the horrible woman in this week's grazia who doesnt want kids because...

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...she is scared of getting fat and ruining her figure and getting a -i can barely type these words- "bucket vagina"

aibu to think she is a silly shallow bitch and be really angry with her for peddling her horrible opinions in public? its up to the individual whether they want kids or not but what a nasty, shallow reason to not want them :( and how insulting to mothers reading that. she is a 35 year old woman who seemed reasonably intelligent, not some silly WAG-type 20 year old that one would maybe expect to hear this kind of shit from.

does she not realise that she won't have her perfect body forever anyway, gravity catches up in the end regardless of whether she has kids or not. and i would rather have an "imperfect" body and my lovely kids any day. did anyone else read it? it made my blood boil.

I knew someone like her - I always felt that, as she ages her body will deteriorate and her libido could disappear and she'll be left with no kids because she's so worried about her body.

Bodies all go to pot, but memories of our children stay forever!

Yep, I agree with most of the comments and thankfully she's not going to breed. As for the fanny bashing Pelvic floor exercises anyone?! When I remember to do them a few days in a row the difference is delightful!

I think bucket fanny is really offensive.

Couldn't really give a shit whether she reproduces or not.

exactly, everyone ages, everyone gets old, everyone gets saggy, doesnt matter if you have kids or not. ok sometimes it might happen a bit quicker if you get pregnant and give birth, but no one stays young and beautiful forever.

if she doesnt want children,fair enough,it isnt biological destiny or the only fulfiling thing a woman can do

and if she feels currently that baby is too much of an impingement for whatever reason at least she currently acknowledges that.would be worse if a wee baby was an interruption or burdensome

all this she may be slime and attractive now but it wont last,is a red herring doesn't mater.as her current pov is dont want children

Oooh Matthew Wright has stolen this idea and this is coming up next on his show.

oooh when's it on

good. that's natural selection. she won't be passing on her genes to future generations. thank God

It'll be on in a few mins now.

The woman concerned probably can't find a man committed enough to her to have a baby with her... evil

Your body does go downhill after children. Do you all really not have some degree of a bucket vagina? I do (hence the temporary name change). Definitely couldn't expel ping pong balls from there under high velocity, and it is much more roomy than it used to be.

She is shallow to cite these particular reasons for not wanting children - age is going to catch up with the vain creature soon in any case.

3 words ladies ..... pelvic floor exercises !

Honestly i dont know where she gets the idea from. Its not having babies that ruins your body...its an assumption that it wont change with age.
If you assume that then you wont excercise and will end up gaining more weight than you should (even given that you are pre determined to gain weight with age/hormones ect)

Ive had 5 births...and i have a very flat stomach with visable muscles (6 pack) ....Of course its not without work , and after the birth of the twins i had to work a bit harder than normal to get back to flat.

What the op is saying is shes a lazy person who doesnt want to put effort in .
Good thing she doesnt want kids....keeps her out of the gene pool.
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dont know what folk getting so stressy about.so she doesnt wamt children

well good for her,an unwanted resented child is a terrible experience

and her reason well thats up to her!

just as someone chuntering om i am woman i am mother i am goddess just cause they had a baby is lot of chuff too

the icky over described descriptions of i feel so complete/fulfilled/at peace now i am mum are really irksome

The woman concerned probably can't find a man committed enough to her to have a baby with her

A man's liklihood of impregnating a lady does not have a direct correlation with how committed to her he is. And vice versa in same cases. You only have to go and read the Relationship forum to see that. ;)

I think if they are her reasons then fine, if she really wanted children her body changing wouldn't stop her , as shallow as it may seem how you look can have a big effect on how you feel and to some people looking good is important , I love my ds but everytime I see my stretchmarked pouchy tummy I feel awful , maybe she feels she has to justify not wanting children like I have to justify only wanting one . A lot of people with children can't understand why so
e people don't like or don't want children and no matter how shallow her reasons may seem they are her reasons and should be respected

"Ive had 5 births...and i have a very flat stomach with visable muscles (6 pack)"

Hurls brickbats at droves

Her loss.

IMO

I feel sorry for her. She has absorbed the non-stop invasive and mysoginist commentary in which womens' bodies are scrutinised and criticised post-pregnancy, and horrible speculation about vaginas by immature porn-addicted teenage boys / men who need to grow up.

In fact there is no evidence to show that childbirth makes much difference to a vagina in the long run.

I was wondering about that Blu. On the mooncup sizing for example if a woman is over 30 years old she needs the bigger size of mooncup, whether she has had children or not.

So she's going to have (or already has, I don't know her age) a bucket vagina anyway, poor girl.

how can your fanjo get bigger merely because you are over 30?

i don't know if its true or not that childbirth stretches your fanjo as i have only had c sections. if it does i doubt its that noticeable anyway. although when i first got with my DP and started sleeping with him he used to be a bit, erm, premature and said it was because i was much tighter than his ex who had had a few kids. but that might have just been an excuse :o

s'a muscular area, innit. Muscle stuff sags when you get older, as it gets weaker, collagen gets looser (hence wrinkles occur) - so it's going to probably get a bit buckety anyway. Ha!

so therefore if you do pelvic floors you should still keep it tight! regardless of kid or no kids, age or whatever.

but having said that, i strongly wish a MASSIVE bucket fanny on the woman in the article :o

Pretty much, I'd say - exercise is the only thing to keep muscles toned! It won't work forever though - the collagen eventually lets you down.

And I agree

But don't we all know what size we are anyway from the size of speculum we need....?

i dont look jan :o

droves please tell me what excercises you do, im desperate to get back into shape but dont really know where to start