Sorry have been off interacting with the dcs.
Primary carer doesn't mean the person who is unemployed. In my situation both h and I work full time. I would be the person to take time off work for the dcs were they ill, but other than that the majority of stuff is split fifty fifty. Were we to split up I would hope for a joint custody arrangement with the dcs resident at both houses. Since they are fully cared for by both of us.
In a situation where even when home one parent is not involved in the child rearing they would not be considered the primary carer.
Your comment on childcarers getting residency is factetious and doesn't really warrant a response, since no child carer is claiming parental responsibility for your child,
Being unemployed, and staying home with pre-school children as a joint decision are two very different things.
I still don't quiite understand your point, other than that you clearly believe parents should have equal rights regardless of gender. Something that I think most people support. I certainly do.
However you will not garner support for your argument by arguing that something inherently and obviously unfair is right, on the basis that you perceive something else to be unfair.
It's never a simple thing. People are individuals and during a split people can behave irrationally. But again the most important thing must always be the welfare of the children. And in most instances keeping things as close to normal for them is the ideal. If the father is the primary carer and deals with schools, illness, all the little things more than the mother, then he should remain the primary carer.