To bloody well send them to a hotel?

[Tinalovestuna]

In laws arrived 1/2 hour ago for planned weeks stay. Unbeknown to me or dh, fil has norovirus. He said he has been vomiting and has diarrhoea since 3am.

We have a 7 week old baby who has a cold.

I am so fucking livid at how stupid they are. Me and dh have just had a massive row in the bedroom because I think they should go and stay in a hotel, I don't want my baby infected.

Dh said I am being totally unfair as they have driven down to see the baby.

I said I would pay for a hotel.

but why would OP decide it was novovirus unless MIL or FIL had said they thought it was? and why would they think it was unless they had been in contact with someone who had it?

it seems a bit odd for OP to say it's novovirus just because he has D&V. you don't automatically make that connection unless there has been a suggestion of it.

It's possible the MIL proclaimed it as norovirus as it has shock value. Kind of like having a cold is the flu - oh I'm dying. Saying NO when asked directly to leave gives a clue that she might be a drama queen.

Let's hope so, and it's just food poisoning. In which case, poor FIL - mollycoddled old sod. Having had food poisoning myself last week, looking at it this way does give me a bit of sympathy for FIL (But absolutely none for MIL)

yes i understand that. i thought other posters were implying that OP had guessed that it was novovirus rather than her being told it was.

i too hope MIL said it for the drama and that it is only food poisoning but i mean FFS who pretends that tehy have novovirus jsut for a bit of drama??? i suppose the same sort of people taht will bring D&V to the home of a newborn. idiots.

Nah, FIL was stupid enough to visit even though he'd been D&Ving since 3am. It's as much his fault as hers, and if she bullied him into going I hope this shocks him into growing a pair.

Poor tuna and baby :(

i agree sarah

Tis me DiscoSquish, booo. God I would be so bloody angry if I were tuna.

Out of interest, could a MIL make a diagnosis? Would you not need a sample in a lab? Without a diagnosis, if it passes overnight and was 'a bug' how soon can baby come home? Poor FIL, he'd be better off a home too . Hope it gets sorted, the whole episode is nasty.

OP, YANBU. Your PIL are inconsiderate, selfish idiots, regardless of it being either food poisoning, or noro. I'd stay at your mum's until your DP has had his bout of D&V (which he undoubtedly will now) and insist that your PIL pay for a professional deep clean of your house.
I mean, really, who thinks it is at all acceptable to visit such a small baby when they are ill?

So hang on, how exactly do you know whether or not this is Noro? Because from reading the posts, I've concluded that you don't know it is Noro, it could be just a bug

In which case, mightn't you be overreacting? Just a teensy bit?

Yep, I've had food poisoning a few times (used to travel around a lot and take chances when it came to eats) and it kicks in pretty quickly.

I've had giardia, amoebic dysntery, just dysentery, food poisoing a number of times and contracted Hep A from contaminated meat.

I'm quite cautious now. :o

Food poisoning or Noro - Why would you go and stay with anyone when you have the squits!

Much as pebbledashing and stinking out your own loo is not fun - its more preferable for anyone I would imagine that having to be ill and stink out someone elses bathroom?

Kids, babies aside its just plain rude IMO to turn up at someones house ill.

No quattro- the MIL said it was norovirus, then when told to leave said it COULD be food poisoning, I don't think the OP has overreacted At.All.

ah why the namechange?

I agree mum72-was poor tuna expected to clean up after him or what?? It's so rude. I can't imagine they'd be so busy they couldn't see their gd another time ffs

just realised i have been typing novovirus instead of norovirus

um, well, until OP checks back in we don't know who exactly first proclaimed it norovirus and whether they were justified in saying that or just guessing.

Still, I think we all agree on a YANBU response to thread title and OP's desire not to risk exposure. I hope OP can look back and laugh about it all, one day.

regardless of whether it is norovirus or food poisoning, surely they baby shouldn't be around him if he has D&V?

But so not worth the risk. I caught some horrible thing from a friend's baby last Christmas. Got very ill the night we arrived at my parents, gave it to DS who was 4 months at the time and got very poorly, my mum and my sister. I recovered (vaguely) DH insisted on going straight to his parents on Boxing Day, he came down with it that night, then like dominoes his dad, mum, brother, uncle, grandad. 11 people total. DD only one to escape it, weirdly.

I haven't been the same since. 24 hour nausea from January until March. Regular episodes of diarrhoea and uncontrollable shaking. Food intolerances. High doses of medication to control excess stomach acid which I am still on now, 10 months down the line. I can't drink alcohol or caffeine, or cope with milk or cheese. I have lost way too much weight and have to put up with people thinking my collarbones stick out because I WANTED them that way. I feel totally robbed of enjoying DS's first year.

I would do anything to avoid another stomach bug. And woe betide anyone who knowingly brings one near my children. So not overreacting in my book quattro!

Sorry, this is an emotive subject for me and I am at the actions of OPs ILs. Glad she got out of the house, loving that maternal instinct!

IHeart - that sounds like noro to me!

Definitly boohyoo

Tuna I have no words

I hope you and your little baby are safe and sound at your brothers.

I'm afraid if that was my dh's reaction I would be seriously considering divorce What a letdown.