Things need to change
When I ask someone to clear away the rubbish that they have left they should clear it up, not conveniently ?forget?.
When someone leaves their shit in the loo they should clear it up. I also do not expect to have to clear up adult and teenage piss. Is it really so hard to use tissues and or bleach/ to do the job? Is it as impossible as replacing loo rolls when empty?
People should change their beds every week without me asking, you are not young children. , perhaps as you know I like a clean bed you could initiate changing it?
This house is not huge if everyone actually took on the responsibility for it being a clean and comfortable home it would not take long at all. It is interesting that if we employed a cleaner (s)he would be able to clean the whole house within a couple of hours - if (s)he did not have to tidy and do other ?everyday? stuff as well.
Neither do I expect to be wholly responsible for food planning and preparation, why should I be?
It is not my job to ?see? when the dishwasher needs emptying and to have to ask again and again. There are others in this house to ?see? mess, and dirty towels, but for too long they have ignored it on the grounds that someone else (yes me) will deal with it. I have explained many times that hanging the bath mat up after use means it gets dry and therefore does not smell, so why not just do it? You all know that dirty glasses/mugs/plates need to go in the dishwasher ? why do I have to ask???? There is no good reason why males cannot spot things that need doing, it shows a total lack of respect that you don?t bother instead preferring to leave it to me.
As for washing, the stuff gets rank. Why should I have to delve into a basket and get it out, why should I have to un-ball foul football socks and separate sweaty (sometimes skid marked) underpants from other clothes etc so they get clean? There is nobody in this house who is incapable of operating the washing machine and folding clean clothes to put away.
I fully accept that I am at home more and that it is easier for me to get some things done but this is done for us as a family not because I am a skivvy. Wouldn?t it be nice if the kitchen was tidy for me to work in starting as soon as people have gone to school/work?
I am fed up of saying things, being acknowledged and then ignored. You all know the types of things which make me feel miserable/cross/stressed ? do none of you care enough about me as a person to avoid them?
There is real contempt in this house and it is shocking that no one seems to care enough to address it. I share the blame for this because I have allowed it to continue but given everyone?s ages and the fact that in order to earn money I need to complete my current work it is time to change things. I have asked a million times for change/help/respect and I am really pissed off that any change is so fleeting. What kind of loving family is this?
Who is going to step up to the mark and make sure change occurs?