To be stressed about this?

[thefirstmrsDeVere]

Ok, following on from 'lots of needy threads' thingy.

Here is your space to tell everyone what is 'stressing' you at the moment. I mean 'stress' because we all know its not the end of the world, there are people far worse off than us blah blah. I have a seperate thread for the thing that causes me real, deep down stress and I have the SN boards for my other really stressful thing.

This is for the stuff like:

Someone in my family messed up the combination on the little padlock I keep on a certain kitchen cupboard (long story, dont judge). I bought a combination lock because someone kept losing the key to the other one. So at stupid oclock this morning I had to unscrew the bloody door to get at the baby breakfast that is also kept in there (note - I dont lock the baby food up, it is just kept in there as well)

Did the shopping in Morrisons today, full of horrible people shouting at each other and buying pies. Got to my car, opened the boot only to find my OH had put the buggy in there and didnt think to tell me. Drove home with boxes of rice crispies etc falling on me every time I turned the corner.

DC2's school bus is late every flippin day and its COLD.

Next promised I could have my new biker boots today and they LIED.

All that lovely hair I had thanks to two quite close together pregnancies has now fallen out. Crowning glory? No.

Anyone want to join me in a big ol whinge fest?

I'm stressed because council fecked up sons transport and I'm having to take him now 120 miles a day.To top it off mum had a fall on Thursday and broke her arm and she's having to come here to stay as hospital wont let her go home, so dd2 will be sleeping in the living room which means poor kid will be woken up at 5.30 when I get up.

Logging in to check on my Stressalinas.

See we have grown in our ranks and that is how it should be.

giraffes I am very sorry about your mop and hope you can find a suitable replacement very soon. I wish the fleas of a million camels upon the person who stole it

Double sorry. Thats about all I can manage. Its sounds so unbelivably crap for you I dont think anything I say would do. I really hope that you can work things out with your husband, whatever that means. Do whatever is safe and best for you.

boarders I am feeling you (oooer). Today was the first day DS's transport turned up on time this (or last term). We have a pick up point that has no shelter, nowhere to sit and next to a busy road (just right for kids with ASD then).

Stamping I am struggling with my DS at the moment too. I love him soooo much but bloody nora is he hard work! His ASD is relatively mild but combined with his cognative difficulties and his fairly rarely diagnosed language problems - I feel like I have a massive toddler who sometimes acts like a 7 year old on my hands (he is 7).
Course you love him and you havent fucked him up. Do your best, thats all we can do for any of our kids. Take it from me, we grow up knowing if our parents put us first.

I have just become suddenly stressed because I realise I havent sent my financial form off to the OU because my OH's work wont give him his bloody P60!!!

Weird that baby is coming soon and all will be well once you sniff it's little fuzzy head

Rind fantastic. I am so pleased you have found someone amazing.

I feel like bursting into tears at any given moment. I have become used to this feeling and managed not to cry at all. I wonder if I should go on some sort of retreat and bawl for a week. Somewhere by the sea, with a sewing machine and lots of lovely fabric and my little dog. Food delivered and lots of books with pictures of beautiful clothes and how to make them........

:( DoubleLife, I'm not sure what the solution is.
How are things today? How was your DH after it happened?

Doublelife, hello, just wanted to say I can relate to how you feel about posting about your problems with your DH. My DH has also hit me on occasion. But like you, I don't want to post on here about it because I know what the response will be. But there is so much more to my story than the fact that DH hit me and I couldn't even begin to put it all down on here. So like you, I am also not able to totally open up and be truthful, either in RL or on MN.

I called women's aid for the first time at the weekend. They were very helpful and for the first time I feel I can talk to somebody in real life about my problems with DH who will not have an extreme reaction like those we seem to get on MN.

Mrs DV, sorry to hijack your thread a bit, I couldn't read Double's post and not respond.

Thanks MrsDeV. You want to do some sewing? ...Well, we need loads of sewing done - we have 3 x double doors + 2 windows to get curtains for before winter sets in. We are about as far from the sea as you can get in England though and our house is pretty noisy most of the time, so I think we would be getting the better part of the deal!!

