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AIBU?

to hate it when people who can't or won't drive talk about "lift shares"

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soggy14 · 17/11/2010 14:18

I'm not talking about friends here who I may offer a lift to but various colleagues/acquaintances etc. who sign up to go somewhere/do something and then announce that they "don't drive" and so need a "lift share". I hate this. It not sharing when it is all give on one side and take on the other.

It seems that not being a driver for whatever reason somehow makes it okay for you to cadge off other people all the time and those of us who have bothered to learn to drive or who have prioritised buying a car are supposed to enjoy having someone else in the passenger seat.

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IonaNE · 02/05/2016 16:05

YANBU. What you say in your post, OP, describing how you saved to learn to drive and drove a cheap car.

To those who say "some people can't afford to learn to drive and to buy a car": I would like to see how much these "some people" spend on convenience food, alcohol and holidays. Also I bought my first car in the UK in 2004 for £250, so please don't tell me people can't afford to buy a car.

SauvignonBlanche · 02/05/2016 16:08

In 2004 IonaNE? That's still 4 years after the OP was written.

SauvignonBlanche · 02/05/2016 16:10

Apologies, I'm getting my year mixed up - still ancient history.

AuditAngel · 02/05/2016 16:53

I went out with friends last week, very late, in central London. I asked what the plans were for getting home. Not because I didn't want to drive, but because I didn't know where to park (easy to solve) and more importantly because I didn't want to be going back to my car alone at 2am.

One of the others said they were driving, I offered to drive as my car is larger, but she said she as happy to drive as she doesn't drink.

In the event, there would be 5 of us to come home, so she asked if I was sure I was happy to drive? I would have preferred o have a couple of drinks, but not as much as I wanted to travel in a group with the other ladies.

I was offered petrol money, which I always refuse as I have a company car and my fuel is all paid for me. I will offer/accept parking money.

bimbobaggins · 02/05/2016 17:05

Soggy havent rtftbut from what i have read the drivers think ynbu and the non drivers think yabu!

I drive and i would offer an occasional life if requird but would not like it to be expected of me and would appreciate the offer of a couple of pounds toward petrol.

Arfarfanarf · 02/05/2016 17:05

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Sparklingbrook · 02/05/2016 17:08

Shall we fire up the DeLorean and go back to 2010? I had an 11 year old and an 8 year old back then and not grumpy teens.

SauvignonBlanche · 02/05/2016 17:08

In this?

Sparklingbrook · 02/05/2016 17:09

Or this?

to hate it when people who can't or won't drive talk about "lift shares"

ChocolateStash · 02/05/2016 17:26

YANBU. I never realised, it was such a problem until I read so many threads on mn about it. I've seen a lot of threads on mn recently, asking how to learn to do certain manoeuvres. They really would be best to, get professional lessons, so they learn how to do it properly. If you can't afford the lessons, how would you be able to afford the running of a car, it's a vicious circle I suppose. I have been appalled, when I see threads about pregnant women (if they & their oh don't drive), asking how to get to the hospital when in labour, and posters advise her to call an ambulance

ChocolateStash · 02/05/2016 17:30

A FFS! IT'S A ZOMBIE THREAD

ChocolateStash · 02/05/2016 17:36

We're really late to the party. embo1 why did you drag this thread up 6 years later?
ZOMBIE THREAD ZOMBIE THREAD ZOMBIE THREAD ZOMBIE THREAD ZOMBIE THREAD

Arfarfanarf · 02/05/2016 17:41

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bibbitybobbityyhat · 02/05/2016 18:19

It drives me mad that so many Mumsnetters only read the op before wading in. Bloody bonkers I tells ya!

GraysAnalogy · 02/05/2016 19:21

Well sometimes I really cannot be arsed trawling through ten + pages.

Sparklingbrook · 02/05/2016 19:23

I think when a thread appears in Trending and i have never seen the title before but it turns out to be pages long it must be a Zombie.

bibbitybobbityyhat · 02/05/2016 19:27

You don't need to trawl through 10+ pages though! All you need to do is read the last page and see what's what. I would also read all the op's posts too, but that's me.

Why would you post on a 10 page thread anyway? You're hardly likely to have anything of interest new to say.

GraysAnalogy · 02/05/2016 20:01

Yeah that's you, some of us don't post like that

Why would you post on a 10 page thread anyway? You're hardly likely to have anything of interest new to say.

Thanks for that

bibbitybobbityyhat · 02/05/2016 20:48

I do wonder, quite genuinely, why anyone would suddenly post for the first time on a very long thread though. I really do mean that you (one) is unlikely to have anything fresh to say.

If it's a "what did you have for dinner" factual sort of thing, fair enough. If someone is asking for opinions, or aibu, then there is no chance that you are going to be saying anything interesting after a few hundred posts. So why bother?

BIWI · 02/05/2016 21:17

It's incredibly arrogant to think that you can read the OP and then ignore loads of other posters/pages, to then post your own thoughts.

Like you can't imagine that anyone else would have said what you've said. Or that other posters would have said it tens of times over.

Read. The. Fucking. Thread.

And only then post, if you have something different to add.

YonicTrowel · 02/05/2016 21:32

I realised it was a zombie on p1, but it's a timeless MN issue, so I read it anyway.

TwentyCupsOfTea · 02/05/2016 22:03

It's not just money for the petrol though Is it. If you give a colleague a lift every day, even assuming you drive straight by their house, EVEN IF they pay for petrol you have still paid for your driving lessons; your driving test; purchase of your car; upkeep of your car (ie,services and repair); oil and other necessaries like power steering fluid; wash and valet for the vehicle (even if you do it yourself); the road rax; the car insurance; parking costs and mot certificate!!

The other person benefits from all this without even scratching the surface of the cost!
Not to mention the fact you carry the burden of successfully getting the person there accident free.

There is a reason taxi fare is more than just petrol money, and that's before taking into account the fact they are trying to make a living!
Disclaimer: I may be unreasonably angry about this due to being practically the only person I know with a car (and cheapskate 'friends')...

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TwentyCupsOfTea · 02/05/2016 22:05

WHY HAS A ZOMBIE THREAD DESIGNED TO GIVE ME RAGE BEEN RE INGNITED??

As you were MN!

BIWI · 02/05/2016 22:06

But why didn't you read it first, before you posted?

TwentyCupsOfTea · 02/05/2016 22:09

I read 7 pages and then my blood reached boiling levels

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