To be stressed about this?

[thefirstmrsDeVere]

Ok, following on from 'lots of needy threads' thingy.

Here is your space to tell everyone what is 'stressing' you at the moment. I mean 'stress' because we all know its not the end of the world, there are people far worse off than us blah blah. I have a seperate thread for the thing that causes me real, deep down stress and I have the SN boards for my other really stressful thing.

This is for the stuff like:

Someone in my family messed up the combination on the little padlock I keep on a certain kitchen cupboard (long story, dont judge). I bought a combination lock because someone kept losing the key to the other one. So at stupid oclock this morning I had to unscrew the bloody door to get at the baby breakfast that is also kept in there (note - I dont lock the baby food up, it is just kept in there as well)

Did the shopping in Morrisons today, full of horrible people shouting at each other and buying pies. Got to my car, opened the boot only to find my OH had put the buggy in there and didnt think to tell me. Drove home with boxes of rice crispies etc falling on me every time I turned the corner.

DC2's school bus is late every flippin day and its COLD.

Next promised I could have my new biker boots today and they LIED.

All that lovely hair I had thanks to two quite close together pregnancies has now fallen out. Crowning glory? No.

Anyone want to join me in a big ol whinge fest?

Thanks thefirstmrsdeere I got out twice on my bike today. Not as I would have planned it but had a good couple of hours getting up on the moors this morning and I have done a night ride. It's getting dark earlier now and was pitch black at 9.30 when I came out of the woods.
I managed to sort all the family dramas that were going on
Hopefully I can get a morning of snowboarding before work tomorrow!

Maybe your biker boots will turn up tomorrow! Fingers crossed

Ex husband who is a k@@b and keeps dragging the sale of our house back to court so that makes me struggle for money as need to pay the solicitor even though the judge has ordered him to pay costs. Then worry that my house wont sell so that i can be rid of him.

Just had an operation on my bowel and ovary and feel fat,bloated and very unattractive. Worry about my job as only been there for 5 months.

stress because my boyfriend wants us to live together and i am scared that it wont work out and what happens if i hate living with someone again.

Want to tell my best friend to get a grip a realise how lucky she is when she is moaning about how hard she is working and doesnt have enough money when she hasnt a mortgage gets a new car every couple of years and paid holidays 4 times a year by her dad and no fella to stress here out.

stress because feel that I am doing a rubbish job of being a parent to my 2 ds

mumofthreesweeties they are not true friends then as friendship is about having different views and valuing a different of opinion.

MrsDV are you everyone's favourite agony aunt ? You say such lovely things to everyone. Another thanks for starting this thread.

Today was stressy, ds is not very well, dh is on a late and I am at work also. I still feel like crying and I am toying with the idea of going to the docs to speak to them about how I am feeling. Not a great day

Rindercella when my db died I found that I had a lot of time for those that reached to me in whatever way they did. Please reach out to this lady. With 2 small ones, another idea to money could be food? From your posts I know that you are have a pretty stressful time at the mo too, but even just the card will speak volumes. It is amazing how many people don't send/say/blatantly ignore such sad events.

This is a nice thread, thank you. You are all lovely. And it is a weirdly uplifting thread though am not sure why as people having horrible times, I think its that people are being supportive to each other, be it a mop problem or a somewhat larger one.

Was going to write back to everyone, but find myself feeling a bit too defeated to post. sorry.

I am stressed cos i am so tired through to the bone. I am not feeling 'fight-y' at all today, feeling all weak and insubstantial and pale and wobbly. Like a cold rice pudding.

I don't know what to do about him, I feel so defeated by everything.

WIP - I feel for you, I lost a close family member 2 years ago, so I can understand maybe how you are feeling, its pretty awful, hope you are being kind to yourself.

Newbie here. So glad I found this thread, it's nice to know I have somewhere to let off steam that doesn't involve yelling at the top of my lungs and scaring the neighbours(more on them later).

DS1 is like Jekyll and Hyde lately. One minute he's sweetness and light, the next, he's auditioning for the remake of Kevin and Perry. And he's suddenly turned into a ladies man. in the space of two months, he's had three 'girlfriends'.

DD is a fucking diva. Full of attitude which she knows pisses me off no end. Probably why she does it. Although she did come with me to her new secondary school's Open Night. I've never seen her so excited about going to school since her first day of primary. :)

DS2, while a quiet boy most of the time, has been watching how his big brother does things and has now developed a small attitude. Started playing trumpet in the school band and is now complaining that his lips hurt.

