to be annoyed that DH has demolished kitchen wall without consulting me?

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I came home from work to find the kitchen wall was no more. DH has been working on the wall above (bathroom wall) but seems to have decided that the kitchen wall (on ground floor of house) had to come out now rather than in two years or so (when we might have the money to have a single storey extension on the back of our house). He didn't phone or text me he just let me come home from work to find he's already demolished the wall! WTF? I had no opportunity to unpack the kitchen units that used to be attached to said wall. All of lounge furniture, leather sofas, the lampshades and even the papers and magazines on the table were all still in situ (under the thick layer of dust). I refuse to speak to him. I refuse to clear up the mess and i refuse to try to prepare any food or drinks in the house.

Any advice?

He is so sleeping in the car tonight.

Mine's the same. I think you are doing the right thing - definitely don't clear up the mess.

In fact take photos so you can remind him next time he's working on the house

YA so NBU

at your Dh and fingers crossed your ceiling doesn't fall down!

Poor you!

He got a bit carried away.
My dh is the same, but he is a builder so I dont mind too much.
YANBU to leave him to clear up.
Hopfully you will be able to laugh about it soon. Your face must have been a picture when you got in.

He has checked that it wasnt a supporting wall??

Bloody hell. I don't believe that anyone will come on this thread and tell you that YABU!

Poor you.

If my DH knocked down chunks of my house without telling me, I think I would kill him...

Def not BU
Hope it wasnt a supporting wall

Around here you need approval and completion certificates from the council even to move a sink!

It'll take ages to clearthe dust up. Hope he's prepared for the hours of vacuuming he'll have to do

Jesus wept get him to dig a big hole in the kitchen floor. Then hit him on the back of the head with one of the bricks he so thoughtfully knocked down and bury the fucker.

Or if you can't quite manage that, save some brickdust and grit and sprinkle it on his food for the next ten years couple of months.

Just to remind him what an arse he is.

[mad on your behalf emoticon]

Just go until he's cleared it up, stay with friends or family if you can. Totally U of him to think that that would be a nice surprise, in fact he sounds quite, quite mad.

Second the question about supporting wall. You don't want to come back and find the bloody roof gone next time

YABU - he's a man - the job needs doing - you must have agreed to do that ready for the extension. He has used his initiative and got on with a messy job whilst you were out. Taking time to cover up the furniture would have just slowed up the progress of the job and anyway - gives him a reason to chuck out the old dusty sofa and buy something he'd prefer.

Just get a j cloth out - wiope down the surfaces and make him a nice cup of tea and say well done dear you're my hero.

Does he know what he's doing or is that a stupid question? Is he capable of knowing it's definitely not a supporting wall?

I have thought a lot about which items i could throw at him but i'd still have no wall!!

The wall above it has also been removed (that one was taken down a few day previously). So there's no wall on either the ground or first floor now. He is supposed to be installing an RSJ but i'm so livid I haven't been able to ask "when"? My three cats must think it's great - they get the run of the whole ground floor now and can sleep on the sofas even though they are not usually allowed to. The "new" light green cushions on the sofas now look greyish-beige. He can take them to the dry cleaners and he can pay. As for his precious flat screen tv........ he seems to managed to wipe the dust off that so he could watch it last night. I spent the whole evening on MN. I think i'll check into a hotel for the weekend. I can't live there and I am not clearing up. He goes back to his normal job on Monday so the work will probably reach a standstill for a couple of months.

DP is a builder and our house is a work in progress (waiting for planning permission to build an extension and another house in the garden).

So I have lived for years with bare plastered walls, unfinished wiring in the garage etc, hideous windows.

Got used to it but I did kick off and go and stay in a travelodge the day he took the staircase down.

Er...seriously your house could just topple down! Unless you are joking about the RSJ?

Christ, are the walls above being held up with acroprops? They should be until he can put the RSJ in

Seriously, the house could fall down.

Oh my God. I would leave him a list of exactly what needs done NOW. Otherwise he might decide to bulldoze the garage first or something!!

RSJ - it'll be OK with a big bit of 8 x 4 - no need to worry love.

whats an rsj?

'So there's no wall on either the ground or first floor now'

See now, I find that sentence HIDEOUSLY scary :(

If I were you I'd call in a builder as an emergency, right now, explaining the situation, then make sure that he pays for all of the propping up out of his own money.

So dangerous!

Giraffes - Think it's one of those big steel beam jobbies that, you know, keep the floors and roofs and thing in place

A big bit of beefy steel (reinforced steel joist) that would hold up your house if your stupid dearest DH deceided to remove a suppporting wall and didn't put up any temporary supports whilst doing it.

GetOrf is giving v good value on this thread :( Listen to her, she is a Woman Who Knows What She Is Talking About.

Call a builder. Now!