to let it bother me so much when couples say "we're pregnant"?

[Schnitzel]

I know this is really petty, but it REALLY gets on my goat. Where did this "we're pregnant" business come from?! I'm probably just being a really miserable git.

YANBU. I've never seen a pregnant man and I don't think I ever will.
I understand where people are comfing from when they want to use we are pregnant, but it still makes me want to barf.
I always say "We are expecting/having a baby" if I want to refer to both of us. But we were most definitely not walking on crutches with PGP and we were also not waking up in the night every 5 mins to go for a wee, nor did we push out 3 babies (not at the same time of course )

YADNBU

We're expecting a baby - fine.

We're pregnant - what a load of inaccurate bollocks.

Besides if WE had been pregnant then WE would have understood the need for clotted cream scones with Jam at 11pm and WE would have gone to the 24 supermarket to get them. However WE WEREN'T pregnant, I was pregnant and you just laughed as I got into the car. Fucker.

i had the perfect pregnancy,if DH had said we were pregnant,i would have cut his balls off,i was pregnant but we were expecting,end of it

Oh god I hate it when people say that.
I've also heard 'we're having a natural birth/water birth'
No you're not, you're watching a natural birth. Idiots.

Agree with last few posters. I am pregnant - therefore I'm doing the hard work. However, at the end of it, WE will have our baby.

How funny me and dh justy watched one of those awfull american "baby stories" seriously where do they drag them up from.They are so twee and idealistic. I told dh if he ever referred to us as being pregnant id thump him.
christmas heave yes,if "we" were pregnant dh would presumably not have asked me to collect a carpet washer the size of a small car...didnt do it..he got it and is busy washing carpets now with his tail between his legs.

Nope, we were expecting but only I was pregnant. Can't day it winds me up tho.

It's factually wrong, and just wrong .

Also hate 'fell pregnant' and 'X is pregnant by Y' like X were a brood mare (unless X actually is a brood mare, obviously).

worse than "fell pregnant" is people who leave out the pregnant bit and just say "when I fell with this one" or "I always fall first time"
so you're clumsy then?

I hate it too. Weirdos.

The question 'what are you expecting?' drives me nuts too. I know they mean is it a girl or boy but clearly the answer is 'a baby' or 'hours of pain'.

Hehe, I can just imagine DH's face if I'd said we were pregnant.

Just to expand (d'you see what I did there?) on the theme, DD1 got to phone her grandparents when I was expecting DD3 and tell them 'We're going to have a new baby.' The 'we' in this case being me, DH, DD1 and DD2. It's a much more useful (and less twee) expression than 'We're pregnant.'

"I've said 'we're pregnant' before, not with my own children but when gestating surrogate pregnancies, it seems the right thing to say when telling a woman for the first time that her child is growing in me."

That is so lovely, MumIn

I agree with the other, it's just a weird thing to say. There are other ways to say it if you want to include both parents "X & Y are expecting/having a baby"

"it's a joint venture and so that the men will have to do stuff like not drink"

PMSL :o

It's bad enough not being able to drink yourself - to have to give up vicarious drinking too!

"'X is pregnant by Y' "

Worse again is the Dublin speciality

"X is pregnant FOR Y"

Jaysus

don't mind it
Just means he is as keen as she is as opposed to his reaction being "TELL ME IT'S NOT TRUE"

It's awful - I can't bear it either.

Although the worst thing I ever heard was my (creepy) colleague sidling up to me and saying "I hear you are with child, many congratulations" - [vomit inducing smilie]

'With child' always makes me giggle, it's so delightfully old-fashioned and nearly always said light-heartedly in my 'circles'. I think 'we're pregnant' is cringey and 'we are trying to get pregnant' also, which I heard from an American colleague the other day. Only a mild irritation though, she's said much worse things than that! MAybe if it is said by someone you already find really annoying it just adds to the list of things to hold agains them!

nothing's as bad as "in pig". Nothing.

X is pregnant for Y?

Seriously?

big big bleeuuggh!!

YANBU - it really irritates me too.

I was always the pregnant one, not DH!

Elephants well, indeed. What's wrong with "up the stick" fgs?

None of this, however, compares to the boundless irritation I feel at people who say 'baby' instead of 'the baby'. 'This is where baby will sleep.' 'We got the cutest little outfit for baby.' 'I expect I will spontaneously combust with smugness once baby is born.' nnnnnngggggggggggggg

DarkStar - did you see Miranda last week? I linked above. The couple in that were just the epitome of that "talk to Baby!" "little vesties!" etc, gaaaah.

How about a bit of Paul (W)Anka - "you're having my baby, what a lovely way of saying how much you love me"?

frakkin - yep, terrible isn't it?

Also "X is having a baby for Y" :o

IN PIG?

You win Ele

So if it's 'we' who are pregnant, presumably 'we' will be giving birth, getting stitches, having forceps inserted into 'us', maybe a joint c-section? Misandry my eye.

Boakworthy, as is the misandry comment.

That 'X is pregnant for Y' one is something you'd also hear in inner city areas of the US.

Really? Of all the irrational things that annoy me this really isn't one them. Believe me, DH was well aware that I was the one suffering when I was pg