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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think that my stupid sister is an idiot as she has just outed the gender of her bump on facebook?

183 replies

nickelbabe · 29/09/2010 17:00

She was asked on Facebook by me and a couple of her other fb friends that she not put what the sex of her bump is (she's 22weeks). She's managed that fine on her own posts, but she's commented on one of her friend's statuses thus:
"Alls well here....Bump getting a little bigger, been spending lots of money on clothes for him....." (forgive her punctuation errors - she hardly ever went to school Hmm)

how stupid is she????? Angry

surely she knows that I can see all the posts she's written, not just the posts that she's started?

I'm soooooooooo mad at her.

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Librashavinganotherbiscuit · 29/09/2010 17:41

You are coming across as slightly nuts op.

LadyintheRadiator · 29/09/2010 17:41

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Fimbo · 29/09/2010 17:41

Actually Facebook is the problem. I don't think people realise that if you are their friend you can see what they post on other people's walls. My dh thinks its crap and has deleted his account after I discovered my neighbour bitching about me in this way. If you didn't have FB you would never have known and you would not have ended up in this stew.

So in conclusion ban Facebook and all will be right with the world again.....Grin

ApocalypseFlangePop · 29/09/2010 17:42

There, there dear. All will be fine Wink

AgentZigzag · 29/09/2010 17:42

Some siblings are like that cookie, I'm glad you haven't had someone like that mess with your head.

PrinceRogersNelson · 29/09/2010 17:42

But don't you think it's a bit odd to care so much about not knowing the gender of your DN that you ask the parents to keep it from you?

Never mind how mad you are at her for not keeping it from you - I find it really odd that you felt justified in asking her in the first place.

Imarriedafrog · 29/09/2010 17:42

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IUsedToBeFab · 29/09/2010 17:43

I think some of you have misunderstood me. If someone tells me they know the sex I always say I would like a surprise and they have all been okay with that. Certainly haven't stopped them discussing the baby with me and if he/she is mentioned it is no biggy. I assume they do like I did and say one or the other as it is better than it.

thistimeiwilldoit · 29/09/2010 17:44

YABVU - don't think you can request that someone else keep the sex of their baby a secret from you. I'd understand if she had outed the sex of your baby, but this? No.

diddl · 29/09/2010 17:45

"I don't think people realise that if you are their friend you can see what they post on other people's walls."

Isn´t that only if their walls are open to you?

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nickelbabe · 29/09/2010 17:46

yes, yes, yes, yes, I know!! i am unreasonable!!

I've admitted that, and I've tried to explain why it's all come out.

I sent her a text message (after you'd all made me see sense)

saying

"a boy, is it? congratulations, but you're crap at keeping secrets Wink"

she replied with "Hey I haven't written on facebook! only on one person's wall who's not your friend! but yes it is. was upset at first but am o.k. now"

I was nice, she was nice.
If i hadn't come on here to ask AIBU, i would have yelled at her, which is not good, so you have stopped me from doing that, given me a chance to calm down, see that I am being a twat, and let me congratulate her in the proper manner.

thanks :)

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scottishmummy · 29/09/2010 17:46

are you always prone to such histrionics?bitching about sister like that. calling her stupid.nice

frankly if she wants to get a T-shirt printed and pop a post-it note on her head announcing boy then that's up to her.keep your beak out

i do hope you calm the fuck down before baby arrives

AgentZigzag · 29/09/2010 17:47

Nice one OP Smile

JenaiMarrHePlaysGuitar · 29/09/2010 17:48

But you're not playing the AIBU game, nickel.

You're supposed to call us all names and then storm off saying you'll never come back to the viper's nest that is MN again! Grin

Tippychoocks · 29/09/2010 17:48

Smile Takes a lot to admit you're wrong. I never do. Well done Grin

5DollarShake · 29/09/2010 17:48

IUsedToBeFab - that's the crucial difference - you say if they slip up it's no biggie. However, when the OP's sister slipped up, all hell broke loose. Can't you see the difference?

No-one would think you're weird for not wanting to know the sex of someone else's baby; but rather for flipping up big stylee if they inadvertently told you. :)

scottishmummy · 29/09/2010 17:50

common sense prevails!congratulations to sister on pg

proudnglad · 29/09/2010 17:52

You silly old billy, nickel.

Fimbo · 29/09/2010 17:57

Diddl, I can see friends posts/comments on walls of other people who I am not friends with. Maybe those people do have their walls open though.

StayFrosty · 29/09/2010 17:57

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sloanypony · 29/09/2010 17:57

YABU but you know that so I wont bleat on.

Just one thought for you to ponder in this - bear in mind your sister can't help NOW what she was like as a child. She can't change the past. She can be who she is now. That is all.

The rest is up to you. So you dealing with these issues, how you feel, how you deal with her etc, only you can do that. She can't rewind.

You need to deal with that, because she can't now - its too late, it happened, its in the past. She can only be who she is now and it sounds like that is not too bad.

Its up to you chick

badcoverversion · 29/09/2010 17:59

Did you ever consider that your sister might actually be excited to tell people "hey it's a boy"? and your selfish demands are actually depriving her of that simple pleasure.

Get a grip FFS.

Edit: I see you came to your senses after all. Good for you.

IUsedToBeFab · 29/09/2010 17:59

5dollar - I might be a little bit disappointed that it is no longer a surprise but I certainly wouldn't throw a strop. The OP has calmed down now so all is well. Grin

diddl · 29/09/2010 18:02

Fimbo-I think I can on some.

I´ve got everything set to friends only, although I rarely comment/wallpost anyway.

LadyBiscuit · 29/09/2010 18:02

Aww glad there was a happy ending. And good on you for being a big person and admitting you were wrong. I'm not very good at that Blush