"You are a rascist for saying that THE POPE is a Nazi for being forced to join the Hitler Youth, so essentially you are saying that everyone who was forced to join was a Nazi which is bulls**t."
Your grasp of the concept of racism is sketchy, to say the least. It would be racist (well, if you believe that non-Jewish Germans constitute a distinct race, which almost no-one outside the National Socialist Arbeiterpartei has ever done: you should try to keep better company in your definitions of race) to argue that it's inevitable that Germans in 1939 would be up to no good because, well, they're Germans. Racism is the assumption of inherent or immutable properties of "races", which purport to make discrimination rational.
Moreover, one of the most dreadful aspects of the Holocaust was to deny Jews their German-ness. German Jews went to their deaths believing to the last that they were German, having never quite believed that their Jewishness in any way made them lesser Germans. The belief that Jews were not truly German made the expulsion of Jews from German possible; it appears to be a belief that you share, given your cry of "racism" defines a race including only non-Jewish Germans (Jews were, obviously, German and yet not members of the Hitler Youth).
It is quite clearly not racist to point out that members of the Nazi Party were members of the Nazi Party. You may wish to argue that people were forced to join (although some refused), you may wish to argue that they were threatened (although some left the country), you may wish to argue that it didn't really matter because everyone was doing it (although everyone wasn't). But to start throwing words like racist around in this context is entirely spurious.
You may think you are being terribly understanding speaking up for the poor traduced Germans of that generation (although I suspect you are only actually speaking up for one of them), and it's true that authors like Daniel Goldhagen overstate the argument that eliminationist anti-Semitism was absolutely universal in German culture of the time (aside from anything, like you do, it denies German Jews their nationhood). It was a country where madness and evil got in, and once they're in it takes huge force to remove it. But that doesn't mean that there were no people who resisted - Hans Braxenthaler shot himself rather than be captured a few hundred metres from the Ratzinger house - and we should be very careful about ascribing virtue to passive acquiescence.
And as I cited, one of the Righteous Among The Nations was six at the time, and didn't even have the spur of a cousin being murdered. I don't think you quite understand who the Righteous Amongst The Nations are. They are a tangible proof that moral leadership exists. Even in Austria: look up Florian Tschögl. And in Poland, Jews were hidden by Catholics at hideous, terrible cost:
"In the night of 23-24 March 1944 German police came to Markowa from Lancut. They found the Jews on the Ulma farm and shot them to death. Afterwards they murdered the entire Ulma family - Jozef, Wiktoria, who was seven month pregnant, and their six small children - Stanislawa, Barbara, Wladyslawa, Franciszka, Maria, and Antoni. The eldest of the Ulma?s children had just begun to attend classes in primary school."
Ratzinger did nothing whatsoever in the war to resist. He just went along. As I said, none of us can say how we would behave and few of us would have the bravery to resist. But I think that most of us, if we emerged alive and relatively well from a morally corrosive experience like the Third Reich, would be a little silent about others' moral compromises, and realise that sometimes people are passive in the face of evil because bravery is not given to everyone.