to be annoyed that DH has demolished kitchen wall without consulting me?

[KC11]

I came home from work to find the kitchen wall was no more. DH has been working on the wall above (bathroom wall) but seems to have decided that the kitchen wall (on ground floor of house) had to come out now rather than in two years or so (when we might have the money to have a single storey extension on the back of our house). He didn't phone or text me he just let me come home from work to find he's already demolished the wall! WTF? I had no opportunity to unpack the kitchen units that used to be attached to said wall. All of lounge furniture, leather sofas, the lampshades and even the papers and magazines on the table were all still in situ (under the thick layer of dust). I refuse to speak to him. I refuse to clear up the mess and i refuse to try to prepare any food or drinks in the house.

Any advice?

this isn't a real post is it? Tell me it's not true.

She's busy with a j-cloth and can of pledge. She'll hopefully be back alive soon

I really hope it's a joke.

I actually do have Sarah Beeny's phone no, funny you should ask. She might need the address of the pileofrubble house though.

Temporary supports you say? That's a novel idea! i'll suggest that one next time i dare to set foot in the house. I'm a bloody conveyancer for a living. If a vendor of a property told me he'd taken down a wall without B Regs approval and acros etc i'd tell him he'd been a silly billy and to get the proper builders in quick. DH thinks he know severything. nigella - me thinks you are being sarcastic. But he did choose the sofas and cushions himself. He facnies himself as a male Sarah Beeny. He loves her. I wish he's married her. And she's procuded several kids, which so far I seem unable to be able to give him. 5 years of trying!!!!! HMMMMMM I wonder if the stress of living with him is preventing conception. It certainly will be now. He ain't getting near me for a lonnnnngggggg time!!!!

I think the OP has been at the sherry.

So what is happening NOW? Is your house falling down?

hello?

What is being a conveyancer to do with any of it?

Where is he now?

KC11 sorry yes being sarcastic (or is it wit ) but agreed with others this is serious and should be sorted out asap.

Have done a few 'silly' things myself in the past - did take out part of a chimmney without supporting as we cut the holes for the new lintle but it did go in as soon as we could.

So are you getting the builders in then?

bob

Yes, have you rung yet? I'd be in a complete tailspin and would have rung builders, surveyors and the fire brigade for good measure.

I admire you for your restraint calmness.

Sherry is a very good idea. I'll pick myself up a bottle on the way to the hotel.

I know in the long run he's trying to make the house nice but please can he do it soon? I am scared the first floor will fall down. I am scared that he'll get hurt.

I haven't walked on any of the floor near the danger zone. I'm at work til 5.30pm. then i'm going pack a big weekend bag and check in to a hotel. It's his project let him finish it. I know he can achieve what needs to be done but wish he had consulted me first. it was a horrible shock and i felt sick when i saw the devastation on Weds. Truly. I felt sick. I drove off in my car and sat there in tears. I may be a woman and i try to be strong but sometimes tears are inevitable.

I hope the house stays put until he's made it safe. Apparently he's now got my dad round there to help him. Dad is a decorator/builder so he's not going to let DH make me live in a hazardous situation. I could move in with my parents but i'm too old to do that. I have my pride.

OP, you need to ring the builders now. Its no joke. GO AND RING A BUILDER.

Lol KC sorry to be an unsympathetic bitch but you sound like a female Adrian Mole.

Glad DP's dad is a builder.

Op are you ok?

We've all been pretty blunt but the seriousness of this situation warrants it imo

Where is dh? What's he doing about the house? Have one of you rung a builder for some advice?

marking place and will be checking the BBC news for houses collapsing.

ok. xpost. I see your dad is a builder. That wall needs to be replaced with supports asap. Its not safe for anybody (even your daft DH) to stay in at the moment.

x-posts again

I'm too damn slow at this

And I thought I had been unreasonable to take up the carpet and replace with wooden floor without consultation (I have a good excuse). But this....Jesus christ almighty

nigella DH had a roofer remove the chimney stack a couple of weeks ago. then DH took the chimney stack out of the loft space and took out the first floor chimney breast (and the back of the chimney breast) out two weeks ago. He was only supposed to be working on the first floor ie.e the bathroom and attached bedroom. The bathroom if you can still call it that was supposed to be "usable" within a few weeks. We have no other WC or bath. You know that programme DIY SOS? - I should phone Nick Knowles and get him round there. DH would get the shock of his life.

On a serious note I want to phone a builder but he'd refuse to let them in. Our first house (2 bed terrace) only needed decorating- That took 7 years. I think i need some valium and a big frying pan to hit DH with.

When you all go home to your houses and flats this evening think of my poor little house. It's had seven bells kicked out of it. It didn't ask to be interfered with. i am scared to speak to neighbours in case they are cross with us. I HAVE TO POINT OUT THE CHIMNEY STACK AND CHIMNEY BREASTS WERE IN THE CENTRE OF OUR HOUSE AND NOT BETWEEN US AND THE NEIGHBOURS!!!!!!! That would have been stupid!

I'm ok, i'm at work in a nice office. In fact i'm off to kitchen to make a cup of tea. anyone want to join me?

KC11 You must know this is really dangerous and you have to get professionals in

Am going to step away from this thread now and will wait to hope i don't see it on the local news

KC, so is your dad a properly registered builder or is he a decorator?