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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think that my stupid sister is an idiot as she has just outed the gender of her bump on facebook?

183 replies

nickelbabe · 29/09/2010 17:00

She was asked on Facebook by me and a couple of her other fb friends that she not put what the sex of her bump is (she's 22weeks). She's managed that fine on her own posts, but she's commented on one of her friend's statuses thus:
"Alls well here....Bump getting a little bigger, been spending lots of money on clothes for him....." (forgive her punctuation errors - she hardly ever went to school Hmm)

how stupid is she????? Angry

surely she knows that I can see all the posts she's written, not just the posts that she's started?

I'm soooooooooo mad at her.

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Original poster
nickelbabe · 29/09/2010 17:24

funny enough Reality I was thinking of you when I posted - shall we have a sisters-issues competition? Grin

I am being ridiculous, but as I've said, it's just too close to the bone. major injustices as a child with her and i'm obviously not over it.

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BaggyCoconut · 29/09/2010 17:24

"This is typical of her and something that I thought she wouldn't do at this stage in her life (she's not been so bad over the past couple of years)"

What is typical of her? Being happy about her pregnancy and sharing her news with her friends. If YOU dont want to know you could of hidden her posts. You are being very unreasonable, and it sounds to me as you are the selfish one who needs to grow up. Her baby = her choices. Its not about you and none of your business. Get a grip please.

5DollarShake · 29/09/2010 17:24

IUsedToBeFab - you've fairly spectacularly missed the point. Grin

Lulumaam · 29/09/2010 17:24

you are sounding deranged and /or about 5 years old

are you stamping your feet too??

Hulababy · 29/09/2010 17:24

Iused to be fab - I never found out with DD either and wouldn't have wanted to. I like the not knowing personally.

But to be so cross that someone else told you the gender of their baby? Sorry, that is not anormal reaction.

Giddyup · 29/09/2010 17:25

ha!

Original poster
nickelbabe · 29/09/2010 17:27

lulumaam there might have been one foot stamp Blush

right, AIBU.

let's do something else now.

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nickelbabe · 29/09/2010 17:27

sod. i meant IABU.

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BlueFergie · 29/09/2010 17:28

OK Nickel, I don't know what the back issues with your sister are but I think they have very little to do with the issue at hand. Your sister did not deliberatly tell you the sex of the baby, she let it slip while posting messages to other friends. It seems clear that it was a genuine mistake and not selfish or mean. I didn't even entertain notions of not telling people what the sex of mine were and I don't think that was selfish or mean. If anyhting I think they were being selfish trying to dictate to me how I discussed my own pregnancy.

bigchris · 29/09/2010 17:28

Lol
now ring her to congratulate her, go on I dare you Grin

PosieParker · 29/09/2010 17:29

Nickel, this is clearly about a lot more than this OP. Which you must know is rather odd!?!
What's really going on? I don't mind AIBU by stealth!

diddl · 29/09/2010 17:30

Just noticed that the poor woman hasn´t even put it on her own FB post but someone elses!

Good grief-OP-your´re surely not interested in being part of this babies life, are you?

Rockbird · 29/09/2010 17:31

Okaaaaaaay, this is getting more bonkers....

Lulumaam · 29/09/2010 17:31

Grin, at least you can see how immature unreasonable you are being

let's all talk about what we're having for dinner?

i'm having slimming world chilli and rice.. mmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

Original poster
nickelbabe · 29/09/2010 17:32

Posie, thank you. It's not AIBU by stealth, but I supposee it could be.
I need a psychiatrist's couch to unravel all the crap that my sister put me through when we were kids. I guess in moments like this, where I've asked her to do something specific for me, and she spills the beans, reminds me too much of how she used to behave then. It seems natural for me to react like this, but obviously to anyone who didn't live through being her sister as a child, it seems extremely slightly mad.

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OutOutLetItAllOut · 29/09/2010 17:32

wow
YABU
and a freak

Original poster
nickelbabe · 29/09/2010 17:33

ooh, slimming world chilli and rice sounds nice. :)

i'm going swimming this evening, so won't get food until about half past 9.

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Fimbo · 29/09/2010 17:34

This isn't about the baby though really is it? It is about the life you had with your sister growing up.

Please tell me you are going to be a kind and loving auntie?

megapixels · 29/09/2010 17:34

What people did as kids, you can't hold it against them. What she's done now as an adult isn't bad, she's been rather accomodating in agreeing to keep it quiet for you by not referring to it on FB.

Morloth · 29/09/2010 17:36

Even if she tortured you as a child this still sounds completely mad. If she is that awful don't have anything to do with her. You can't dictate who she speaks to and what she says because she was mean to you growing up.

KurriKurri · 29/09/2010 17:37

You can't see clearly that YABU, because you are coming at it from the wrong angle. You come from the point of view 'My sister is selfish, irresposible and a blabbermouth, - and this is just another example of it'.
maybe that's the problem, everything she does is interpreted in the light of how you view her, so she's never going to be able to do anything right in your eyes.

In reality, it's not up to you to tell her she can or can't announce her baby's sex on FB. She can do whatever she likes, you only get to make the rules when it's your baby. Your original request was unreasonable, so she's decided to ignore it.

Its easy for me to say that, because I'm not related to her and don't have a history with her. So it's an objective viewpoint. I'm sorry the whole situation is making you so upset though.

LittleWhiteWolf · 29/09/2010 17:37

At least you were surprised when you saw the update...if anything it was more of a surprise seeing it that way at 22 weeks rather than at 9 months! Grin

diddl · 29/09/2010 17:38

But can´t you see that what you´ve asked her to do is unreasonable & that she was likely to "fail this test" that you have set her?

Thus giving you a non existent (imo) grievance.

Do you often find fault where there is none?

AgentZigzag · 29/09/2010 17:39

I think the OPs got the message she was being unreasonable, she's admitted she was, lots of people post when they're raging and then regret it. All credit to her that she's backed down and said she was wrong.

I don't think there's any reason to call her all the names under the sun, it's obvious she's got issues with her sister, and who hasn't gone totally OTT at someone for something small when in fact it's just the straw that broke the camels back?

Hope you're OK nickelbabe Smile

cookielove · 29/09/2010 17:40

Shock about your views on your sister

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