to let it bother me so much when couples say "we're pregnant"?

[Schnitzel]

I know this is really petty, but it REALLY gets on my goat. Where did this "we're pregnant" business come from?! I'm probably just being a really miserable git.

YANBU, it's awful!

Yanbu. Bleggghh.

too smuggo for words

Yanbu. Really annoys me!

Nope I absolutely cannot stand it either, it makes me cringe.

We never said this either - DH did in the early stages let people know that I was pregnant so as to explain why I was constantly pea-green and clammy with nausea, i.e. not contagious, why he couldn't go out with his mates (because he was cooking endless batches of homemade pasta sauce for me which was all I could keep down) and so on. He was probably more 'we' about it than a lot of men, but the phrase is just cringeworthy. I don't think saying 'we're pregnant' has anything to do with commitment to parenting - that comes when he handles the atomic nappy from hell without flinching.

I called my friends and said "I'm up the duff" Sounds much better to me ha ha

A member of my family announced that they were having a baby by emailing everyone a scan picture captioned - look what we did! and thats a green sick face btw!

Made me think "shag lots? Good for you, any idot can do that"

Yup they also said we are pregnant!

Smuggy smug smugs!

twee coupley we share everything bullshit-cringetastic

fwiw,he wont have a baby dancing on his bladder,or oedematous ankles.nor will he ponder lie awake at night bricking it thinking how it will come out

Oh FFS.

I used all the time the phrase ' we are pregnant'. DH cringed a bit and always said that it is ME who is pg, as he did 'not alot'. But, he was the father. He was the one who cared for me while pg. We had some teething problems when the baby was born, b/c he was so shell shocked at the reality of a baby., but the fact is, he WAS the father, he IS the father, and why should anyone deby that? I think that to deny a father the 'right' to say 'we are pregnant' is fucking misandrist. It does not always happen in a vaccume or in a test tube...sometim a man is involved too.

I would not have been pregnant without him. I would have been a mother without him. Why discount his involvement?

I usually turn to the man and do an exaggerated "are you"seems to really fluster themlooking for an answer.

See... I was so annoyed I forgot to proofread.

YANBU.
Dh keeps trying to tell me that "we" are pregnant.
He's not a wanker or a knob, but I don't see his bump, or stretchmarks, and I certainly don't see him beached on the settee like a big whale!
I love him very much, but when he says tossy things like that, I really have to stop myself from punching him!

misandrist Only if you think Mother Nature/evolution/deity of your choice is discriminating against men by only giving wombs to one half of the species...

Basic biology says the "we're pregnant" brigade are entirely wrong. One person is pregnant. And that would be the woman. The father provides the sperm, not the womb.

I hate the expresssion "fell pregnant" with as much fervour.

Most people don't fall anywhere when getting pregnant.......

"We" can be "expecting a baby" etc, but not pregnant, FFS. It's hardly misandrist to refuse to endorse the misrepresentation of biological reality.

If you want to say we can say "we are having a baby"

Is English your second language Fizzy?

Yes actually.

So explain the subtleties because I genuinely don't see it.

2 people are usually involved with a pregnancy, no?

Yes. But one gestates the foetus and pushes it out of their vagina.

If "we" are pregnant, does that mean "we" had the erection? 'coz I never had one, but now I think about it, seems kind of unfair, after all sex involves two people...

Good analogy.

Not a good analogy, women get erections too, we just don't stick them inside anything usually.

I agree with Fizzy. I have a wonderful supportive partner, I don't get morning sickness and my mild cravings mean he gets little say in me dragging him out for dinner. I have to inject through pregnancy which he takes a turn at when my skin is so sore I can't reach a part that's not. I have premature labours with weeks of contractions, he has slept on the floor by the side of my hospital bed, trawled a city he doesn't know to get new clothes for me when I was transferred unexpectedly with only the day clothes I was wearing with me. He put up with me punching him in my sleep every time I had a contraction for almost 3 months. He spent hours at the hospital before and after work to be with me and our baby. In my eyes he is entitled to own this pregnancy, I couldn't ask for more.