To be stressed about this?

[thefirstmrsDeVere]

Ok, following on from 'lots of needy threads' thingy.

Here is your space to tell everyone what is 'stressing' you at the moment. I mean 'stress' because we all know its not the end of the world, there are people far worse off than us blah blah. I have a seperate thread for the thing that causes me real, deep down stress and I have the SN boards for my other really stressful thing.

This is for the stuff like:

Someone in my family messed up the combination on the little padlock I keep on a certain kitchen cupboard (long story, dont judge). I bought a combination lock because someone kept losing the key to the other one. So at stupid oclock this morning I had to unscrew the bloody door to get at the baby breakfast that is also kept in there (note - I dont lock the baby food up, it is just kept in there as well)

Did the shopping in Morrisons today, full of horrible people shouting at each other and buying pies. Got to my car, opened the boot only to find my OH had put the buggy in there and didnt think to tell me. Drove home with boxes of rice crispies etc falling on me every time I turned the corner.

DC2's school bus is late every flippin day and its COLD.

Next promised I could have my new biker boots today and they LIED.

All that lovely hair I had thanks to two quite close together pregnancies has now fallen out. Crowning glory? No.

Anyone want to join me in a big ol whinge fest?

I have logged in special just to say hello

I am knackered so cant write much but I have read all the new posts and am sending vibes.

Cant go without saying '11 DAYS OVERDUE!! FECKING NORA!' you poor love. I hope it all goes well and you get your lovely baby really soon.

So many people putting up with so much crap, its rubbish.

apple give yourself time to get over your op. Having an anesthetic can have lots of unexpected affects and can take ages to get over. No wonder you are feeling so rubbish. Why do you think you are being a rubbish mum? You seem to be putting your DCs first to me.

MBear have you been to the Docs or made an appointment? Might be a good idea if you have a nice GP.

Double how was today? Has OH said anything about what happened? You dont have to discuss it if you dont want to. I hope you are safe and are finding a way to work this stuff out.
ninetails bloody hell its rough round here but I have yet to deal with a petrol bomb. I dodged a machete about a year ago but I think a molatove (sp) cocktail beats that (cant help thinking that is inappropriate)

Riddo I have no clue about Universities. I have a couple of years to work it out but just sorting out college for DS1 was horrible. I felt like an idiot. Me and OH really value education and want the kids to do well but we both left school early.

moose is the dog have the ear done? I used to be a vet nurse and we did loads of them. Mostly on soppy labradors

DD I am also very broody and I have only just had DC5 five months ago. I am also 43 and turn into a hormonal nightmare when pg. Now thats silly. We cant help our urges. Hope you and OH get sorted workwise soon.

Iheart Moving to this house (our first) traumatized me so much I swore I would never do it again. I havent changed my mind yet about 10 years later

Pottering I am really crap when I am ill. It triggers all sorts off in my messed up psyche. Even a bloody cold. I really am a bit mental.

Workingit Cosmic ordering? Why not? How lovely that you go that note

Bustle you must be totally knackered and everything is hard when you are that tired. Dont feel bad about the creche. Most kids love daycare, besides you can leave the messy play to them and you dont have to put up with finger paints etc at home.

Dont get me started on fussy kids and food! My do ask my kids what they want but they all know they havent really got a choice. They do play along with the charade nicely bless em. DS3 always asks for pizza and chips so he obviously needs a bit more training.

titsalina ewwww pee in your bed. Thats motherhood for you. Stick a big towel under him. At least it might soak up the spillage before it gets over to your side

Sorry if I am sounding a bit platitudinous (dont know how to spell it but love that word since reading it in the latest Adrian Mole). Still trying to get used to school run. Its an hour earlier than when DS was in his maintstream school. YAWN.

Keep posting x

I can't seem to spell on here and it upsets me. I can spell (and did so for a flipping living!) so I appear uneducated and, well, just a bit dim.

The Unmentioned - 11 days! I'd be pulling the baby out myself. Not nice and uncomfortable so I hope baby arrives shortly.

My last one (as I have moaned a far bit) DS is requires a further weeks IV treatment - meaning we've done a months worth. It's a sign of DS's declining health and we are all knackered. Feeling very sorry for him (and slightly selfishly for myself too).

Ah bugger - a glass of wine is definitely in order.

