To not "take to" a friend's child because she isn't attractive

[princesstumble]

This isn't something I have spoken about to anyone because I feel pretty awful about it. One of my friend's has a nearly 2 year old. I have seen this friend & her child once or twice a week since her child was born. But I haven't taken to her like I have with my other friend's children. There is nothing wrong with this little girl. She is a typical little toddler & very smiley. But I don't feel affection for her because she isn't attractive. (I am always very nice to her though). I haven't even spoken to my husband about this because I know that it is wrong. I am very fond of other friend's children & I love my own. Does anyone else feel like this or am I the only shallow one?

Just you

I don't necessarily take to chlidren full stop.

it's just you.

Nah it's not - no one likes mingers.

There are always going to be some people you don't find attractive - I'm quite sure that can easily apply to a toddler. Not all children are cute (nor are all adults).

Enjoy my first ever oh shallow one

I do find that rather horrifying I'm afraid

I can't respect people who judge others on their looks, and in the case of a child it's even worse

but we all find some children easier to warm to than others

if I find in my job that I am finding a child difficult to connect with, I make a point of spending more time interacting with him/her until I find something to like

it has never failed yet

Really

At least you admitted you're shallow.

yabu
but you know that
you sound ugly

Are you serious?

Er

Your post makes you sound like a superficial and shallow person who can't see past the surface of anything. Is this the case?

How is she "not attractive"?

Is she covered in pus-filled warts or something?

Is it really that simple / shallow?
Or is there something about this poor child that reminds you of someone or something, or some other reason for your feelings?

People develop different levels of affection (and otherwise) for children they know, but not solely on looks!

I find it more weird that the OP feels affection for all of her other friends' children TBH.

You even have to ask ?!?

Sticking my neck out society does tend to be less pleasant towards the physically unprepossesing - it is a fact. It is the 'primitive' in us. I don't think it would stop me taking to a child though - particularly if she is smiley and happy....

Ugly children shouldn't be allowed. I would have given mine back if they had let me. Only pretty people matter.
I hope you are attractive and I am not posting to a munter.
Mother Teresa - ugly cow
Bill gates - minger
Don't even get me started on Stephen Hawkings and Einstein.

Make her put a britany spears mask on ( before she became fat and stupid of course). Or Suri Cruise.
You know it makes sense

I can't take to some children but not because of their looks.

Btw lots of ugly kids grow up to be really attractive and vice versa.

That is really sad. It is all very well to judge someone on their appearance, we all do it to a greater or lesser degree. Appearance is not the only factor to take into account though! Many more important elements combine to make a person what they and frankly you are a twat if this is news to you.

lol Trillian

yuck

If I didn't make myself clear - what I meant was, surely one get over the initial (irrational and unreasonable) prejudice and see the person within

Go on then - lets see a picture of you ...

Princesstumble has only posted once before - on this thread, btw

I think that OP is a bit of a shallow prick.

Still, most people judge on personality so I am willing to bet that OP is very lonely.

Quite frankly, you need help.