To not "take to" a friend's child because she isn't attractive

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This isn't something I have spoken about to anyone because I feel pretty awful about it. One of my friend's has a nearly 2 year old. I have seen this friend & her child once or twice a week since her child was born. But I haven't taken to her like I have with my other friend's children. There is nothing wrong with this little girl. She is a typical little toddler & very smiley. But I don't feel affection for her because she isn't attractive. (I am always very nice to her though). I haven't even spoken to my husband about this because I know that it is wrong. I am very fond of other friend's children & I love my own. Does anyone else feel like this or am I the only shallow one?

YABU but it's ok.

Your mate and her DC probably haven't taken to you either, what you being so shallow and all.

Actually I mean once, she hasn't posted before at all (unless under a different name)

What makes a toddler "attractive" anyway? Are you usually attracted to toddlers? Completely irrelevant IMO, and yes, you are very unreasonable.

At least you're admitting that you feel awful about it & we can't always help how we feel. You haven't spoken to other people about it which would be worse especially if they knew the child or her mother. I'm sure we all prefer some children to others, especially the cuter ones.

This isn't for real.

Get fucking real.

Wow wonder if your "friend" thinks your dcs are quite awfull to look at also

Hope your next baby isn't an ugly one.

She is a TROLL guys (violates MN policy on trolls and awaits reprimand)

Just flagging it because she isn't worth getting steamed up about

The child is not yet two and you are judging her on looks. I'm judging you and finding you unattractive and charmless.

get one of these for when they are over

I won't bother replying -I'm probably not attractive enough for you to even bother about what I think

if they don't look like this I don't let em in

Ignoring the OP, does anyone honestly judge children on their attractiveness???

Pagwatch I wouldn't let one in if it did look like that.

of course they don't.
Only pagent moms possibly. And Jerry Springer guests.

Boden took out an injunction on my family preventing the purchase of their clothes due to the unattractiveness of us....something about bad publicity.

Arf at Pagwatch

i dont like lots of children, its usually to do with my not liking their parents more. Are you sure you just really dont like your "friend". you dont have to like everyone, i think there is another reason you dont like this child, and her looks are just grating on you because you dont like her at and are picking.

Well the OP is clearly a troll. But still, horrible thing to say regardless.

Um, I don't think I've ever met a 2yo that isn't 'attractive'. They all are by dint of being 2 years old. If my 2yo wasn't attractive, she'd be out with the bins on a Tuesday. They rely on being 'attractive' to balance out their terrible behaviour so that adults don't give them away to the highest bidder.

Attractive doesn't just mean pretty you know. I assume you mean she isn't pretty... Thank goodness we don't all feel like that.

I know this is a troll but it is interesting.

We all judge attractiveness. And people usually attribute positive personal characteristics to people they perceive attractive. Good looking = happy/intelligent/funny etc. So it is quite easy to 'take to' someone who is better looking.

There are some ugly kids about too, one at nursery that I think may actually be a goblin, but I would never say out loud

Just how ugly is the child?

I expect 'The Wright Stuff' to take this on as one of their discussions.

Why do people choose to be unattractive? lol. I have never found a child unattractive but I do cringe when I see toddlers with a shaved head, earing combo - poor things.