To be stressed about this?

[thefirstmrsDeVere]

Ok, following on from 'lots of needy threads' thingy.

Here is your space to tell everyone what is 'stressing' you at the moment. I mean 'stress' because we all know its not the end of the world, there are people far worse off than us blah blah. I have a seperate thread for the thing that causes me real, deep down stress and I have the SN boards for my other really stressful thing.

This is for the stuff like:

Someone in my family messed up the combination on the little padlock I keep on a certain kitchen cupboard (long story, dont judge). I bought a combination lock because someone kept losing the key to the other one. So at stupid oclock this morning I had to unscrew the bloody door to get at the baby breakfast that is also kept in there (note - I dont lock the baby food up, it is just kept in there as well)

Did the shopping in Morrisons today, full of horrible people shouting at each other and buying pies. Got to my car, opened the boot only to find my OH had put the buggy in there and didnt think to tell me. Drove home with boxes of rice crispies etc falling on me every time I turned the corner.

DC2's school bus is late every flippin day and its COLD.

Next promised I could have my new biker boots today and they LIED.

All that lovely hair I had thanks to two quite close together pregnancies has now fallen out. Crowning glory? No.

Anyone want to join me in a big ol whinge fest?

MrsDev, my eyes have just filled up with tears reading that. How do you just find the perfect words like that? (no fair!)

Because I am amazing, ask Rindercella she'll tell you

Not really, but thank you. I find it much easier to type than talk.

In an odd kind of way I like this this thread, makes me feel quite humble.

In a light hearted fashion I'm worried about the amount of dead wasps I keep finding in the bathroom and am hoping we don't have a nest.

I'm also worried that my washing machine, despite the fact it's new, will one day object to the daily torture of our copious amounts of washing and will pack up.

I'm worried my step family doesn't really like me and that everyone keeps telling me DD should be speaking fluently(she's 17 months FFS!).

I've far too many big issues to want to contemplate so it's actually nice to focus on the little problems.

WIP - many condolences I hope you've got a lot of support at home.

Gremlins I can help with one of those things. In my other life I am a child development worker. YOU are right, THEY are wrong. Hope that helps

This is a nice thread. People are nice here. I've been on (and lurked on) some perfectly normal threads recently that descended into nastiness for no reason just because people wanted to be nasty. I was starting to think MN might not be a particularly healthy place to hang out.

But you just have to look in the right places!

I am stressed because my db died 5 years ago and I think i am only now beginning to realise how much it may have fucked me up. I feel like crying ALL the time.

I am stressed because I think I am depressed, possibly due to the above. Ditto overweight, ditto part time insomniac (and ds still puts paid to the other part time!).

Also some twunt keeps stealing stock from where I work, and I could really do without a bollocking from my area manager.

However (and this will sound really odd and probably not right in written form) I am slightly less stressed knowing that there are lots of other people stressed out there. In no way, shape, or form am I glad that others are having a rough time, but it just goes to show that you never know what goes on in other peoples lives. I feel less stressed as this thread has made me think of others, and sometimes that is a good thing.

Oh, I don't mean it's nice reading about other people's difficulties. Sorry if it sounded like that

The second coming - take your teenager for the piercings - if they don't really want them it will make them stop being so argumentative :o

Mrs DeVere - thank you! I know she's developing correctly for her age, but I think I'm going to scream at the next person who askes me about her speach

Also I want - no - NEED a bigger bin! Recycling is great but with my eldest's medical waste and normal waste one tiny bin a week isn't cutting it. I'm currently a recycling freak but it's still not enough.
Bloody jobsworths at the Council.

WIP - so sorry for your loss (and sorry for missing it first time around)

Mrs DeVere - you're generally rather awesome.

I've just felt completely overwhelmed the last few weeks - DP's working ALL the time and is ALWAYS stressed, so I'm trying to sort out everything else and i'm freaking fed up with it. Things like - we've been trying to get a window fixed for more than a month, but the idiot who the landlady's told us will do it has now stopped responding to calls/texts. It's getting colder, and having a pane of glass missing is a pain in the ass. Then, I broke the showerhead, tried replacing it, but it didn't fit, so now I have to go back AGAIN and return that one, get a refund and then try and find one that fits. I also need to sort out paying some tax, and we neeeeeeeeeed to book stuff for a trip but a) are barely around each other to be able to discuss and plan stuff and b) because of f&*%ing plusnet, STILL don't have internet at home. This has been going on for so long, and now I seem to be stuck in some plusnet attempts at diagnosing the problem hell, where they just keep on asking me to do the same thing, but never actually seem to do anything themselves.