Doublelife, I'm not sure what to say. I do know exactly what you mean though. I guess most people will only be thinking of your welfare, but it is very easy to shout, 'leave the bastard' when you are very far removed from the situation and don't know the full history. Just keep yourself safe and do what is right for you and your DS. x

DoubleLife I am a namechanger who regularly changes names to post about my awful ex as I know people will lose patience if they know I am still putting up with his shit after numerous threads and wonderful supportive advice.

I totally relate to what you are saying, more than you can know. Please CAT me if you want to.

Thanks for the advice thefirstmrsdeVere often it is just enough to hear that someone else just gets what you are going through.

Great thread btw.

thefirstmrsdeVere I so heard you when you said

"I feel like bursting into tears at any given moment. I have become used to this feeling and managed not to cry at all."

That beautifully encapsulated exactly how I have been feeling for the past few weeks. I am now at the point where I feel like I want/need to actually cry but can't, having surpressed the need for too long. Can't help feeling it would be really cathartic if I could though.

Your seaside retreat scenario is also one of my long-term fantasies. When things get tough I dream of a little one bedroom cottage with me and my dogs and a huge empty beach to walk on. I seriously would love to hear nothing but the roar of the sea and the scream of the seagulls (might even join in actually ). I usually get close-ish to this once a year, when we go on holiday. I leave dh and the dcs and hike miles up the beach with my dogs to the beautiful isolated point (nobody else makes it that far up). Then I sit and watch the waves roll in and talk to the seals that pop their heads up every now and again to watch me - bliss. Unfortunately, this year my leg was in a cast so I was lucky to make it onto the beach at all.

For me, this week has started in a similar vein to last.

Dd kept us awake all night again and then woke up with a stinking cold and diarrhea this morning. Ds1 was really poorly all morning, because his virus has aggravated his reflux, so he is now in pain, wobbly, dizzy and starving but struggling to eat more than a couple of mouthfuls of toast. We have also had several meltdowns because a) he missed swimming today b) he isn't allowed on his Nintendo c) he is just generally poorly and overloaded etc etc.

Called the fracture clinic first thing to be told that dd will have to have her wrist re-xrayed and re-assessed tomorrow morning and then reset in a new fibreglass cast. Ds1 will still be off sick, so this means dh has had to book the morning off to take us to the hospital, while Mum has ds1. Its the last half-day of holiday dh has left until Jan 11.

Also, noticed that while we have been concentrating on the dcs and hospitals etc the dog has shaken her bad ear so badly that she's gone and given herself a pinna haematoma (massive blood clot/blister of the ear flap) - which means she will need a minor op to sort it, plus lots of antibiotics etc (she has atypical dermatitis of the ear canals and malassezia pachydermitis, so has had regular ear infections since she was a tiny pup) - couldn't have come at a worse time, as I have enough nursing to do at home already and we are broke beyond belief. The vet is now going to give dh a hard time when he takes her in tonight for not catching it sooner, which means dh, in turn, will have it in for me (I am the dog person, but was too busy and stressed to notice what was happening with her last week - poor dog).

My mum died last week.

I would like to stress about Plusnet, as I've been doing it all over the rest of MN, and I feel sorry for the people out there.

Been trying to get broadband for now coming up to 7 weeks, and in all that time, we've only had one week of working broadband. Whenever I get moany at them, they get defensive - I have yet to have an apologry despite numerous cock ups. I called about a fault last week (I had tried calling on monday evening, but kept on getting hold music - twenty minutes of it at a time) and eventually managed to get through, and report it. They then asked me to do some stuff (plug router into master plug, try another microfilter etc. etc.) and it didn't do anything. A day later they called me - asked me to do EXACTLY the same thing, and guess what? Still not working. They then raised a query and gave me all the background etc. etc .... online. Which I obviously can't access at home, because I have no fecking broadband. THEN, the cheeky buggers say that if I don't do broadband checks within 48 hours, they're closing the query. They put this comment on their WEBSITE on Friday, and I only saw it today because (quelle surprise) I don't have broadband at home AND I have a life outside of chasing up on plusnet. They then sent me an email this morning saying "congratulations on having broadband for two weeks" (no I bloody haven't) and "your broadband speed is 5mb" (no it bloody isn't ... it is precisely 0mb at the moment, because it DOESN'T WORK).

