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Original poster

To bloody well send them to a hotel?

350 replies

Tinalovestuna · 15/10/2010 21:42

In laws arrived 1/2 hour ago for planned weeks stay. Unbeknown to me or dh, fil has norovirus. He said he has been vomiting and has diarrhoea since 3am.

We have a 7 week old baby who has a cold.

I am so fucking livid at how stupid they are. Me and dh have just had a massive row in the bedroom because I think they should go and stay in a hotel, I don't want my baby infected.

Dh said I am being totally unfair as they have driven down to see the baby.

I said I would pay for a hotel.

Angry
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booooooooooyhoo · 16/10/2010 11:30

did you inform your DH that he was to ensure teh house was properly cleaned at no expense to you and that you willnot be returning till 48 hours afetr that?

Original poster
Tinalovestuna · 16/10/2010 11:30

bumper my thoughts exactly. They are very much the 'get on with it' types and would literally have to be dying to not honour a commitment iyswim.

The thought that they are putting a seven week old baby at risk didn't even register though.

Am still a bit scared of getting ill tbh....

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Original poster
Tinalovestuna · 16/10/2010 11:32

Am planning to stay at mums for a week. My mum is great, she is disabled so it will give me a chance to help her out a bit as well.

Dh has said he will clean.....Hmm

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booooooooooyhoo · 16/10/2010 11:33

tuna do you think he will do it properly? like light switches, cutlery, door handles etc? i mean he will literally have to clean every surface tehy ahve been in contact with. taht is alot of surfaces.

4plus1 · 16/10/2010 11:35

It might be a good idea to change your toilet seats after they leave too

HippyHippopotamus · 16/10/2010 11:45

just seen this and very pleased to see you're well away Tuna
i'm yet another vote for professional cleaners, at least then you know its all done

SpawnChorus · 16/10/2010 11:46

What a bunch of utter bell-ends. Their behaviour has been inexcusable. I agree that you should show your DH this link...how could he not have backed you up over this? It beggars belief.

Glad you don't seem to have caught it :). Hope you can make the most of your impromptu trip.

3thumbedwitch · 16/10/2010 11:54

Tina - text this link on norovirus to your DH. It is from Infection Control at the Royal Free Hospital - gives some useful info.

Be aware that if it is norovirus, it has a 24-72 hr incubation - so even if your DH is feeling queasy, it might be more psychosomatic than anything at this stage.

Be scrupulous about your own hygiene while at your mum's as well, just in case you picked it up before you left - having to go into the bathroom your FIL used won't have helped - and the last thing you would want to do is give it to her too.

here is another link that he would do well to read too.

There is no guarantee that your FIL even has norovirus but better to be safe than sorry.

expatinscotland · 16/10/2010 11:56

He's not going to clean it properly, I can promise you.

And you will need to ditch all the stuff out in your bathroom because I'll bet you London to a brick they don't close the toilet lid before flushing.

Your DH will be ill next so stay well away and don't let him near you.

I'm not blase about D&V bugs anymore. I have been utterly fucked up for months by some that I have had and now have a tricky gut that's easily irritated.

Sure, they happen IRL. We can't wrap our kids up in cotton wool, but why court them, IYKWIM?

perfumedlife · 16/10/2010 12:02

Glad you and the baby are ok Tina.

It's just dumbfounding!

Enjoy the time with your mum as best you can, keeping it all crossed you and baby don't get it.

3thumbedwitch · 16/10/2010 12:02

this might be more useful - a link to rentokil's specialist disinfection service. :)

PIL's expense, remember..

Original poster
Tinalovestuna · 16/10/2010 12:06

Thanks expat will do. Am off to mums now, she said similar and thinks we should get pro cleaners in.

What a bloody nightmare.

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3thumbedwitch · 16/10/2010 12:08

Keep washing your hands, Tina - in soap and water. Hope all goes well for you. :)

hystericalmum · 16/10/2010 12:14

what a pair of selfish idiots. Angry

Take care xxx

DuelingFanjo · 16/10/2010 12:23

glad to hear that you are ok - I hope they give you a full apology!

DirtyMartini · 16/10/2010 12:24

So glad you aren't ill so far, and that the baby seems fine too :)

A curse on your nonsensical, dangerous PIL. Enjoy your time with your mum, and don't go home until you have been convinced 1,000 times over that the cleaning has been done and done and done again! And the bucket and towels and stuff have been chucked and replaced ...

SarahStratton · 16/10/2010 12:34

What happens to the mattress in instances like this? Or headboards and other soft furnishings that are close enough to the bed to be potentially infected? Although if it can really travel 20m I guess everything is. Do they steam clean them then and is steam cleaning effective?

bigchris · 16/10/2010 12:36

Your dh must be kicking himself
he's going to have a week of not seeing you or his dd
he's going to be ill and most likely have time off work
and he's got to pay for professional cleaners
not to mention looking after his ill mum and dad, hope they're ok by the way, it hits the elderly hard too

SHRIIIEEEKPoolingBearBlood · 16/10/2010 12:44

there is lots of MIL bashing on this thread - why are we assuming it's her fault rather than their joint decision?
Glad your DH has seen sense
can anyone say how long the virus is likely to live on household items? surely it won't live forever?

LittleRedPumpkin · 16/10/2010 12:48

Hi Tina, saw this last night but didn't have anything useful to add. I'm so glad you got to your mum's, and she sounds as if she's talking good sense about pro cleaners.

Just wanted to say I hope you're feeling ok. I was thinking of you driving all that way last night and feeling very angry at your husband! Hope the baby is ok.

maryz · 16/10/2010 13:02

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ChaoticAngel · 16/10/2010 13:09

A little off? A little off is when you feel slightly queasy not when you've been suffering from d&v since 3am. I've no sympathy for them and as for your 'd'h, if he were mine I'd have lost a lot of respect for him when he prioritised his parents over his dw and tiny baby Angry

StayingDavidTennantsGirl · 16/10/2010 13:10

Fingers crossed that you stay well, Tina - and I hope you have a good trip up to your mum's.

It sounds as if you should consider ditching everything that you got from your bathroom, and replacing it in case it got contaminated when your FIL was in there - as others have said, if he didn't shut the loo lid before flushing, he will have sent a fine spray of whatever was in the loo all over the bathroom and everything in it.

booooooooooyhoo · 16/10/2010 13:12

i have no sympathy for anyone who had been vomitting for 18 hours turning up at the house of a newborn baby.

booooooooooyhoo · 16/10/2010 13:12

and refusing to leave.