To be angry that 30 year old fatties are moaning!?!

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My little boy has recently been diagnosed with type 1 diabetes. I was totally heartbroken when we found out! Since then when people have offered him sweets/at partys/in shops, when I have to tell people he can't have things and why, This is usually followed by chubbie thirty to fifty year olds moaning to me that they or a relative have type 2 diabetes and how hard it is for them!

Type 2 is self inflicted.... btw..
I am soo angry that this has happened to my son.... He is only 4 (through no fault of his own Or anyone else) I just want to shout at them to shut up,stop eating so much shit and move around a bit more!!

This may not make sense, but AIBU?

good, don't let the door hit your ass on the way out!

OH, people who are proud of themselves for being 'honest'. That's always a good fuckwit-indicator. What they mean is 'I have no social skills and I get excited by being as rude as possible.' People who make a big deal of their honesty never say anything nice. Nice things can be just as true as negative ones, so this behaviour pattern is not about 'truth' at all, it's about selfrighteously actively trying to hurt other people's feelings.

that would be unlikely, being slim I can move at a reasonable speed and the door would have a pretty small target

ok, hope you trip over the doorstep then

ah yes that would be more problematic. If I fell I would have less cushioning. It would hurt more.

SGB - people who are proud of their honesty also seem to be very sensitive at the same time. Try being rude honest back to them and they get all huffy.

Oh don't go Kitty. I am loving your work here !

Stomping off complaing of a lack of reasoned debate - genius.....
It is like Richard Littlejohn complaining about freedom of the press

I often tell people they look great as it happens, often. I frequently phone up companies/head office if I have been in a shop say and was served by someone who was very good at their job. I am a great believer in credit where credits' due. People don't praise enough.

what if the person was fat though?

Kitty you're not convtrovertial - you're plain ignorant.

Every single member of my mothers side family has Type II diabetes by the age of 60 - each one of them is very slim. All females in my family except me had pregnancy diabetes and they are all skinny. They eat well (veggies) and are very active. Yet they have it and it's horrible for them.

Some of it is genetic you know. I will probably get it and I'm encouraged to get it checked. I'm not overweight.

It's one of those things.

I hope the OP gets to grips with son's condition soon. It must be a terrible shock but she's being completely ignorant to think that type II is self inflicted. And I certainly hope her son gets more understanding that she is willing to give others.

SGB -You have it completely right.

I find those that revel in their own honesty fall in the same camp as 'I speak as I find' folk.
They simply like hurting people's feelings and frankly they don't care.

Conversely, they don't ever seem to come armed with compliments. They will never be the ones saying you look great, you did well, or your kids are fab.

I hate to say it, and I don't necessarilly agree with the way it's being said, but I think Kitty has a point.
If we all ate about 1500 calories a day, and did 30 minutes of vigorous exercise 5 times a week, we might not all be a size 8 but very few of us would be morbidly obese.
There are medical conditions which contribute to obesity, but they are incredibly rare in the grand scheme of things, and you still have to eat more calories than you burn for them to make you obese.
I know there are a huge number of reasons why people overeat, but denying that you are overeating, or blaming medical conditions or life in general is not going to make you any thinner. People have to accept that obesity is within their control in order to do anything about it.
And yes, I would say exactly the same thing to people who smoke/drink excessively/take drugs, etc. I don't really see the difference on a basic level. the only difference is in public perceptions of what is a socially acceptable problem and what isn't.
However, I also agree that badgering people to death, or just being simply rude about them, is also not particularly helpful.

Maybe not everyone wants to only eat 1500 calories a week and do 30 minutes of exercise 5 times a week.

Who are you to say they should?

I don't get the mentality of harassing overweight people to lose weight.

Unless you are having to carry them around, it doesn't affect you (although apparently it affects Kittywise to look at them), so leave them alone!!

Ah I see my " I frequently complement people' post has been conveniently over looked. Of course I understand, it doesn't quite fit into the colour by numbers painting you are working so hard on.

I'll say it again, I frequently complement people. No I wouldn't complement them on being fat, but they night have a nice pair of shoes or necklace whatever.

I also find that people who are 'brutally honest' tend to be very lonely.

kittywise - to be honest, it just sounded like you were blowing your own trumpet and saying how great you are to compliment people.

anyway, I'm off through the door in a nimble fashion fanjo, and I haven't fallen over either

"Ah I see my " I frequently complement people' post has been conveniently over looked"

I've not over looked it. however, it doesn't excuse being incredibly rude and ignorant.

No, I was countering the point that honest people only ever say nasty things. I was pointing out that i say a lot of nice things. Couldn't let that one go.

Anyway, isn't it compliment?