to be annoyed that DH has demolished kitchen wall without consulting me?

[KC11]

I came home from work to find the kitchen wall was no more. DH has been working on the wall above (bathroom wall) but seems to have decided that the kitchen wall (on ground floor of house) had to come out now rather than in two years or so (when we might have the money to have a single storey extension on the back of our house). He didn't phone or text me he just let me come home from work to find he's already demolished the wall! WTF? I had no opportunity to unpack the kitchen units that used to be attached to said wall. All of lounge furniture, leather sofas, the lampshades and even the papers and magazines on the table were all still in situ (under the thick layer of dust). I refuse to speak to him. I refuse to clear up the mess and i refuse to try to prepare any food or drinks in the house.

Any advice?

I am not talking to him until the house is clean and back to normality.

He always thinks he knows best about everything. It a constant battle of wills. He can do some electrics and some plumbing and some general building work and painting. These are not however his trade. he has had no formal training at all. He simply thinks it all through and asks his dad for advice when he comes up against a problem. By the way I have no shower and no bathroom wall, no radiator, no property bathroom floor and no rail or hook to hang a towel up. The floor is dusty, the walls are unplastered and the ceiling is just plasterboard. The whole between the first floor and ground floor is approx 3 feet by 3 feet.

Jesus get someone in sharpish to sort out the RSJ and get it propped up in the meantime as GetOrf said. (Builder's missus here too )

Don't leave it to him, you need professionals now.

Electrics is illegal now, personally I think plumbing and general knocking down of one's house should also be illegal.

KC11 - are you reading any of these comments?

House

could

fall

down...

I'm placing my bet on

House

Will

Fall

Down

Tell your DH that the majority of MN thinks he is a cunt twat of the highest order.

OMG. He sounds like an idiot. Please please tell me he has it all propped up properly?

Did you ask him WHY he decided to do it now?

Massive x-post there, everyone is so quick as we are panicking on your behalf KC11

Second the electrics and plumbing being a definite no-go, electrics and gas legally but seriously for your safety and peace of mind too!

For crying out loud don't worry about dust all over the place. That can be cleared up. The real issue is that you have no wall holding up part of your bleeding roof, woman.

Is his dada builder, or just a DIY knobhead as well? You need to call a builder to prop the walls up. Ignore your daft DH and don't consult him on it. Hopefully a buiilder coming round and laughing at his shoddy workmanship will make him wind his neck in a bit.

Jesus christ - I grew up in a house that was basically handmade by my dad, but even he drew the line at electrics and major plumbing. It's not safe, and I would imagine it will make selling the house difficult in the future too.

If it hasn't fallen down first. Which it probably will have.

Seriously now - was only joking on the other comments - if this was a supporting wall it must be propped and supported properly asap. It really could fall down quite quickly.

Any major electrical works if he did them as a minimum he should get them checked with a part P qualified electrician - there are some jobs an owner can do - such as replacing existing sockets but any sort of re-wire and changing the circuit must be done by a qualified person who will give you a certificate. If there are problems later on you may not be insured or have problems selling if you can't provide the certificates for the extension work etc.

Bloody hell phone Bob ASAP!!!

Is your DH O'Reilly the builder from Faulty Towers?

I second/third getting him to pay for you to spend the night in a hotel - preferably luxury so you can have a nice bath, relaxing time (with a place to hang your towel).

I would be FUMING.

Do have you DCs? Can you all go stay somewhere until he gets a professional around to sort this all out?

faaaarkin' 'ell.

Move out before the house falls on you.

What a prize plum to take down the walls without reinforcement!

Please tell me it's not a semi/terraced too? Because if it is he is going to be liable for any damage to his neighbours houses as well :(

You're not attached (i.e. terrace or semi) are you??

It's one thing to contemplate your own house falling down, without getting professionals in, but what if the neighbours' houses fall down?

X post Discosquashedbean. Great minds...

Great minds pooka :( I hope OP has gone silent because she is phoning builders/getting out of the house (pref with laptop to keep us updated)

Pictures - this conv needs pictures

OP has gone because she has just heard an infernal great creaking noise and has run into the garden.

...And not because she is coughing and spluttering her way out from under pile of rubble and angry neighbours.

As everyone else says.

Forget "my cushions are grey". Forget "I'm not talking to him".

If that was a supporting wall (which sounds very likely) and there is now nothing holding up your ceiling, your ceiling could cave in.

It is not safe for you or DCs to be under it until it is properly propped up.

Please, please phone a builder!

Oh and then get the electrics checked by a qualified electrician.

well I didn't like to mention the ruddy great pile of rubble... :(

Anyone live near OP?

Does MNHQ have Sarah Beenies (sp?) number to hand - Help My House Has Fallen Down! - she did a web chat a few weeks ago.

Are you serious about it being a supporting wall? I can't imagine anyone could possibly be stupid enough to take out a supporting wall without having props ready and a plan to get an RSJ in within a few days.

Can they?