I don't think they're doing this to wind me up deliberately (like having a message when you're on hold saying "problems with your broadband? Why not check our website" ) but, FFS. It's starting to feel VERY personal now.

WIP, so sorry to hear that. Hope you are getting lots of tlc and support.

I am pissed off because SIL keeps making barbed comments about me on Facebook, DP keeps grabbing my arse and making vulgar suggestions when I really DO NOT feel like it, work is hideous, my Dad keeps ringing me about pointless stuff, I havent started making a Christmas present list, Im fed up of being pale.

WIP - so sorry. That is another thing I am stressed about - I miss my mum too.

LOL mrsDevere - that post is so funny

Some of these posts are a bit sad though

Ok, here's mine

Someone keeps putting wet towels on my bed

Boots has sold out of Calpol vapour plug refills - my only chance of a good night's sleep

2 of my 3 children have their birthdays at Christmas and I haven't bought a single present yet

On holiday the sun faded my hair and it needs doing again already......

My period is 3 weeks late. I have every pregnancy symptom under the sun but no blue line on the bastard pee stick. I am sick to death with fertility problems but feel like a selfish cow because I have been blessed with 2 beautiful kids. I want to have all my 'female organs' ripped out so there can never be any confusion again and I want my bastard 38HH tits hacked off.

I have a cold.

My knee seems to have decided to break itself.

I want to burst into tears right now because everyone else has such major problems and I feel like a wuss.

thefirstmrsDeVere you amaze me. I'm newish on here but I've seen a few of your threads. You've been through so much but you always have time for everyone else and you never belittle anyone for feeling shit about their crap. Thank you for being so lovely

blimey. What a great thread. Nice that its ok to moan about little things and know no-one is going to have ago at you because there are bigger problems in the world.
My DS has suddenly started waking up in the night after being a great sleeper for about 9 months. Me and DP are knackered and we've just gone back to work after the summer so is not a good time for it. Also we are trying to sell our house to get somewhere bigger but the market is shit at the moment and we live in the south east so we can only afford a rabbit hutch anyway and inlaws who live in the north DO NOT understand this and keep hassling us to buy a 4 bed detached like theirs. If they'd like to bung us 50grand that would be fine!
Ooh, feel better now

Sorry I know this wasn't the right place to post as it not really a small stress. Not trying to trivalise it. Only there wasn't a 'what are you majorly stressed about thread'. I did start a thread about being annoyed about my sisters organisation of the funeral but I realised I was being unreasonable - so was she but it's not the time to dwell on it.

Oh god, sorry WIP, I wasn't even slightly getting at you at all. My sincere condolences for your loss and of course you should post on here or anywhere else! I hope things go as well as these things can. (hug)

WIP, so sorry about your mum. This thread is great for getting things off your chest, don't apologise for posting here. Do you want to talk about your mum? There are lots of us here to listen if it would help.

Thanks. I guess I am doing as well as can be expected. Glad to know I can come on here and vent if I need to !

WIP Sorry to hear about your mum.

I am now very stressed because I wrote replies to all of you and my pc suddenly took me back to facebook.

I wont redo it but it was basically saying its really fine to post here whatever your problem is.

Small problems need venting and who wants to start an AIBU about something you might get 'get a grip you loon' type replies about

WIP Big, huge things like the loss of your mum can be posted here too, of course they can. I am sorry

No one is a wuss on here, no one is a drama queen or attention seeker. The phrase 'tradgedy (however you bloody spell it) top trumps' is BANNED on here.

We all know that bereavement is more serious than missing a bus, we all know that we will survive if the plumber doesnt turn up. But we are allowed to get annoyed.

We are also allowed to post the things that seem impossible to put into words. Like 'my DD is dead' Like 'my OH hit me' , Like 'my mum died'. Because there isnt much space for those serious things either.

I have read every single one of these posts and they all mean something.

Some of your posts have such pain behind them. May sound a bit weird but I love (not quite the right word) the anger behind some of them. It means there is a some fight there.

I signed up for a sewing course today. Its a simple one because all the more advanced interesting ones were on the wrong days for me. But I am still a bit excited

Shit, MrsDeV, I have just realised who you are. I have always greatly admired you, I think you are strong, you are lovely and you are amazing.

'nuff said

Oh do give over I am nothing of the sort. But please feel free to shower with me with outrageous compliments