to turn down a full-time job and let my DH support me?

[SassySusan]

DH works full-time and I work part-time (2 1/2 days a week). We are comfortable financially, and don't get any state benefits.

My boss has offered to make my job full-time. There is no practical reason I couldn't do the hours. DH says it's up to me whether I want to do the f/t hours or not.

So am I being unreasonable to sit on my fanny for half the week, spending DH's hard earned, considering he doesn't seem to mind?

hope you got your hard head ready!

What about children? Ages?

No not at all. It's a partnership. If it works for you both then why not?

if there is no reaosn not to then i would. think of all the extra cash. even if you don't need it (lucky you) you could save it for something special.

YANBU - part-time works perfectly for me and the jobs are actually very hard to come by. If you enjoy what you do and don't particularly want to work F/T - and don't need to - then do whatever makes you happy.

If he doesn't mind, no, I don't think so at all.

[hope you are doing ok, if that doesn't break mumsnet etiquette, apols if so.]

In your position, if your DH really doesn't mind, then I wouldn't go back full time. I don't know what your job is, but mine - while I do like it - got so much better once I went part time (3 days a week) - I am much happier.

Thanks tholeon - it doesn't break my etiquette

Thank mjinhiding I suppose I am filled with Catholic guilt - xtra money is always handy, and would make us more secure in case DH lost his job - which isn't imminent, but may happen in future....

Part of me feels uncomfortable about letting DH "subsidise" me

Emkana there are no children to look after at the moment

I don't have any kids, we haven't got loads of cash and don't get any handouts.. But I work part time. It means DH has nice dinners ready. It means I can do things I like to do and occasionally clean my house. It means my pets are happy. I'm a lot more relaxed this way and house runs smoother. I do think one person at home can actualy be a good thing financially as childcare is expensive, ready meals are expensive, cleaners are expensive. I think a 4o hour week can't be healthy myself and that it isn't healthy for marriages and relationships in general. I wish Dh could work part time but we need his wage as me makes quite a bit more than I do. Plus he trained for his job so I think maybe gets a bit more out of it than I do mine. Do you enjoy your job?

Sorry I am not very good at remebering who is who Sassy. Just realized who you were, more appropriate question should have been: Would getting out of the house more help you? Or is it actually much too soon for you? differant situation than mine.

Hope you are well

Do I enjoy my job?

Hmm... good question... I used to be very career orientated and really live for work... but since going part-time, the job I'm doing is a bit sleepy, and I've been more focused on other stuff.

I bet you don't actually sit on your fanny for half the week though do you?

Do what makes you happy and what works for your family. Its the only way.

oh ....

I thought people would say, get a fulltime job... you lazy so and so...

No, if everyone on mumsnet believed in full time work.. mumsnet would be a lot quieter....

I think motherhood is a full-time job. Even when they're at school. Flame shield at the ready.

OK, [guilt mode off]

Thanks ladies...

Any dissent?

I agree alouiseg but I dont' have any DCs at the moment

Fancy lunch then

I work 2.5 days a week, e works 4.5 days

my children are too old to really use them as an excuse to work FT

but I don't want to work FT

the fact I don't means our weekends are spent more on "weekendy" stuff, not simply catching up on washing/housework

I do more around the house than him

works for us

Just wait till Xenia finds this thread

Sassy - have read some of your other threads. In your position I would be kind to myself and enjoy not having FT work pressures.

fuck Xenia

I think it's fine if it's what you both want, but not if it makes him feel pressured. You could always step up to full-time if money problems came along, or if you needed to support yourself for whatever reason.