Just another day of being a skivvy

[SpareRoomSleeper]

Had a heated argument with DH. This has become pretty common of late.

I said " You dont ever ask me or take an interest in what DD or I have been doing all day."

To which he replied:

"You dont DO anything all day."

It stopped me dead im my tracks.
I'm a stay at home mum, with a DD of 19 months. I cook all the meals, I do all the cleaning (he is a clean freak so I have high standards to keep to), I do all his laundry, I do all the ironing, and I do all the childcare. Morning, day, evening, bedtime, bathtime, night time waking, doctors, playgroups etc etc. I even make him his cups of tea - he never ventures into the kitchen.

I do all this because I see it as a job; he works outside, I work at home.

But the fact that he has this attitude towards my role is what kills me.

I got so angry Ive told him Im going away to my mums for a week and Im leaving DD in his full time care.

Am I being unreasonable?

p.s: I carried your beautiful child in my belly for nine months, and then had a horrific 16 hour labour in front of your very eyes and lost litres of blood. Rememeber all that, you fucking tosspot?

Spare Room - go to bed. Post again tomorrow to let us know about the interview and how you're feeling after a good night's sleep.

BED

But im on a role.

Roll?

see you're so tired you can't spell

Rolos. Hmmmm, Yummy.

Im soo tired.

Who's the letter to ?

ROFL @ newave " when he comes in have music on and be smiling broadly, if he asks you what you are so happy about say "nothing really" it will screw up his mind"

sshhhhh

To my darling husband.

That should go in quote of the week.

but you lot are all awake! Why should I

Sorry!

I would LOVE to a be a fly on the wall and watch him suffer this time next week

she got over excited, you gave her some attention and now she's having a tantrum!

see what you've all done?

it'll take hours to settle her again!

Good luck for tomorrow

Everything you & pink are saying is ringing true for me too - could have almost written your posts myself- re twunt DH who has zero respect for me or my time or my role as a mother, speaks to his mother terribly and twists everything so I seem ungrateful and at fault

I have left him to it at home for a few days, no food in etc, and I'm at my mums with the baby. Couldn't leave the baby with him not fair on my LO.

If no improvements in attitude (that lasts more than a couple of days- been there before) then I've told his mother he can move back home with her for a while.

I'm not being treated like this- or allowing my child to think that this behaviour is normal.

We have only been together for a few years, but really I think that is no excuse no matter how much time his mother thinks he needs "to adjust to it all"

Hope you have a great time at your parents & a chance to think things through & that you get your job offer!

Also, you fucking git, remember when you were ill for a year and was jobless and so low on confidence you didnt ever want to leave the house? Who stood beside you then, you turd. And we wernt even married then, you scumbag. How dare you.

I'm meant to be going to sleep too but I haven't had a conversation with a human in days (although the cat does always agree with me) and ice got lots on my mind!
(bad influence me!)

But Im writing a letter!

SO You fucker, remember that I have always been the one to carry you through your shitty times. And now that I am at home not working and more dependent on you than I like to be, you are taking full advantage of it and kicking me while im down, you twisted twunt.

Good luck SpareRoom, thinking of you!

I am not liking his behaviour before your interview at all, has he done other things to undermine your confidence?

Hello littlemiss...thank you x

No...not really..He just likes to say in fights that I dont "do" anything, and that I should get a job. He knows im trying to though, so thats just arsy.