To think nurses should be professional!

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I am so bloody mad! My Nan had a stroke last week, i went to see her today i thought telling the doctors who are looking after her that i have an hereditary thrombophilia, mutation that causes more blood clots, So i went to the nurses station.

The nurse said "hello can i help you?" i said "yes i would like to inform a doctor that i have a hereditary condition that causes blood clots, as my nan has just had a stroke

She sniggered at me!

Aibu to think she should be shot in the head for being such an idiot!!!!

No sorry i lost my cool, AIBU to think nurses should be professional and not laugh at people who are concerned for their relatives, especially when they are attempting to give them relevant medical background?!

fine be cross everyone is entitled to feel riled . God knows I do at least 10x a day,
but I do not slag off someone on the net. if I am that put out I take it up appropriately.

The nurse may not have been sniggering. If thats the case she is not allowed to defend herself.

If she was sniggering - that isn't acceptable and slating her anonymously will achieve nothing.

Neither of those scenarios is just or constructive.

And I still object to people slagging others anonymously on an internet forum. It is bullying and cowardly.

You are joking me! So now you are angry with people for daring to suggesst that perhaps the OP is deserving of a bit of compassion because we are "daring to assume" that we know "exactly how she feels"?

I think it was thrown out there as a suggestion. Of course, that is completely unreasonable while it it perfectly reasonable to tear this person's grammar, spelling, medical knowledge, future career etc to pieces because bizarrely, there seems to be sympathy for someone who sniggered at a patient in a hospital context.

She said she was crying while reading this thread. Her child's death was mentioned. I don't really need to know more beyond that.

I cannot understand why people post vitriolic, nasty posts when someone mentions that they are crying in response. It seems a sick sort of excuse for entertainment to me.

The nurse is anonymous! Not here! Doesn't need to defend herself!

The slagging of the OP is directly impacting on the OP.

This is AIBU! Nellie, do you go on every single post here where a poster "slags others anonymously" and post the same thing?

The OP has clarified that the nurse in question didnt make any noise, and that it was more of an 'ugly grimace', so possibly not fair to describe the nurse as 'sniggering' (which to me would imply making a noise)?

Wow, this thread makes unpleasant reading. There are a number of posters on both sides of the argument in this thread who I have always found to be pleasant and fair and I am having problems working out how the thread has become so hostile.

OP - I really think that you need to step away from the thread now - it is not going to give you the outlet and support that you hoped for and I don;t think you are responding at all well.

To the lady claiming to be the nurse in question - I don't for one solitary moment believe that you are who you say you are, but lets imagine for a second that you are. How is it remotely appropriate for you to identify yourself to a relative of a patient under your care, on a public forum, and speak to her in the manner you have, WHATEVER the provocation?

And what Arses said.

Still not appropriate, evicerateyourmemory.

If a figment of the OP's imagination, well.. that says something about the OP's state of distress in the situation.

Doesn't excuse some of the nastiness on this thread.

arses, you are now extrapolating other people's comments to me

I afforded you the respect of picking up on what you said alone

if you want to argue with me, use my comments, not everyone else's mashed together as hysterical "vitriol"

Sorry? I have to address you directly? Why? My comments relate to the general nastiness on the thread actually, I'm not sure why you would assume what I said was directed specifically to you

I am very tempted to start pointing out to people that they should complain appropriately.

It is an aspect of mn that I do find distasteful and I do think it is a from of bullying to post quite abusive stuff about people when they dont have any realistic opportunity to defend themselves.

(I refer to ops earlier posts.)

However the op is by no means alone in this tendancy. Its a behaviour that seems to be worsening on mn.

arses, when you quote me directly, it makes me feel that you are addressing me directly

was I wrong to make that assumption ?

This is ridiculous! I mentioned a number of names, I obviously forgot yours. If I quoted you directly, I should think this would indicate I had an issue with the content of what you said. I was responding to multiple points in my posts.

My issue is with the argument not with individual posters and I would say, to borrow your phrasing lest I be accused of paraphrasing, that it is somewhat disingenuous to assume I am angry with you in particular. It seems, sorry to say, a bit precious.

I have deliberately only read the first few and last pages. Do not understand why she was given such a hard time to begin with. Not at all. It was perfectly clear what she was saying in her OP

when you quote me, I will respond

nothing precious about that

I agree with arses. Not often you get to say that.

That is my issue, JamieLeeCurtis. I feel the OP was being quite clear and was baited by deliberate, unhelpful misinterpretations which, given the fact she was quite clearly angry and upset, led her to post some quite out of control things. I feel that this baiting continued throughout this thread, really.. and unfortunately the OP rose to it. I don't condone what she said, or the tone of it, but I read a lot of genuine distress in her posts.

I know this is AIBU. I just feel that when it is clear that a poster has RL issues that are significant and profound and they mention they are in tears (yet seem unable to step away) that this is ridiculous.

ScaryFucker, seriously? You are concerned that I quoted you without remembering to prefix it with your name but that is not at all precious of you? My issue was with the content of what you said which is why I quoted it. If I had linked it to you as a specific poster, I would have mentioned your name. Funnily enough, it is possible to recall something recently read and requote it without having explicit memory of the internet handle of an anonymous cyberfairy. I don't know you or the sky over you: the content of your message was what I took issue with. If you would like to respond to that (as I have absolutely no idea where I quoted/paraphrased you and have no intention of backtracking to work it out), go right ahead.

Yes - that's how I read it too. Maybe because I'm just reading it fresh now.

I hate it when AIBU becomes like this.

Hiding this thread now, as God knows I don't want to get involved.

sorry about your gran cva?how is she.hospital and family illness is stressful i understand you must have felt pushed to limit

SF - very happy to admit that yes, I am daring to assume how the OP might be feeling about such a tragedy of a stillbirth. Not exactly how she must be feeling, because I can't comprehend how awful something like that must be, but I imagine she's going through a truly horrible time at the moment.

And as arses has stated very eloquently, I don't think the OP's recent trauma with a stillbirth is a completely unrelated scenario to going back into a hospital where a relative was seriously ill.