I really want to redecorate my house, but don't have the funds at the moment, and it's annoying me. DH was promoted in work, and I barely see him.

Next door neighbours are really pissing me off. Long story, but it culminated in a petrol bomb being lobbed at their front window at 3am. Thank God, it didn't go off, but our house stank of petrol for the weekend. Went to council to ask if we could be moved, and they say they're working with the family to get things sorted out.

Can someone send me to a beach where Johnny Depp can peel and feed me grapes?

My post on this was just lighthearted and nothing to moan at.

I'm really sorry that some people are having tough times atm. I hope things will get better for you all soon.

I remember when we were going through our crisis a few years ago there was no way I could imagine things ever getting better and having no way to turn.

My mantra is nothing stays the same for ever, good bad or indifferent. So eventually there will be change.

Good luck everyone.

Just want to say this thread is fantastic and made me feel better just writing what is stressing me, and made me realise that alot of people are stressing about alot of things that i do so dont feel that i am totally alone and unreasonable. Thanks

Am worried that my chronic fatigue is returning.

DH wants me to give up work (but it's the only thing I'm good at)and he can't/won't see that money will be VERY tight if I stop working.

Have got to think about looking at universities with dd and have no idea how to go about it.

Have nagged school since year 1 about dyslexic ds (10), his statement only came through in July and school still haven't done anything to implement it.

Thank you, I feel better now I've written it all down.

I've been wound up by MIL, work, having to increase dose of antidepressants, pissed off with being an orphan.

I feel better having read some of your woes on here tho' - puts mine in a bit of perspective.

electric - i am outraged on your behalf about your boss. What a tosser is it worth going to CAB over? legally there are such things as implied contracts - don't know if it applies in your case tho'

marjee - baby groups can be really painfull! I made a supreme effort to go with DD2, and have met 3 really lovely women who I sometimes meet up in town for a coffee with. One in particular is, on the surface, so different to me: 22 yrs younger than me [shocked] and lives on the estate that i would usually have made horrible snobbish comments about[ blush]. I have learnt a lot about myself recently.
I agree with the poster who suggested that you start asking " how old, what's her/his name - oh how lovely!, what's her favourite weaning foods, what do you think about the doidy cup i was going to get one and try (or whichever baby product you fancy), or suggest if the weather is good does anyone want to meet up for a walk in the park? Pretend you are at work and having to make small talk with a customer. Don't be influenced by what people are wearing or how they speak either.
There, lecture over!!

double easier said than done, leaving a dodgy relationship. If its drugs or alcohol related, see if there is a support group at your local D&A service for family. If not, drag him to the GP and make him get assessed for depression or other MH problem. If not, try anger management groups - relate do them.
You probably know all that though, sorry.

May come back and have a proper winge when i have got DD2 down for a nap.

btw - mrsdevere ROFL at your description of morrisons! However i went there yesterday and they had some really beautiful cala lillies for only £2.50, so that made up for the rest!

Thank you for listening to us all.

Morning

This morning I am stressed because one of my dogs has gone in for an operation on her ear and another one is constantly whining and howling because they are usually joined at the hip.

I am also worried about ds1, who went back to school today after being off sick since last Thursday afternoon. He didn't school refuse, which was a big improvement, but he was so stressed last night and this morning that he was rude, cheeky and stroppy and constantly picked on his little brother. He also made one bowl of porridge last 3/4 hr and then took almost half an hour to drink half a cup of water.

Moose, my DD and DS2 are always doing that. We give them some supper before they go to bed, and they try their damndest to miss their bedtime.

Drives me nuts, good job we were up early this morning or he'd have made everyone late.

Both my boys try it on at tea/bedtime as well. Their 20 month old dd can finish a meal in half the time it take them.

I wrote a long post here last night when I was stuck late at work about two people who had upset me badly and then when I (unlike my normal people pleasing behaviour) called them on it went into silent mode. I hadnt heard back from either for several days and was fuming that I was going to be expected to apologise for being upset !

And then the mumsnet gremlins ate it so it didnt make it to the page. Which made me even more as even posting isnt working for me.

But somehow, just writing it made a (partial)solution appear and when I finally got home I received the nicest, most understanding, most loving note from one of them I have ever had in my entire life. I cried of course....[tears of joy emoticon]

So MrsDV - is this thread actually linked to cosmic ordering? Will all my stresses be magiced away by the power of your lovely thread? Thank you so much for starting it.

