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Original poster

To bloody well send them to a hotel?

350 replies

Tinalovestuna · 15/10/2010 21:42

In laws arrived 1/2 hour ago for planned weeks stay. Unbeknown to me or dh, fil has norovirus. He said he has been vomiting and has diarrhoea since 3am.

We have a 7 week old baby who has a cold.

I am so fucking livid at how stupid they are. Me and dh have just had a massive row in the bedroom because I think they should go and stay in a hotel, I don't want my baby infected.

Dh said I am being totally unfair as they have driven down to see the baby.

I said I would pay for a hotel.

Angry
OP posts:
LynetteScavo · 15/10/2010 21:44

I wouldn't let him anywhre near my baby!

Angry for you.

MumInBeds · 15/10/2010 21:44

I'd ask mil to phone nhs direct for advice,

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 15/10/2010 21:45

Dear god - make them leave immediately. Your DH is an idiot, as are they for coming anywhere near you.

Am Angry for you.

CwtchyBlueMama · 15/10/2010 21:45

YAdefNBU,send them to a hotel till fil is better then they can come & stay.

Tell your dh either they go to the hotel or your & the baby will.

Original poster
Tinalovestuna · 15/10/2010 21:45

He is doing diarrhoea in the toilet as I type. I have shut myself in the bedroom.

I could fucking cry.

Dh needs to tell them but he won't.

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FetchezLaVache · 15/10/2010 21:46

What sort of IDIOT visits a 7 week-old baby when they have D&V???? I wouldn't care a damn how far they'd driven- they quite simply shouldn't have come. I think you're quite right to want them to go to a hotel. I am actually quite livid on your behalf that they have even turned up!

dolcegusto · 15/10/2010 21:46

Tell your dh if they don't go to a hotel then you and the baby will go to one.

How stupid of them to even visit if fil is that ill.

Am Angry on your behalf

CwtchyBlueMama · 15/10/2010 21:47

You tell mil now,ring the local hotel & book them in.

I am angry for you & your little baby,your dh is acting like a twat tell him.

MarianneM · 15/10/2010 21:47

Outrageous! Kick them out now! It could be dangerous for such a small baby.

suzikettles · 15/10/2010 21:47

Are they nuts!?

At the very least FIL confined to their bedroom, but as MIL almost certainly has it now that probably won't be enough.

If you're bf then your baby might get some protection from you, but that won't stop you or dh getting it which, quite frankly is the last thing you need with a newborn.

You are so NBU!

DuelingFanjo · 15/10/2010 21:48

oh dear :(

I second the idea that you go to the hotel if your DH won't make them go.

LynetteScavo · 15/10/2010 21:48

Say you ahve already phoned NHS direct, who have advised your inlaws leave 28 hours after the last V/D before visiting.

ravenAK · 15/10/2010 21:48

I would take the baby & go to the hotel, if they won't.

How STUPID of them. Angry

maktaitai · 15/10/2010 21:48

Out. Out of the house now.

I used to be such a chilled-out 'hey, let's all get together even if your child is blowing chunks' kinda girl until ds played with a cousin who was 12 hours post-vom. He came down with it. Then I came down with it. Then dh came down with it. Then my mum, who had come to help, came down with it. We then had six fucking nightmare months when either dh, ds or me was ill ALL THE TIME because we just couldn't get going healthwise again.

I can't believe they came to your house.

suzikettles · 15/10/2010 21:48

They should be at home. I don't think a hotel would thank them for visiting either (although obv better than at yours)

CwtchyBlueMama · 15/10/2010 21:48

Why wont your dh tell them?

I just dont get the logic of some peoples thinking.

Original poster
Tinalovestuna · 15/10/2010 21:49

Just told dh that I would go to hotel if they didn't (good thinking guys)

He said that he had asked them to go and mil said no.

They are getting ready to go to bed.

I am gonna pack the baby some stuff and drive to my mums (70 miles away)

Fuck fuck fuck

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winnybella · 15/10/2010 21:49

Yes, you tell them, then, if your h won't.
Show him this thread so he can see that there's consensus that you don't visit a 7 wo baby when you have D&V, ffs.

SheWillBeLoved · 15/10/2010 21:49

Fucking norovirus? Does that infect the brain these days then? Bloody idiots. Insist on the hotel. Not only to protect the baby, but you and DH.

maktaitai · 15/10/2010 21:50

Yes, yes, the poster up the line who said YOU should go to the hotel is absolutely right. Let your dh look after your parents and get vilely ill himself while you and the baby lounge in bed, watch TV and get the cooking and housework done for you. GO NOW and don't look back.

SheWillBeLoved · 15/10/2010 21:50

Shock @ them saying no to going! Never mind the hotel, I'd be telling them to piss off home. How bloody disrespectful! Angry for you.

Hedgeblunder · 15/10/2010 21:50

Agree with dolcegusto. It's not ideal to hurt their feelings but they really should have thought about their actions!
Do you have any antibacterial gel or something that fil could use? I'm so angry for you, you're going to have to be cleaning up after him all weekend. Ffs.

winnybella · 15/10/2010 21:50

Sorry, but what a pair of twats. Angry

PaisleyPumpkin · 15/10/2010 21:51

Crikey, I'm sure you don't want to fall out with the inlaws, but I agree with ravenAK.

maktaitai · 15/10/2010 21:51

Bleach your hands before you go, though.