To Drink So Much Wine??

[humanoctopus]

I really enjoy having a drink of wine at the end of increasingly long days. Once I've go the kids homeworked, fed, bathed, storytime, etc., all asleep, dishwasher loaded, washing machine on, clothes/lunches for next day ready,quick tidy up, I have found that a glass of wine really helps me relax. Now it used to be just one glass, now its half a bottle. My bf reckons its the slippery slope. I feel slighted by this attitude. Or AIBU and should cut back?

Looked at myself aged 40, decided I was too fat and that easiest way to cut calories was to cut drinking. Wine with meals was main problem, so I changed to spritzers, grape juices etc, and the odd one glass of anything during celebrations. It took about a week to feel normal and yes, I lost weight and can reccommend this method.

MIFLAW- thank you very much for that. I, too, am agnostic and had heard that AA had a Christian element to it. Not that that would be a bad thing; just might not be something that would help me, personally.

I'm all for spirituality though so maybe AA could be a good place for me. Thanks for taking the time to tell me about it :)

You could be absolutely spot-on about substances creating the void I have.

I am just coming to the end of a course of CBT (for issues unrelated to substances although we did talk about those too) and we talked about happiness, contentment; what it is and where it comes from. I remember at one point my therapist pointing out that those who have had something of a narcotic past generally find it harder to find excitement in their day-to-day lives.

Makes sense of course. But so many (really quite logical and obvious) things are only just beginning to make sense to me now, in my 30s.

Thanks for your thoughts.

As my friend used to say, "The only thing you need to know about God, Sean, is IT'S NOT YOU!"