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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think that my stupid sister is an idiot as she has just outed the gender of her bump on facebook?

183 replies

nickelbabe · 29/09/2010 17:00

She was asked on Facebook by me and a couple of her other fb friends that she not put what the sex of her bump is (she's 22weeks). She's managed that fine on her own posts, but she's commented on one of her friend's statuses thus:
"Alls well here....Bump getting a little bigger, been spending lots of money on clothes for him....." (forgive her punctuation errors - she hardly ever went to school Hmm)

how stupid is she????? Angry

surely she knows that I can see all the posts she's written, not just the posts that she's started?

I'm soooooooooo mad at her.

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Original poster
nickelbabe · 29/09/2010 17:05

she knows that I like to wait until the baby is born until I find out what the sex is - last time she managed to keep the secret, and she swore she would this time - last time she even had to tell mum not to tell me (because mum is another one that can't keep quiet)

it's more the fact that she's such a big mouth that she can't help it but spoil surprises.

she's always been like this and i thought she might have grown up a bit :(

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Tippychoocks · 29/09/2010 17:05

Yabu. Unless you are thirteen in which case this rant sounds normal - apart from the baby bit Grin

laurely · 29/09/2010 17:05

YABU

Her bump her choice.

if somebody demanded I not put something so personal to me like that on facebook I would have put ITS A BOY!!!!!!! all over my status.

mumtoabeautifulbabyboy · 29/09/2010 17:05

You are being way too precious about this. She can't be expected to not say he/she etc around you for the remainder of HER pregnancy. I hope you don't say anything to her!

diddl · 29/09/2010 17:05

Just because she has put him, doesn´t mean it is.

Do you not like her much?

My goodness, it was only ever going to be one or the other-not that much of a surprise.

And does she have to do as you say regarding FB?

BooBooGlass · 29/09/2010 17:06
Confused Of course yabu
Original poster
nickelbabe · 29/09/2010 17:06

Hecate - jsut from me - she can tell anyone else she likes!
(as long as they don't tell me)

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IUsedToBeFab · 29/09/2010 17:06

I don't think YABU as I never want to know in advance either.

prozacfairy · 29/09/2010 17:06

Her baby, her choice how and when she chooses to announce the sex. Anyway she could easily have forgotten about you miserable lot in her excitement.

YABU. Stop being so uptight and bitching about her so called lack of intelligence and congratulate her.

ChickensHaveNoEyebrows · 29/09/2010 17:06

But...it's not your surprise! It's her pregnancy/baby! It's not like she's just told you what she bought you for Christmas.

StewieGriffinsMom · 29/09/2010 17:06

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MrsGravy · 29/09/2010 17:07

YABVU!! First of all it's an easy mistake to make - especially as it's not actually something she wants to keep secret. Second of all, you're lucky she didn't tell you to just stay off facebook so she could talk freely!! That's what I would have done. You don't seem to like your sister very much yet you are prepared to ask a HUGE favour of her and make a big deal about the sex of your future nephew. You are a hypocrite.

HecateQueenOfWitches · 29/09/2010 17:07

but it's her baby.

I don't mean to be cruel but I think you need to grow up a bit. This is her baby. It's not about you.

Her baby is not a surprise for you.

2shoes · 29/09/2010 17:07

so she did it for you last time....
I think you are being a bit mean

bigchris · 29/09/2010 17:07

You sound really bitchy towards her, mocking her spelling, inability to keep secrets and schooling

bamboobutton · 29/09/2010 17:08

i didn't know the sex of either of mine when i was pg but still referred to the bump as him as it was better than calling the growing baby 'it'

perhaps that is what your sister is doing too.

maduggar · 29/09/2010 17:08

What difference does it make? That fact is, it is that sex already, so why does it matter when you find out? Im am genuinely baffled.

bigchris · 29/09/2010 17:09

'she can tell anyone else she likes'

Exactly! You should havd deleted on on your facebook if you were going to turn all obsessive about it

Firawla · 29/09/2010 17:09

yabu and sounds like you are the one who needs to grow up!

AnnieBeansMum · 29/09/2010 17:10

Sorry nickelbabe, but YABU. Whether you wanted to know or not, it's her baby and she shouldn't have to edit her comments to suit you. Sorry if that is harsh.

ByThePowerOfGreyskull · 29/09/2010 17:10

It isn't your news, it is up to her, I doubt she meant to offend you or get you cross but really - get a grip, this isn't big stuff at all.

ohemgee · 29/09/2010 17:10

YABU. Surely it's as much of a surprise now as it would be when the baby was born? Don't really understand why it has anything to do with you or what you want.

Hulababy · 29/09/2010 17:10

YAB totally U.

It is her baby and her bump. She can tell whoever she likes that her baby is a boy.

You are her sister. You have no right to tell her what she can and can't tell her friends about the gender of her baby.

OK, you prefer the suprise of finding out - fine. But that is up to you with your baby. Your sister obviously doesn't feel the need to wait to find out.

"it's more the fact that she's such a big mouth that she can't help it but spoil surprises"

Errm...ever realised that his is not YOUR baby suprise. It is hers and her partners! Hmm

I don't think it is your sister that needs to have grown up over this TBH.

Rockbird · 29/09/2010 17:10

YABcompletelyU. It's not your business, so not up to you to dictate if she tells you or not. She's found out, obviously wants to tell people and you're asking her not to mention it to anyone in your hearing in case you find out? And then you have a go at her for being uneducated and having a big mouth? Have I missed something? Are you the baby's father in disguise?

prozacfairy · 29/09/2010 17:10

Just read your latest post OP and it may sound harsh but you sound like a really bitter control freak. For the love of god, chill out.