).

Goblin - I want magical succubus powers! I am only 26; surely it is not too late?!

I guess that friendships petering out when someone finds a partner could be one of two things - either they did fancy you and now they have someone there's "no point" in your friendship any more (ugh, I'd feel used if I found out any of my male friends felt like this!) OR the new girlfriend is somewhat insecure and is discouraging the friendship between you. Which is sad but surely it's up to him to either stand up to it, or go out with someone who actually trusts him.

Otherwise it's just a coincidence and the friendship would have come to an end anyway.

BTW, I know it's bad form, but the OP hasn't been back and I wondered if it was the same OP as this thread? Not really a problem as it's provoked an interesting discussion, I was just curious.

My husband do not need to be allowed to do something,he is not my child and an adult,he has female friends from university,he has known them way way before we met,once in a while he would go for a night out with them,he would ask me to come along but because i trust him i never felt the need to,also the fact that i get bored around drunk people,he would never however travel alone with any of them because they are in different fields of work,if it was a holiday then he would take me with

As for me,i do have many male friends and sometimes i meet them without DH and he does'nt have a problem with it,however if someone new came along i would be a bit cautious mainly because i wouldn't know them,,

laurtopsy you don't sound precious,that is what works for you.

I've said the men who have wanted to be friends with me have fancied me, same goes for most of my single friends. Where did I say I was a sexual magnet that cannot go shopping, what a stupid comparison.

Perhaps that's the difference between my experiences and posters on here, I am single, therefore available, you are mostly coupled up.

Well, they tend to develop just after puberty, so you missed the boat I'm afraid LRD.
You also don't appear to have the monstrous ego required.

Darn.

And I was sure I had a monstrous ego, too.

Maybe I am just misapplying it.

For what it's worth, plenty of men have wanted to be friends with me before I met DH, christmas - we've only been together a couple of years! And I'm still friends with them (and, incidentally, with quite a lot of women).

Is it not exhausting constantly suspecting your mates of being letches?