Another food related rant. Why do my kids think that I'm cooking dinner to order?

"Don't want mashed potatoes, mum, can I have whole ones?"

"DON'T GIVE ME ANY VEGETABLES!!!" (This would be DS1, who has had a lifelong aversion to any veg)

"Muuum, do I have to eat my broccoli?".

Honestly, the 16 month old is easier to feed than his older siblings!

NineTails20 have you been feeding my dcs?

I also get the "what are we having?" question, followed by "oh, why can't we have X?" accompanied by lots of pained looks and sound effects.

I have tried to explain to them that boys cannot live on pizza and pasta alone, but they simply refuse to believe me.

If my 16 year old could get away with smothering everything in curry sauce, he'd be a very happy boy! [grin}

Have namechanged for this cause it's kinda silly. I'm stressed cause I'm feeling blue (or maybe it's I'm stressed and I'm feeling blue)

Anyway - there are a few things getting to me.

I'm fiercely broody at the moment. And I know that it's definitely not the time to TTC. Both DH and I are currently seeking employment.

I have a kinda serious amount of weight to lose (am on WeightWatchers for it) I fell off of the wagon, couldn't go last week and I'm dreading weigh in today. (My leader is kinda scary!)

I've felt kinda blue since Monday and the fact that my Salsa class (brilliant exercise) has been cancelled just, well, sucks.

Thanks for listening. Just writing it down made me feel a little better. I'll let you know how the weigh in went.

DD it's not silly, that's the point!

I'm going to have to repeat my stress of last week to announce that we have STILL NOT BLOODY MOVED HOUSE!

If in a few years I pop up on MN asking about moving house again please remind me how horrible it has been this time and DON'T LET ME DO IT!

I'm ill. Not life threatening ill or even long ill, but just stomach bug ill. Am also pathetic when I'm unwell. DP being more than lovely to me so now feel both
ill and guilty for being so rubbish.

A v minor stress, but there nevertheless!

I am ELEVEN fucking days overdue.

Tomorrow I have to go into hospital probably for a minimum of 3 days and I have never ever been away from ds (3) before and I am scared that something will happen to me or the baby, ds will never trust me again, I will lose my bond with him, he will not sleep or eat when i am away.

This baby is meant to be enormous and Ive had high BP for a few weeks but I am being induced a day late (I know its only a day) because they didnt book me in when they should have.

I feel like a rubbish mummy.

I just want to have my baby and for us both to be safe, at this moment I am CONVINCED something really and truly terrible is going to happen and am absolutely petrified.

Oh TheUnmentioned, you poor thing. Being overdue is stress enough, without all the extras you are trying to deal with on top of it.

Sounds daft and its not easy, but try to focus on what you want to happen rather than what you don't want to happen, it really does help.

You won't lose your bond with ds. I felt exactly the same when I went in to have ds2 (who incidentally is right here cuddling up to me on the sofa at the grand old age of nearly 9). Its only natural to feel like that, but they are hardy little monkeys these children and capable of coping with far more than we give them credit for. I was actually a little hurt to realise that ds1 had been having so much fun while I was in hospital that he didn't really have time to miss me.

Good luck for your induction. I am sure it will all go well and you will be snuzzling a lovely soft baby head before you know it.

Have a whole bunch of very unmnetty ((hugs))

I got bitten buy a weird looking Bug and my Arm is all itchy, sore and swollen.

My teeth hurt as they always do after i see the dentist.

I need to loose weight but have the self control of Ashley Cole.

My lovely friend is sad and far away and i feel i should be helping but i cant.

DS2 has already informed me he will be coming in my bed tonight, he has started to visit nightly for about 2 weeks and sees no problem with it, he peed in my new bed last night.

I have no money.

I am working 28 hours a week in my part-time job.

I am in Uni 24 hours every week.

I am by myself with DS 3 evenings and two mornings a week while DP is working when I should be getting Uni assignments and essays done.

DS is starting creche next week (only for 3 afternoons a week, 12 hours in total but I still feel shit about it.)

I washed DS's teddies today and it is going to rain for the next week and I will never ever get them dey.

The house is in a mess.

DS is the world's crappiest sleeper.

DP will never get an engineering job because the entire country is a big fucking mess and he worked his arse off for 5 years to get his degree; and now he is working in a petrol station and it's not FAIR!!!!

I am procrastinating on MN when I have a shitload of shit to do.