To be angry that 30 year old fatties are moaning!?!

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My little boy has recently been diagnosed with type 1 diabetes. I was totally heartbroken when we found out! Since then when people have offered him sweets/at partys/in shops, when I have to tell people he can't have things and why, This is usually followed by chubbie thirty to fifty year olds moaning to me that they or a relative have type 2 diabetes and how hard it is for them!

Type 2 is self inflicted.... btw..
I am soo angry that this has happened to my son.... He is only 4 (through no fault of his own Or anyone else) I just want to shout at them to shut up,stop eating so much shit and move around a bit more!!

This may not make sense, but AIBU?

I'm also not 'comparing' illnesses!??!?! I'm trying to explain to the OP how things could be A LOT worse.

sorry I was being unreasonable to comment. Won't do it again.

AT1137 im very sorry about your son but type 1 diabetes is a life threatening condition if not properly managed and can be fatal. OP's child would become seriously ill if not managed well

i understand about your pain, my son has a serious and very complicated heart problem resulting in him needing a heart transplant in the next few years, although at the moment he is relatively well and living a "normal" life apart from sports, i would be so upset if someone told me to get a grip just because he wasnt in hospital

it takes such a long time to come to terms with a diagnosis of serious illness or disease, in fact i dont think parents ever do and we just try our best to get on with life

Sorry to have caused offence.

sorry about your son. I think you would be better to keep uninformed rant to yourself though.

" just looked at your picture kitty (if that's you with your dd) and you seem to be a skinny thing - is your venom from depriving yourself of pastries perhaps ?"

LOLOLOL I am not skinny, I am slim. I don't like fatty pastries, luckily. I like veg haven't got a sweet tooth never have had one.
maryansingleton, you need to get your eyesight checked .

Ah..... I get it, I'm skinny because I'm not overweight???? I'm not over weight because I deprive myself of pastries?????

Oh I long for a Greggs

I missed that one maryann I have no empathy with fat LOL

Dawn French has impossibly shiny hair.

Do you think if you eat loads of buttery pastry the fat coats the hair shaft, making your hair shiny?

kittywise

I am a size 16 - I have recently lost 4 and a half stone. I was fat becasue I ate too much. I am now trying NOT TO be fat.

I am NOT stupid, I do not have a genetic reason to be fat (other than my parents taught me that food is equivalent to love) I just ate too much.

BUT - it is NOT SIMPLY a case of eat less and do more. I ALSO have had to work psychologically on not feeling UNLOVED if I don't eat, on breaking my disordered eating cycles, and on not eating for other emotional reasons. I also have had to replace binging and purging with more healthy habits.

OMG I WISH it was SIMPLY a case of eat less. Of course you can boil it down to that, but it's the same as saying to an alcoholic, stop drinking, there is SUCH a LOT of work in the actual achieving of that.

oh, and I CANNOT walk around eating. EVEN at my fattest. I struggle even in a restaurant to have people I don't know watching me eat

Its worse than telling an alcoholic to stop drinking in fact 3Trees - its like telling them to "just have a nice glass of wine and then cork the bottle and save it for another day"

Yep, that could work.

Not.

Actually, I remember saying that to DH! "AT least if I were alcoholic I could just never drink alcohol" but you can't never eat!!!

you seem mightily obsessed by it all though kitty -that was my point- fear of fat is what it sounds like.

no maryann, I'm not obsessed. I'm giving my view point here like you are. You are equally obsessed in that case. I don't like looking at people as fat as dawn french. I also know lots of people,who thinks she looks awful because she so fat.

It's the defence of obesity that pisses me off, the rationalising it away, the excuses made for it. I would be equally vehement if the conversation was about being really skinny.

My BIL always looked after his health as both his parents died from heart problems during their fifties.

Despite all his best efforts, in his sixties, he needed a triple bypass. (Or you could say because of his best efforts he is still here despite his genetic predisposition to heart disease.) Obviously it's a serious operation but he said the worst bit was if you had to cough - it was agony due to the ribs having been taken out and wired back together again.

He said "I felt so sorry for all the smokers. They had had to give up for the operation, and had terrible coughs, and were in so much more pain than me."

Isn't that kind? He could have said it served them right, given that smoking can cause or worsen heart disease. So could the Doctors. But the right thing to do is to treat everyone with the same illness as well as each other. Whether you consider it "self-inflicted" or not.

Riven - I use the lancets on their own rather than with the little machine which punches them into the finger automatically. I find that those machines push the lancet far too deep and far too much blood comes out, there's more tendency to bruise or harden - and it hurts. If you just use the lancet, there's more control and very little blood is needed sometimes. I bruise or get hardened skin more if my fingers are cold. You'll know the obvious stuff like rotate the sites, so won't patronise you with that, but I also find different lancets are better/worse. I prefer BD microfine. I also try to remember to manipulate the skin on the finger before I stick the lancet in, to soften it up a bit. You can also go quite far down each side and the pad. I've been testing so much over the past 15 years (pre-conception, pregnancy, etc) so probably do 10 a day but you'd be hard pushed to see anything. However, if you're having to do that to a child, it's much much harder and my heart goes out to you with all your posts say you have to deal with.

Riven I've seen blood glucose measurements taken from the earlobe and the palm of the hand at times, not sure about how suitable it is for children, but it could be useful to give your dc's toes a break?