I have a new job, and I worry that because of all the other crap I'm trying to sort out, I am not doing as well as they expect me to, which means they'll rethink the whole hiring me thing and finally, DP and I have an important meeting this afternoon, which I have been majorly stressed about (but he doesn't notice, as he's never around and so caught up in his own little ball of stress) and last night he said to me "well, have you planned what you're going to say?". Feck off.

AND (sorry, on a roll here), despite being constantly busy, running around like a mad person, and telling family members about this they're all "when are you going to come and visit me?". they never make the effort the other way, and when I say "I don't have the time" they just ignore it. The worst is my eldest DB and his wife - they've moved away, and since they've moved, all I've heard is "when are you going to visit?" When I was living further away, incidentally in the same place where they're now, they didn't visit me for THREE years. I am soooooo tempted to come back with "well, I'll visit around about the time you visited me - so see you in three years" but Im' trying to rise above it all.

Indulgent whinge alert

I had planned to go out for the full day on my bike, to go up on the moors and hills until about 6.00pm tonight BUT because everyone else's plans have changed I've got to change mine and be back for 3.00pm (part of being a mum but stil.........)

Today was to replace Tuesday last week when I planned a full day out on my bike but on Monday night my boss rang and said some urgent stuff was needed for an extra ordinary council meeting last Tuesday night so had to work (not only me but others as well but I bet they weren't going out on their bikes!)

I'm not going to tell ANYBODY the next time I plan a day off .....oh that's tomorrow when I'm snowboarding. I'm going to sneak out of the house and hide!!!!!!

I am stressed about the septuagenarian who is currently painting the guttering up on the barn roof just by my kitchen windown. Supposing he falls into my garden?! Got to give the lovely man some credit - I wouldn't get up there and I'm only 40!

I am stressed a bit, we are currently buying a house in the UK and it is just dragging on and on. Feeling very sorry for the woman who we are buying from. I keep getting frantic phone calls from the estate agents about us not sending stuff back. Today's phone call told us that if we hadn't exchanged by Friday she will ose the house she wants. It isn't out fault. We are at the mercy and vagaries of the Belgian post office. If you are selling us the house. Sorry.

Hello all.

I was putting clean clothes away but I kept having to lay my head on them for a 'little rest' sleep so I have come for a short break.

kreecher I am so tired I read 'the mercy and vaginas of the Belgian post office'.

Rind why have you sent an old man up a ladder? Are you planning some sort of Youtube video?
Mbear sometimes it takes us that long to actually believe they have gone

Keep posting. I am reading all of them. I am thinking of fantastic, wise, witty replies as well. I am just too flippin tired to type them out now.

Got to go and put those bloody clothes away before they find their way back to the dirt pile and get washed all over again.

That reminds me - I've just hung out a load of washing that dh put on. I had a feeling of deja vu as I took each item out of the basket. Turns out that dh had ignored the full-to-the-brim dirty washing basket in the bathroom and had instead shoved my freshly-washed-waiting-to-be-ironed pile in. Grrrr.

I would like to second (or is it third) that this thread is a great idea and full of genuinely lovely people.

It has also helped me to get my own problems into perspective and as a result shift my fat lazy backside and sort some of them out. I have also just had a discussion with dh (in the car on the way back from the fracture clinic with dd - again) that we really should start appreciating what we have more and moaning about what we haven't got less.

Yes I/we have problems, but we also have three beautiful dc's, three slightly stinky dogs and each other. We should think of ourselves as blessed.

That said, I am slightly stressed that, after I sent a rather controversial letter to the head teacher last week, the school inclusion lady called us last Friday (while I was at the hospital - unsurprisingly) and said she would call back, but didn't give a reason for her call. Am now worrying about whether she is going to tell me to back-off and not be so pushy, as she reckons ds isn't entitled to their help or is going to be lovely and discuss what they can do to help him.

I am the Committee Chairperson for our local playgroup. Enough said.

Sweetness, one of my mother's best pieces of advice was to never, ever volunteer to be chairperson/secretary/treasurer for any committee. She did all of those roles when we were little for various playgroups/village committees and said they were all thankless and time consuming jobs. I don;t envy you.