I am very worried about my Mum who has a boyfriend who cheats on her and uses her. She doesn't have a job at the moment and so has NO money. She has a chronic disease. I get infuriated cos she takes him back after every shitty thing that he does. I tip toe around her cos I don't want to upset her. I have 2 lovely DDs who I have no patience with and I really wish I did :-(

*fair bit on this thread.

SEE - what the hell is wrong with me?! My children stole my brain at the point of birth honestly..

Thanks guys. moosemama your post about not losing the bond almost made me cry! (In a good way)

Will try the positive thinking. ds was 13 days late so am hoping this one wont beat him at that record.....

Thank you for your kind words guys. Sorry I didn't get back earlier. Weigh in went better than expected, my weight hadn't budged. I had feared massive weight gain.

To top it off I saw a beautiful bunch of roses in the local shop. They were only ?2.99 so I picked them up and now I have a beautiful living room.

Thanks for listening.

ThefirstmrsDeVere, yes she had her op yesterday. Twas a pinna haematoma as she has chronic malassezia pachydermitis. She was a rescue at 4 weeks and had a broken tail, double ear infection and MP even at that stage so its been a lifetime battle for her and us. She's a belgian shepherd X border collie and has pricked ears - so unusual to get a PH and despite years of ear problems this is her first (and hopefully her last). I think I missed the signs that her ear canals had got worse and she was head shaking more because I was out at the hospital so much last week. Poor thing. We are usually right on it with the drops and creams etc as soon as she shows any signs.

She's not in a good way, they have left the wound partially open to drain and she has 3 lots of stitches. Put the old lampshade collar on her and she immediately freaked out and popped a stitch, spraying blood all over the collar, the kitchen and dh. We have crated her and dh slept downstairs last night to keep her calm.

The state she's in has served to reaffirm my decision not to have my Wheaten's oral tumour removed though. They wanted to do a hemimandibulectomy, but at 13+ years, almost blind, partially deaf and a tad senile, I simply don't think she'd cope. Even if she survived the op, it would be too stressful and distressing for her. She's not in pain (well arthritis, but not from the growth) stinks to high heaven, but eats well and is generally happy doing her thang, bumbling about the garden a few times a day and sleeping most of day. She never did cope well with inpatient treatment and when she went in for her biopsy and teeth scale it took weeks for her to get back to normal.

AND on top of all that, I am stressed because the specialist inclusion team are going in to observe ds1 in class today and I really want them to realise how little he is coping and how much help he needs.

My Dd3 is not coping at school,
School don't care,
Have no communtiy peadiatrician for her because she left.
Am sick of work.
My Dd2 broke her second pair of schools shoes by trying to slip them on this morning.
Am supposed to b going to see tutor in a minute about a course that I signed up or but no longer want to do.
Am seriously pissed off.

Oh Ineed2 its the pits this whole education lark isn't it. All we want is for our dcs to get the support they need to at least be able to cope with school if not actually enjoy it.

Ds1 continually breaks the backs of his school shoes by slipping them on, despite being reminded every bloody time to undo them first. It took him just two days to knacker them this time.

You have every right to feel pissed off.

About the community paed thing. Don't we have a right to choose which hospital we're seen at these days - I could be wrong, I just have a vague feeling I've seen something about it somewhere. Might be worth checking on the NHS Choices website as if so, you might be able to ask for referral to a different hospital.

Hope you feel better soon.

Got back from the doc's this morning having been referred for blood tests, no hope of getting the right drugs for hormone issues and 2 weeks to get rid of the pain in my knee before I have to have surgery on it which will mean no driving with a 4yr old and a 2yr old and living in the back of beyond in rural France.

Oh and ds is on meds again to try and stop him getting his 6th chest infection of the year while he's still getting over toxoplasmosis.

err mine are petty

am i bf my 2 week old too much, my mum thinks so

when will he sleep more than 2 hours

booking a family trip to dps remote bloody island, nightmare logistically on so many levels

my mat leave cover is a bit too competent

good luck and love to those with worse....

I am stressed because I have been deleted from another site. A woman was discribing how she threatens her severely autistic child with the hoover when she is 'norty'. The child is terrified of the hoover presumably due to sensory issues. She consistantly refers to her very young child as naughty.

I asked her if she had stopped using this form of punishment and got deleted. Dont give a toss about that but am very stressed that this woman is doing this and the other site are more worried that she may feel 'unsupported' than the welfare of her child.

TFMDV that must be stressful, as obviously you won't know who or where she is and her poor child will be on your mind all the time now.

