To be angry that 30 year old fatties are moaning!?!

[sugarray]

My little boy has recently been diagnosed with type 1 diabetes. I was totally heartbroken when we found out! Since then when people have offered him sweets/at partys/in shops, when I have to tell people he can't have things and why, This is usually followed by chubbie thirty to fifty year olds moaning to me that they or a relative have type 2 diabetes and how hard it is for them!

Type 2 is self inflicted.... btw..
I am soo angry that this has happened to my son.... He is only 4 (through no fault of his own Or anyone else) I just want to shout at them to shut up,stop eating so much shit and move around a bit more!!

This may not make sense, but AIBU?

OP - lots of people seem to think you've been offensive (and maybe you have), but . . . .

Being told your four year old is diabetic, having to inject him four times a day, having to stick lancets in his fingers every day, looking around around his little body for injection sites, watching the bruises develop on his finger, worrying if he exercises too much in case he goes hypo, worrying if he exercises too little that you're mollycoddling him, trying not to let your mind run away years ahead every time your hear about retinopathy and increased rates of heart disease and amputations and blindness and renal failure . . .

Well, better you have a rant in private than go mad thinking about it all. Maybe best just do it with your best friend or OH next time than here!

I always think it's generally fine for everyone who isn't involved in an issue to have their opinion or standpoint, but if you're the one living it, no one knows what's that's like. Of course many people don't 'bring on' their type 2, of course many people don't understand the reality of living with type 1, but as someone who has lived with type 1 for 29 years I would hate it if any of my kids had it too so my heart goes out to you.

Why does she have to have empathy? You want her to have emphathy for someone who is larger? Have you thought that the larger person might not want her emphathy?

Yes i am angry. I'm probably an awful horrible person too. But that is just how i feel right now! You can call me ignorant, maybe you are right!
All i know about type 2 is what the diabetic team told me. It is generally caused by the over eating or drinking of sugary things, which is why typep 2 are often overweight. There is often a genetic predisposition, much like heart disease

etc. In short to avoid type 2, you should live a heathy life style. Type 1 can not be avoided.

I do not wish any of you ill health nor would i get a kick out of somebody losing their sight due to type 2.

I am angry this has happened to my ds, and with some of the people i have met since. I'm sure my anger will pass.
I thank you for trying to help.

i cant believe the flaming the OP is getting, nasty comments such as educate yourself, inpolite,ignorant and get off your high horse .... ,
Her 4 year old son has been diagnosed with type one diabetes which is a life long, potentially fatal and serious illness and is probably feeling very upset, scared, angry and worried about the future,

maybe calling ladies "fatties" for been friendly isnt really the right way to go about it but i can understand the frustration she has, when they are comparing type 2 diabetes which is largely caused by life style factors (not always) to a poor 4 year old childs type 1

what a lot of support she has got, you lovely bunch

gorionine -read my comment below yours.

sugarray, I apologise for my post, it sounds shitty reading it back (I'm Rockbird). I can't imagine how it feels to have to do what wonderinglinda describes. :(

Making nasty comments about people who are suffering from an illness is not a good way to get sympathy or support, garlicolivoil.

If she had come on here and said how dreadful she was feeling about her ds's diagnosis, and its implications for his life, or how unfair she felt that Fate had been, I'm sure she would have got lots of support.

Sorry MaryAnnSingelton,I did not refresh the thread and x-posted with you other post.

Perhaps the OP would have got a lot more support if she hadn't been quite so judgey from the offset

being overweight rarely has anything to do with food, staying a healthy weight or losing weight is all about exercise. People who exercise loads - like long distance runners or professional dancers - eat thousands of calories.

People gain weight for a variety of reasons and then find getting enough exercise harder and then you are trapped in a vicious cycle. Then your mental health is affected and your self esteem plummets - and exercise is the last thing you want to do, due to the feeling of being judged and stared at and laughed at, then the vicious cycle spins even faster

Kitty your comments are ignorant and rude

So 45% of type two suffers didn't inflict the disease on themselves and they don't want to be blamed for something they didn't do

gorionine

OP has said how heartbroken she is and angry about his diagnosis

People comparing a four year olds illness and their illness, saying how they can still have sweets and chocolate in front of her child would annoy and piss me off, looking after a child that has type 1 is totally different to an adult with type 2, it just is

Thank you, SolidGoldBrass, I was afraid to log back in, and heaved a sigh of relief at your posts.

YABU, very. Your sons illness is not life threatening, he is not fighting for his life in hospital. Please put it in some kind of perspective.

Take this advice from a mum of a 4 year old boy who has had a very rare form of cancer TWICE and been told he only has a 30% chance of survival and please get a grip and tbh I don't mind if you find my post harsh. I really don't. I know some wonderful mums of children who have been told their child will die or has died or are currently dealing with their children while on palliative care so it is they in my opinion who deserve to 'be unreasonable' about things not you. Please please get a grip.

80% food and 20% exercise is about correct, but the exercise makes you feel good so would help the low self esteem. the food part has much more to do with choice than quantaty, thereofre eating small amounts of the worng food opposed to large amuounts of the right foods will also make a hugh differnece

it can be controlled.

and I am giving my opinion. I just think people need to get things in perspective, that's all. I'm not rating illnesses I'm just asking for some perspective.

how awful that people try to empathise with you.
What would you rather people said to you?