MrsDeVere you really are very lovely and all-embracing, and I love this thread and am thankful for having a place just to have a quiet release of my gripes, but am moved by what other people have shared which is of much greater significance. I've got a lot of admiration for people dealing with much more than me and much better.

Today's newest gripe for me is that about a week ago there was a heavy rainstorm which drenched the carpet in my ds's bedroom (he has Velux windows), and in the last couple of days I've noticed a growing fusty smell which is now a mouldy smell, and the carpet has turned orange and rotten I'm upset that I hadn't seen this happening and he's been sleeping in there, and have Bisselled it with disinfectant and Vanish anti-bac and everything I can think of, all to no avail, so now I've got to try to get the carpet replaced asap because I can't have him sleeping in this fust. And I'm two days away from due date. And we're pretty skint.

Gremlins you know you are right - more evidence... my ds didn't really say a thing, let alone speak fluently, until he was 18 months, and now, 7 months later he is unstoppable and says the most amazing things, and you can have a proper conversation with him. People had started asking me if I was going to look into help for him back then, but he was just storing it all up to shock them

Rindercella What a wise woman! My Mum also was a person to get involved so I have just followed in her footsteps. Sadly she never passed on your Mother's pearl of wisdom but am beginning to seriously wish she had!!

oosa the carpet thing would have me freaking out now let alone if I were due to give birth. . I spent the last few weeks of all of my pgs going mental about dirt, untidiness and clothes not being hung on co ordinating hangers (yes, blue tops on blue hangers - really).

Not too bad today. Went to have a cuppa and a chat with a friend. I dont know her well but we seem to have a lot in common. I always forget how important it is to get out of the house and do something social. I have been so insular since DD's illness.

I wore my new boots today. They are proper, brand new! I didnt buy them because they were on special offer or in a charity shop. I bought them because they were what I was looking for. I am paying them off (interest free natch) because its the only way I can do it but they are NEW

I am glad you all like this thread. I hope it helps a teeny bit.

upahill I hope you get your day on your bike. I know what its like to long for that freedom, doing something you love. I wouldnt choose a day on a bike myself but a day down the shed with Radio 7, lots of tea and my sewing machine - bliss.

I am stressed because my 5 year old is overweight and he cant stop eating all the time. I am now going to take him to the doctors because I am concerned about him. He always seems to become addicted to things very quickly, first it was the Wii then I removed it now it seems it's food..... The food he keeps on eating is healthy food as we dont buy processed food etc, but too too much of it, he keeps on saying he is hungry all the time. How's that for stress

I am also stressed because I have fallen out with a lot of people merely because I have told them the truth and not agreed with what they had to say. More disappointed tbh that I did not mean a lot to these people to have stopped talking to me purely because I did not agree with them

I'm a bit stressed as there is a woman I don't know very well who has a DD at DD's preschool. I bumped into her a couple of weeks ago (just before term started) and she told me that her DH had dropped down dead of a heart attack in front of a few weeks earlier. She has two DDs - one 4.5 the other 2.5

I would like to help this lady out in some way. I have been thinking of giving her a card and just adding some money, not much just a few pounds to let her buy her DDs something nice. I don't know if she would be insulted by that or not. But I do know she is struggling finacially and perhaps a little gesture from a virtual stranger may help a bit? What do you think? Sometimes though I know that helping out could just be a card to let her know that I am thinking of her. Have got the card, now just need to decide what to do.

The same thing happened to DH's father - died of a heart attack at 34 years old. I know how much his mother struggled (and what a bloody amazing job she did) bringing her 5 children up by herself.

I just can't stop thinking of this woman at the moment, but am not sure the best way to help her.

mumofthree my DS is 7 and talks about food all the time. I have to lock some food away so yes, its bloody stressful. At least you are making sure he eats well. What more can you do?

Rind its tricky isnt it? A card would be lovely and I doubt she would be offended if you said the money was to treat the kids.

People just want to do something. I remember being bewildered by the amount of money people gave us after DD died but I was never offended. I was in the loft a few months ago and found about 30 quid when i was looking at some of the sympathy cards. I was touched that so many people just wanted to help.

If you are really worried that money might seem weird how about a couple of book tokens? I know that wont help her money troubles but at least she can treat the children.