I am also disgusted that the site managers are more worried about the mother than they are the child. The only possible other reason I can think of, is that perhaps they think if she leaves the board it can't possibly get any better for the child, but if she stays she might eventually learn something?

As far as you being kicked off the board - their loss is our gain. You are a very valued member of mn (this thread alone has proved that) and they are losing out big-style by not allowing you to stay.

Thanks moose. Thats a lovely thing to say. I havnt been on there much lately. It was doing my head in. Its very playgroundy and incredibly passive agressive.
I have met loads of great people on there but I have them as FB friends now anyway.

I have been a member for years but only because i didnt know about Mumsnet them

I have a feeling I might know where you mean. If its where I think it is, I registered, stuck my head round the door and then left - sharpish!

I saw that thread on the 'other site' the woman seems like a total knobhead. Poor little girl.

I dont want this to turn into an internet turf war (tempting as it is) but I am pretty shocked at the mods attitude on there. I have been a member for years and some petty stuff has wound me up but this seems different.

I am will to own to being pretty wired at the moment so it could be getting to me more than it should. But my son is autistic.

Never mind. I have left and wont be going back.

DS1 is stressing me out in a huge way. DSs 2, 3 & 4 are being adorable so I guess thats pretty lucky.

I have purchased plastic underbed storage with lids. This is to prevent DDog2 from sleeping on my jeans and boots. I can just about cope with having to rewash the clothes but he has chewed through several pairs of boots in the last year. This can NOT be tolerated.

I do believe if something is bothering you , do something about it. Luckily Ikea is NOT one of my stressors so dog problem is now sorted

I want to leave my job but am scared to go and have the conversation that after 3 weeks I can't cope with it all.

I feel stupid that I am unable to handle working PT, running the house and taking care of DD who is 5 mornings at Kindergarten. But I really hate it and DD is starting to suffer because I am so hyped up.

DH is under immense pressure at work and I fear for his health and sanity.

I worry my CV will look shit after only 3 weeks in a really good job I worked hard to get.

Stressed and tired doing extra night shifts to put towards christmas when I don't sleep after cause I have do my day job and the school runs.
wish I had a magical self cleaning house!

ooh I love this thread!

Dp has talked me into picking him up from work and he isn't going to finish til 7.30 so instead of coming home and relaxing like I've been looking forward to all week I have to just hang around and I can't do much because I've pulled a muscle in my neck and shoulder.

I'm stressing about breast clinic appt on monday, how to make sure I'll have enough money for parking as I don't usually deal in cash, how long it's going to take me to get to friends to pick her up so she can come with me because DP has a meeting he can't get out of.

I'm also due my period so I'm probably just stressing about nothing really aren't I?

Am 34 weeks pg, have spd and, after having a lie in this morning got up to find DH had given DS3 SKITTLES to shut him up. He's 2. FFS!!!! I'll be shoving those skittles where the sun don't shine if he does it again.

And my 36 year old little brother is a total waste of effing space and I can't even begin to talk about what a twat he is without steam coming out of my ears. Needless to say, I'll be the only one looking out for my parents in their old age. Which is fine, but if he thinks he's borrowing any more money off me or them, I'm going to chop his balls of with a rusty implement. Ooh, thanks for that, I feel a bit better.

Thankyou so much for this thread. My friend has been having relationship problems. A week and a half ago she took pills and then one friend took her to hospital and me and another baby sat her children. We don't know what to do as she has fallen apart and behaving erratically. She seems to be better but we are all really worried that we might say something which tips her over the edge. I also feel bad because I have depression and can't really cope with the I want to die texts.

I need to leave my job as it is seriously affecting my mental health. I just cannot take much more but I am the main earner for the family and we just cannot manage without my wage, or a large proportion of it.

I am stressed all the time and having chest pains and dizzy spells. I had one picking my DC up from school today and I was so terrified. When I came home I lay down and have barely been able to do anything at home I feel so terrible.

Gave up stressful (but much loved) career 18months ago to have children. Goodbye acres of ground and sports car hello ex-council house (which in my own i love in my own way but i'm feeling culture shock).
Husband loses good job gets mimimum wage job but still ends up out the house 7am-9pm everyday including saturday.
I have a toddler now who although lovely i cant keep up with and i find out i'm 16 weeks pregnant.
The dog appears to have taken up barking at daft times and weeing when he's already been out!
I'm surrounded by the aftermath of a toddler on rampage still feeling sick and knackered.
Btw i am billy no mates and cant get it together to leave the house today.