To not replace something that i havent seen

[Ray81]

We went on holiday back in August and my sister who is 18 looked after my house.
She had a party which she didnt ask to have and evidently one of her friends left a Ipod docking station here.

She asked me for it last week and i told her there was nothing like that in my house (although didnt know what i was looking for tbh). Now i had a real blitz when i got back from hols and was alittle worried i had thrown it out by mistake, i do tend to just go into auto pilot when clearing out. I said to her perhaps i had and thinking it would be £20 or so that i would replace it. I only said that because i couldnt be sure i hadnt thrown it away ifswim. Well she has come back to me saying it is £350 and showing me what it looked like. I havent seen it and have looked ALL over my house.

I havent got that amount of money and i dont think i should replace something that for one i honestly cannot remember seeing and 2 that wasnt my responsibility in the first place.

So AIBU to say NO i am not replacing it. surely if something is that expensive you shouldnt even take it out of your own home and be that careless with it. Whats to say he hasnt left it somewhere else and my house was the last time he could remember seeing it.

If your family are serious about this mythical docking station business, then the police should give them the crime reference number to link the two claims together. No need for you to get involved.

When someone mentioned about claiming for things outside the home, I think the poster meant that the OWNER can make this claim, not the OP. For example, our camera is covered when we take it outside the home. Posters are correct, the OP cannot claim on her insurance, even if she wanted to - the mythical dock was not hers and she doesn't have an "insurable interest" in it, so it would have to be the owner who claimed.

and QS is absolutely right too

I would tell her that the crime reference number refers to the theft of your jewellry and money, so will be of no assistance to her in claiming for the iPod dock. Tell her she is more than welcome to contact the police about the iPod dock herself, but that you will be confirming to the police that neither the dock nor the owner had your permission to be in your house at the time of its disappearance.

sounds like a scam my little brother would try n pull.

i should add that it also sounds like xmas is coming and little sis wants an ipod docking station/ monetary equivalent. or her mate does. would explain the time delay.

Your family are behaving like utter dickwads.

Glad you're sticking up to them!

Lots of good advice here.

Nothing about your sisters story sounds right tbh, what a little cow who deserves a big old slap really!

BOSE system? for an 18 yo?

Yeah right!

Bloody hell! There should be a crater round your house from the explosion of .

My bet is that one of the other party goers walked off with it.

If its the dock hissyfit linked to, believe me you couldn't miss it!

Fucking awful what your sister and family are doing! Fucking awful

I also wouldn´t text anything.

You are sorting out your lost items.

It is up to the friend-not even your sister imo to sort out their own lost item.

please stop contact with them. delete texts/emails without reading them and hide them on fb

they sound like a bunch of bullies and are doing you no favours at all

There is no sensible reason not to supply the crime number. I would seriously advise doing so. Not to do so would imply you're lying / have something to hide. You have to be absolutely straight with them or you are colluding in their fantasy that you are in some way at fault.

It's possible there was a Bose dock. There's no reason why there wasn't an 18 year old with rich parents. Although the fact that s/he showed no respect for it and got it nicked might give them pause before they splash out that much again.

I don't understand why they need your reference number. Surely they don't?

Please bar messages and calls from your family, and focus now on the family that love and care for you.

Certainly do not say that you will replace the bloody docking station if they replace your lost items, or under any circumstances.

I'm sorry, but to me it sounds like your sister may be the thief. This is all far too overblown and she is being so demanding and rude that she is trying to cover her guilt. Of course, that guilt could be down to the fact that she killed your birds and had a party in your house, but I'm not sure.

I don't understand. Is your sister going to go to the police station and say "Someone (not me) left an iPod docking station at a house they did not have permission to be in back in August and now we can't find it" and expect them to do something about it?

What is she expecting? Won't the police just go "Umm... ?"

Have they only your word that you have been to the police? I am wondering if they are trying to find out if you are telling the truth if they haven't heard from the police yet themselves? By their reckoning, if you have been to the police you will have a ref. number but if you are bluffing you won't. Not true of course but they are a bit dumb and still think you will cave.

Tell your 'D'sis to contact the police for it as the police want to speak to her anyway and she can match it up herselves.

'a bit dumb'. Sorry understatement of the year. They are class A fuckwits.

"There is no sensible reason not to supply the crime number. I would seriously advise doing so. Not to do so would imply you're lying"

Because the OP is claiming for her own stuff.

Why do they need the number?

Why won´t they just believe her?

They already think she´s a liar it seems so why would pandering to them change anything?

Op does not (imo) need to justify herself or try to prove anything to her family.

They have shown what they think of her & I don´t think anything will change that.

She would be much better off without any of them in her life.
(Again, imo)

I can assure you that bose system was NEVER at your house.

Dont you think the partygoers would have a realized if somebody stole the music?

Dont your sister realize you would not have accidentally thrown that out with the rubbish?

Your own sister is trying to frame you.
And you should cut contact and not stand for that.

Write her a letter. A very level headed and calm letter. We can help you.
And in this letter explain clearly what you expected of her, what she has done, and what the outcome will be.

Explain that you will not be held responsible for equipment that had allegedly been left at your house by people who had no business at your house. In your view your sister is trying to frame you and obtain money on false pretences, either from you personally, or by putting in a fraudulent claim for equipment you only have her word for having been at your property. You will not let yourself be bullied, or treated in this way, and for this reason you see no other option but to disclose the entire story to both the police and your family, and cut your contact with her until she has matured enough to take responsibility for her own actions.

You would not have thrown out any docking station/sound system, even with the cheapest of the cheap, it is perfectly clear that they are some sort of speaker/electrical equiptment.

I wouldn't be deleting any texts though. If this escalates (and it's possible it might once they realise they are being backed into a corner and their 'story' is falling apart at the seams) you may need the texts for evidence fo harassment/lies. I wouldn't bother replying to them.

If this docking station exists (which is doubtful in my mind) they need to deal with the police about it, not you.

One thought though, have you considered asking for the phone number of the docking station owners parents? My bet is they know nothing of this missing ipod dock or party.

I second the idea of a letter QS - and I would love to have the chance of writing it, too - I know I am not the only one that would like a chance to tell the OP's family a thing or two!

You're definitely not the only one. I am composing the letter in my head as I type this!

It is a bit of a shame really that we can't all type a version. Can you imagine - hundreds of letters arriving at the same time all calling their bluff.

It would be a bit like Harry Potter when all the letters arrive at his uncle and aunts house from Hogwarts.

They'll believe her if the police come calling on (D)Sis to ask questions. I wouldn't supply anything frankly- it's none of hers or her friends' business except as potential suspects. This whole story is hideous.

QS -- your post is absolutely right, quite right.

Yes, your sister is trying to frame you and your family is colluding. Cut them off, be alert for harrassment and look after yourself.