To think nurses should be professional!

[Theincrediblesulk1]

I am so bloody mad! My Nan had a stroke last week, i went to see her today i thought telling the doctors who are looking after her that i have an hereditary thrombophilia, mutation that causes more blood clots, So i went to the nurses station.

The nurse said "hello can i help you?" i said "yes i would like to inform a doctor that i have a hereditary condition that causes blood clots, as my nan has just had a stroke

She sniggered at me!

Aibu to think she should be shot in the head for being such an idiot!!!!

No sorry i lost my cool, AIBU to think nurses should be professional and not laugh at people who are concerned for their relatives, especially when they are attempting to give them relevant medical background?!

Op your disrespect for other people is amazing. Good luck with your midwifery training.

I agree with Caron. We are entitled to go on forums expressing our opinion and no nurses on here (except the one pretending to) has broken any rules. Its a free country but, it is really out of order to get into slanging matches with patients and their families whether its at work or, on here. I dont believe for one minute its genuine.

OP, if you still feel the same today then you have been advised what to do.

If it's not genuine, that's okay..

I personally don't think that, as a professional, I should express a negative opinion about service users online in a non-professional forum. I don't really express negative opinions about service users anyway but I am very cautious about posting and stating my profession.

If I do state my profession, I feel I am dutybound to behave professionally here, too, in so far as causing potential distress to potential clients.

I will talk about the NHS or the cuts etc etc in a way I wouldn't with clients.. but would be careful about being angry/abusive etc.

Our professional body is very keen that we don't bring the profession into disrepute so I post based on that, really. Nothing mean/nasty/directed.

Again, my previous post was directed only at posters who were deliberately provocative to the OP (whose language/tone I don't support per se, but feel is probably understandable given the context).

Please can this thread go to Classics.....it's very entertaining.

I think the whole thread is a wind up.

If only it was kittya

OP

You stated upthread

''this is the only place i really post on here.'' on 20th October 22.56

Why do you do this? There is SO MUCH more to MN than AIBU

I am curious

Sulk

3littlefrogs comments about your thrombophilia are v. relevant.

You sound like you maybe need to read a little more about it yourself. It would be v. unlikely to first manifest itself in an adult at (what I presume) is a reasonable age.

In addition there are two types of strokes - thrombotic and haemorrhagic - if your Grandmother had the latter the history of thrombophilia is not really relevant at all.

Secondly, the number used to titrate your Warfarin level is INR. IMO (and I extend this to my own family) people attempting to use 'correct' medical terminology and getting it wrong just make themselves sound ridiculous (my Mother has a lot of Venfloms which never ceases to make me cringe).

Thirdly I think presenting yourself as a 'soon to be midwife' when you've not even got on the course yet is stretching the truth somewhat.

Love and hugs,
A real healthcare professional

What is it with this thread? 90% of the posters are coming across as really unpleasant.

Gasman, so you're obviously a very clever anaesthetist, well done but rubbishing the OP's less-than-perfect medical knowledge is totally unnecessary.

Yeah, gasman, what we really need is some stupid anaesthetists.

FFS the fear of intellect this country revels in makes me want to burn thickies at the stake.

Rhinestone - I'm going to type this really slowly so you have a chance of understanding; what gasman posted was relevant both to the discussion on the thread and to the situation in the OP.

Have another go at it, it might help.

I agree with gasman

but then I would

Sorry I would have sniggered if soeone at work walked up to me and said hello I have such and such disease.

Did you not think to explain yourself first so you didn;t sound like a nutter.

(I work in the NHS too so would have been sitting on my very small arse eating a bun!)

She shouldn't have sniggered, it was unprofessional.

well done gasman.

But cant help thinking that this is about the ops' need to be centre of attention.

Anyway op deserves the reaction I find it very rude to slag off people on an internet forum where they are unable to defend themselves.

If you have a problem then have the manners to raise it appropriately.

bruxeur - I was specifically referring to gasman's comment that,

"...people attempting to use 'correct' medical terminology and getting it wrong just make themselves sound ridiculous..."

Sorry if that wasn't clear.

However by inferring that I'm so stupid that you need to type slowly, I think you've just proved my previous point about the unpleasant tone of this thread.

The OP's grandmother is in hospital with a stroke and she recently suffered a stillbirth. It would be nice if posters weren't coming up with new ways to kick her when she's down.

stillbirth, as sad it is, has nothing to do with this thread

Absolutely, Rhinestone.

"But cant help thinking that this is about the ops' need to the the centre of attention".

I am guessing her recent stillbirth occurred in a hospital. She is now in a hospital again, faced with a serious event threatening the life of a relative. You really don't need to have attended any of your lectures about patient psychology to work out why she might be overwraught and emotional in the hospital context.

Nothing she reported she did in the hospital was unmannerly. I really wonder about health care professionals who feel it is appropriate to question someone's correct use of medical terminology in these circumstances and/or suggest that someone's pain/anger/upset (including reporting crying as they read the responses on this thread) should be made a MN "Classic"

"Stillbirth, as sad as it is?"

Jesus! Have a heart! I'd be surprised if it really has nothing to do with this thread!

Well Scaryfucker, I think stillbirth may have rather a lot to do with how the OP is feeling in real life so showing a bit of humanity and compassion wouldn't go amiss.

X post arses.

yes true but in fairness did the nurse in question know that the op had just had this trauma?
No she probably didn't. If she had her reaction may have been better.

I stand by the assertion that it is rude to complain on an internet forum especially when it could have been dealt with much better elsewhere.

It is tantamount to bullying.

no, it has nothing to do with this thread

she is ranting about the nurse who dissed her on her grandmothers ward

why is this anything to do with her sad experience of a still born baby ?

now, OP may have an issue with nurses in general

but that is her issue, and coming on MN to slag off a woman who cannot defend herself is indefensible

Let me get this straight: it is rude of the OP to be cross that someone sniggered at her (on AIBU of all places!) but absolutely fine for said nurse to snigger because, hey, she didn't know that the op was suffering.

Oh wait! She was visiting an elderly relative who had had a stroke! So it doesn't really matter whether the nurse knew about her baby dying recently. Trauma, to me, is something akin to an injury. This is one of the most profound losses a person can experience.

"why is this anything to do with her sad experience of a still born baby ?"

Really? You really need this to be explained?

rhine, you know nothing about my ability to be compassionate

we have all had bad experiences in life

but extrapolating them into completely unrelated scenarios and expecting people to "cut some slack" because of them is at best disingenuous

anyway, the OP only mentioned the stillbirth of her baby once in a relatively unconnected way, it is you that is picking up on that experience of hers

if OP wants to come back and say the stillbirth of her baby caused her directly to react in the way she did, then perhaps there is a case in point

but she has not

so you are effectively putting words in her mouth, which is rather shit, because you are daring to assume you know exactly how she feels