To have cried over what another customer said?

[StrictlyTory]

Ok today I woke up with really engorged breasts, DC2 is 2 weeks old. The BF councillor told me to go to a large department store in town and have some feeding bras properly fitted...

So off I went with DH, and 2 DC's in tow. Bra fitting dept had 2 staff on and there was 1 other old woman in there. I asked where the maternity bras were and the old woman snapped at me that she was first in the line for fitting. I was as I wasn't trying to get ahead, just find a bra first!

Anyway DS started playing up a bit but DH had him pretty much under control so went into the changing room, old woman was there too. She had asked for at least a dozen bras to be fitted so the fitter kept telling me to wait which was fine. DS then called out 'where's Mummy' and the woman stuck her head out the chaging room and shouted at DH 'For God' sake take that horrible child out of here'. I heard this from behind my curtain and for a few mins was in such shock, half assuming it was a very odd joke! Realising it wasn't I got dressed and ran after DH.

Decided to by a bra without being fitted properly as I had tried bra on and it felt ok and I was in such pain I just wanted a bra! While paying the fitted whispered to me how rude the other woman was, I was at it being whispered to save the old womans feelings and I just said how DS was only 2 and how shocked I was that a grown woman would shout at him like that...

So, finished paying and walked past the changing room where the woman popped out to shout at me that I was a rubbish mother and DS should have respect for old people

I immediately burst into tears and stammered that he was 2, we had a 2 week old baby and I has hugely engorged breast and was in a lot of pain and just wanted a fitted bra!

She then told me to get out the shop, to which the fitter started leading me to the door! AIBU to have sobbed in public and be pretty upset that the fitter allowed the woman to talk to us all like that?

Was it JL?

No! I adore JL It's an independant department store.

depressing thread.

SWC that is horrible why do people have to be so mean? We were all 2 once!

That's the thing isn't it, I feel that I allowed her to shout at DS and then because I couldn't control myself from crying (and crying in the way that racks your chest and means you can hardly speak I didn't get her to see that he's only 2 and she was being rude and nasty to him. I feel like the crying and the probable redness has just allowed her to think that she was right and I am a useless Mother who can't control her child.

If I could have only not cried and said very calmly that he was only 2 and that shouting at him was not helpful then maybe that would have been a wake up call.

Lol I am off work sick (rare occurence), and I've just read this post/thread from start to finish. You have all made me lol, ty ;) StrictlyTory you were NBUIMO, I would have done exactly the same as you in that situation and only afterwards thought about how unjust it was and any number of good replies. Don't beat yourself up, hormones have a lot to answer for. That woman was just plain rude, there's a lot of it about. She couldn't possibly have children of her own, or she wouldn't have been so nasty :) I work in a school and know full well that all children are not angels, however, as adults, we are meant to set an example of understanding, tolerance and politeness despite any real or imagined provocation :)

i too have crappy engorged breasticles
get cake apply liberally to gob

some people are vile
age does not always improve things

next time say loudly...
dear ds do you need a nappy change?
make fuss of checking
no, must be someone else full of shit

Hahahhah love it!

DH said to me last night that I must be pleased that the old boobies are so much bigger Only a man can look past the fact the feel like rocks, one is bright red and I was up the whole night getting hot sweats and just see the increased size!