to let it bother me so much when couples say "we're pregnant"?

[Schnitzel]

I know this is really petty, but it REALLY gets on my goat. Where did this "we're pregnant" business come from?! I'm probably just being a really miserable git.

Mummytoatribe, with all respect, and your DH sounds so nice -- if he was actually pregnant and going through the pregnancy end experiencing blow by blow what you are, physically, he wouldn't be able to support you, and the pair of you would have to hire someone to help out.

"It is simply biologically inaccurate, not to mention unspeakably twee, to use that expression when there are others which will suffice and simultaneously not make the man sound like a controlling wanker."
I'm glad it's not just me, I totally agree.

Or is the "we" the royal "we"? Indeed, if that is the case perhaps the mum-to-be should say "one is pregnant"

The pedant in me finds "we are pregnant" annoying and factually incorrect. The common sense in me just finds the expression ridiculous.

Bit off topic but

I also hate we can't afford for me to work !!

Usually said by people who have had two planned close together and therefore knew that the childcare fees would never be an option.

Therefore they chose not to work or don't agree with both partners working in the first place. That's fine of course but don't hide behind those words.

Do "we" have piles,constipation,spd and an arse like a pink cushion? No in fact "we" do not do "we"?
I am suffering from 3rd trimester husband hatred tho so i wouldnt be too pleased with anything he said at the mo.

It's incorrect and untrue. "We're expecting a baby" is acceptable. Do "we" have stitches afterwards?

I favour "knocked up"

I am so glad to read this thread. I find it the most annoying expression out.

My friend stunned me when she started saying 'we are pregnant' it was so pretentious.
And she was the worst ever for PFB - it got to the point where the father was not allowed to make any decisions about 'their' baby and she actually said infront of me "The only way we can continue with out constantly arguing is for you (her DH) to do everything as I say.

I was apalled. 'We' my arse!!

It makes me want to barf and I think it is usually the woman including the man in the whole thing rather than the other way round, and kind of indulging him by giving him credit for the mammoth task of actually being pg etc.

cringe vom and nafftastic

I hate it too - I work in an all girl office, we often talk about our pregnancies/births - one girl always refers to her pregnancy (her dd is 3) as 'when WE were pregnant.....'

It irritates the hell out of me!

Horrible term. Simply horrid.

Do we have piles/ knackered genitals/ crushed pelvises/ heartburn/ constant nausea/ swollen ankles/ repeated UTIs/ strong craving for booze and stilton?

No. We only do the lovely baby-growing bit. For the rest, you're on yer own, lady.

I hate it! We tried for a baby for 2.5 years, had 2 ectopics, 1 miscarriage, numerous fertility tests and still it was ME that was pregnant not we. It does my head it when I hear it.

Now it drives me nuts when friends say "Team .... (whatever their surname is)". Or is it just me?

No, I hate that 'team whatever' bollocks too. Although to be fair to pregnant people, I hate it in any context e.g. all that 'team Aniston/team Jolie' shite a few years ago.

What's wrong with the good old "I'm up the duff?"

This saying annoys me so much and always makes me cringe when I hear it! I also think it sounds quite desperate.
Yes to "we're having a Baby"

Up the duff comes from an old term for a penis being "pudding". A woman who was pregnant was said to be in the "pudding club". Another word/ pronunciation for dough is duff. Same origin as "bun in the oven".

(up the) duff -> dough -> pudding -> penis -> pregnant

Hate it 100% Female is pregnant - Man fathered the baby !

We call ourselves Team PanicMode in jest when we're out, or when we're about to cross a road with the children - but then there are 6 of us so I think that's fair.....

surely if "We are trying to get pregnant" is acceptable, then "We are pregnant" must also be acceptable.

I think it may help men be more involved, stop smoking & make other supportive lifestyle changes. Wild assumptions but I bet the couples that say "We are pregnant" don't then have the fella playing cricket every weekend after the baby comes, or expect his partner to do everything around the house when she is on maternity leave etc.

'We are trying to get pregnant' is just as bad imo. Only one has any hope of succeeding after all...

but its a joint effort .......

We said "we're pregnant" because it seemed appropriate for us.

I think it is very easy for the father to feel pushed and irrelevant, like he's done his bit and now he's no longer needed. DH was an amazing support through my pregnancy and it would have been very different without him.

I think saying "we're pregnant" is a simple but lovely way of acknowledging that it takes two peoeple to make a baby.

Hate it! 'We're pregnant' is just factually inaccurate and vomit inducing!

I think it's an effort to mollify men who are feeling left out of the spotlight. Why not acknowledge the concrete support a H or p gives while still asserting that yes, it's actually the person with the uterus who is pregnant -- "I'm pregnant, H/P is a mensch/ doing a brilliant job of ensuring my welfare and that of our baby. I couldn't do it without him (and he couldn't do it without me)".

It also makes me wonder how anyone managed to get pregnant at all, given the apparent lack of knowledge of The Facts Of Life the phrase implies.

"like he's done his bit and now he's no longer needed"

but he has done his bit and is no longer needed!!

once you're up the duff what more can the man do until he becomes a father???