to think that my stupid sister is an idiot as she has just outed the gender of her bump on facebook?

[nickelbabe]

She was asked on Facebook by me and a couple of her other fb friends that she not put what the sex of her bump is (she's 22weeks). She's managed that fine on her own posts, but she's commented on one of her friend's statuses thus:
"Alls well here....Bump getting a little bigger, been spending lots of money on clothes for him....." (forgive her punctuation errors - she hardly ever went to school )

how stupid is she?????

surely she knows that I can see all the posts she's written, not just the posts that she's started?

I'm soooooooooo mad at her.

Facebook AND sex of baby. Is this an MN 2 for 1 offer?

FWIW my best friend is similarly an absolute tyrant on the question of finding out the sex. You MUST NOT find out the sex. And if you DO she MAY forgive you as long as you DO NOT inform her or let slip in anyway (this is with other people's pregnancies btw). I don't get the issue. Fine, with your own pregnancy but expecting other people to live up to her philosophy is a bit much.

nickelbabe, as you are a usually a sane, normal, nice poster, I did wonder if this was an AIBU-in-reverse????
But probably not - in which case it's one of those sibling things I don't get :o

Bonkers as conkers.

you would have yelled at her?

Sweet Jesus, if I didn't recognise your name I would have sworn this was a wind up.

You sound jealous TBH.

nickle,

well done on being able to admit your being unreasonable, and being nice to your sis about it. It takes alot to that .

I really hope one day you and your sister can have a better relationship, as it does come across very strained. Maybe one day you two will be able to get over what is in the past together, obviously not when pregnancy is an issue, as thats stressfull enough.

Now treat yourself to something nice and cheer yourself up a bit

Well done Nickel.

Takes a lot to do that. I'm sad that your sister was upset to find out it was a boy - hopefully you can be there to help her through this sadness.

YABU

Whew, glad you came to your senses (and well done for admitting it, I never can ).

Her baby is not your surprise, sorry. Why should she watch her every word, especially when she isn't even talking directly to you?

Oops, too late, sorry

That was fun :)

YABU, its her choice, at least now you know what colour to buy!!!

Well done you:)

Actaully NIckel it might not be a bad idea to look into getting some sort of therapy/counselling for yourself. Because if you carry on holding grudges against your sister for whatever your childhood was like, to this sort of screechy mad extent, you are going to make yourself miserable as well as other people, and a decent therapist can help you let it all go.

This won't be a popular thing to say but I don't think your text to her was all that great really. "You are crap at keeping secrets"? Erm, no she isn't. She posted on the wall of a friend you don't know. You read it. Come on. You couldn't even rise above your own issues enough to send a text without a caveat like that?

Someone once said that we are defined not by what happens to us, but by how we choose to react. What happened to you was that you grew up with a sister who made you feel bad in many ways. OK, fine. It was/is hard. How you are choosing to react, though, is by calling her stupid, piggy, greedy and mean, and slagging her off with incredible rudeness on a public forum where she may well see it, before grudgingly backing down in the face of overwhelming disagreement.

I don't think that reflects well on you tbh, and your sneakily bitchy text to her doesn't really make it all OK.

YABU and you are also either a troll or a very weird individual. And if YOU had attended school a bit more maybe you would know the difference between sex and gender.

nb is not a troll

She is not a troll bumder and I don't think you have read the whole thread?

Well done for sorting it out nicelbabe.

It's a good that you realised you were being rediculous.

If she has a 3rd DC, make sure you remember she is having the DC, not you. If you don't want to know the sex of the baby, tough. It's not your surprise that's being spoilt.

hahahahah nickelbabe you are NUTS. glad to see you have partially come to your senses, although would say that she is not crap at keeping secrets, you are a bit crap for asking her to.

Well done for backing down. Hope you make things better with your sister - the whole thing sounds like a really weird relationship (including the jab in your so called congratulatory message) But yes, well done for backing down

I have read the whole thread.
Maybe just a part-timer but I'm not having it that this is real!

BTW "she's crap at keeping secrets" - it's not a secret if she doesn't want it to be a secret. You are just being princessy not wanting to know when everyone else does - to the extent of stopping her discussing it with her own mum because your desire not to know is more important!

nickelbabe I've been noticing your posts lately and I have to say that I like you, you seem very fair and kind and generally a good egg to me

so in the nicest possible way, your bonkers-ness on this thread is very disproportionate

I have a big sister who put me through hell too - I can't even find words to express how utterly beserk the very mention of her makes me feel

I think I may actually be medically allergic to her

hate doesn't cover it

I spent my entire childhood terrified of her, it was like a cat toying with a mouse

so I have some idea of how you felt when you combusted internally and posted this thread! I second counselling, it does help, but also if she really brings you out in spots maybe you should minimise contact a bit?