to think that my stupid sister is an idiot as she has just outed the gender of her bump on facebook?

[nickelbabe]

She was asked on Facebook by me and a couple of her other fb friends that she not put what the sex of her bump is (she's 22weeks). She's managed that fine on her own posts, but she's commented on one of her friend's statuses thus:
"Alls well here....Bump getting a little bigger, been spending lots of money on clothes for him....." (forgive her punctuation errors - she hardly ever went to school )

how stupid is she?????

surely she knows that I can see all the posts she's written, not just the posts that she's started?

I'm soooooooooo mad at her.

thanks for the entertainment nickel :)

glad you and your sis are ok now, isn't MN great?

Get help for your narcissism.

Your poor sister.

YABU. She wants to let people know the gender of her baby.

I know you've accepted YABU but you know you should never have asked this of her in the first place.

YABU and I don't think I'd have read your text and taken it as a congratulatory message. "A boy, is it?" isn't the same as "just found out it's a boy, what wonderful news!"

'Nickle' - thank god you asked the nest of vipers wise MN'ers before you sent a text to your sister.

I really think you need to speak to a professional though - your sense of entitlement, your nastiness & your inability to see why it is wrong to make your sister keep the sex/gender of her baby a secret are issues you need to sort out for your own sake... Expecting your sister to keep her baby's sex a secret is bonkers - it is her baby, it isn't your suprise.

As others have said, if I didn't 'know' you I would have assumed you were a troll - it really is that odd.

Please talk to someone x

I know you have admitted you were wrong on this occasion, and that was a decent thing to do, but I think you need to be careful here, and I would urge you to seek counselling. My concern would because you feel like a victim in your relationship as a result of whatever your sister did to you as a child that you may now, as an adult, subconsciously be reversing things to the extent that you become a toxic, controlling sister.

I am not trying to belittle your feelings about what happened when you were children, and of course none of us know what did happen, but I think you should deal with it, and as a result either make an effort to change how you behave towards your sister, or else step back from the relationship if you feel you cannot forgive her.

All the best.

My concern would be that because you feel like a victim....