my best friend has picked her wedding date..

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the exact month i am due to give birth. weve tried to explain to her that it will be difficult for me to travel up to scotland from London but she has dug her heels in. she wants that month knowing too well there is a strong chance i will not be able to make it! am i being unreasonable for falling out with her over this?

I wouldn't fall out with her
just explain that you don't think you'll be able to come
perhaps it's the only time they can make it with their own families etc
if I'd have booked my wedding around other peoples due dates, holidays etc I'd never have got married!

yabu.

dont fall out with your best friend.

how close is her date to your due date?

YABU.

Why would you be her priority for her wedding? OK you can't go, but you can still be happy for her.

yabu

And "the exact month". There are only 12 in a year, how exact can a month be? Get a grip.

YABU to fall out with her. Weddings usually involve getting a lot of friends and family together on the same day. I think you're being rather self-centred assuming that she has booked the date deliberately to exclude you.

Depends. Is she insistant that you attend, no matter what? Maybe the month means something? Anniversary/birthday/will look nice on the invites? Is she trying to save money and choosing the cheapest month going?

YANBU to be disappointed but YABU to fall out with your best friend. This is her wedding day and it is just as important as your new baby will be.

think you would be silly to fall out as you will potentially lose a friend. its a shame you won't be able to go but i guess she must have reasons for wanting that date? i guess if you were really early you might just about be able to make it. is she allowing children?

I wouldn't be falling out with a friend over her wedding. She may have considerations other than your pregnancy eg. availability of dates at the location she wants.

Yes, you may not be able to travel but then again you may! I would take as much interest as I could in her wedding plans but also let her know you may not manage however much you may want to.

If she has a problem with this the she is being unreasonable!

YABVU! Why are you a priority? Send her your good wishes and see the photos afterwards.

YABU - unless she wants you to be a bridesmaid or something. Just say, sorry, we'll have to decline, I won't be able to be that far away from home that close to the due date.

then send a nice card.

Can you really be that close if one of you lives in London and the other in Scotland ? Maybe you've grown apart

As Saffy says it is dependant on whether whe will expect you to attend, or whether it is just that you are pissed off you can't make it.

It is her wedding, her choice.

YABU.

As the others have said, be happy for her but explain you won't be able to go (then she will be on here asking 'AIBU to expect my heavily pregnant BF to come to my wedding'

You definitely should not fall out over a wedding date. If she is your best freind than this should go deeper than a date. Just say that you will not be able to make it, buy a nice gift and card for her, and enjoy your imending arrival.

I wouldn't fall out with her over it. She is entitled to have her wedding whenever she wants. She will just have to accept that you will be of limited help to her in the run up to the wedding as you will be heavily pregnant and will be unlikely to attend. I know I wouldn't have been up for travelling when close to my due date. I wanted to stay close to home just in case I went into labour.

If your friend doesn't have DC, then she probably doesn't understand how it feels when you are heavily pg.

YABU, although I guess you assumed you'd have a role? Well you do, but it involves getting your legs akimbo

Be happy for her. Babies are early and late plus there's the nb stage, so there'd be about 3m she couldn't book her wedding if she only had you to consult! There are a whole host of factors she's had to consider, venue availability and time off work probably the highest. Accept it gracefully, you both have exciting events coming up!

I understand that you're upset that you won't be able to make it, but you are being unreasonable.

When we picked our wedding date, it was the only date that was suitable for our venue, and the registrar, and the photographer, and the florist, and our close relatives, and us, and that avoided a massive sporting event near the venue.

Not everyone was able to make that date, but you can never find a date that everyone will make.

pregzilla

YABU - unless she is going to insist that you come, and strop if you don't. If she's fine about the fact that you won't be able to come - and I don't think I would go, in your position - then there's no problem. If she starts demanding you be a bridesmaid, and stay in Scotland with her for a week or something, then she is BU.

Why can't you go? you can book a hotel room and just go back as and when you're ready.
Although maybe I've blocked out what it feels like to be heavily pregnant...

YABU to fall out over it.

I missed 2 weddings (one who was a best friend) as they were close to my due date. I just told them i probably couldn't make it.