to turn down a full-time job and let my DH support me?

[SassySusan]

DH works full-time and I work part-time (2 1/2 days a week). We are comfortable financially, and don't get any state benefits.

My boss has offered to make my job full-time. There is no practical reason I couldn't do the hours. DH says it's up to me whether I want to do the f/t hours or not.

So am I being unreasonable to sit on my fanny for half the week, spending DH's hard earned, considering he doesn't seem to mind?

Being on maternity leave has made me realise how much of my life i am missing out on by being at work. If you do not have to work full time then for god sake woman enjoy it. Money isn't everything, espicially if you dont particularly need it.

Well, know you've done it AF. .

Sorry,Xenia, know it's impolite to "talk behind other MNetters' backs".

why not bunny ? people talk behind my back all the time

If it's working for you then don't change it. It will be a long time before I work full-time again. Like AF we find our weekends are available for weekend things rather than doing loads of housework, cooking for the week ahead etc.

Hmmm you might regret it in the future if he gets somebody else in full time and gives all the interesting work to them and get you to do the filling though.

filing I mean the filing

No you didnt...

Who is Xenia?

I have to admit, I don't do much cleaning. I see it as employment creating to employ someone else

do you split all the housework etc 50:50? If not, then you are not "sitting on your fanny"

as you are married its not "his money" its your money

are you prepared to take the risk that you will be in a weaker financial position if anything happens to your DH or you split up?

do you accept that working p/t will probably damage your career? ( not fair but usually true)

BeerTricks - why? Because she has a cleaner??

sassy...Xenia is an old poster who thinks that every woman who doesn't work FT in a high flying, high earning position is somehow inferior and she would vehemently (but rather charmingly) slap you about a bit on this thread

YANBU to do what you like re family work and finances.

YABU to ask a bunch of random strangers in faint hope of a ruck.

Especially a SAHM/WOHM ruck

Look I'm going to confess something that I never thought I would do on mn.

I gave up work a week before dh and I got married.

It was one of the most happy and carefree times of mine and dh's life.

If if works for you then it's got naff all to do with what anyone thinks.

Btw.......I'm not scared of Xenia, I think she's a top poster but I don't want to live by someone elses doctrine.

BeerTricks surely that's an individual decision though? Not disputing your choice, but a bit harsh to judge people because they have a cleaner and don't both work full-time?

Beer, I don't work but if I cleaned up after me and the DCs I would do nothing else.
If we can afford it why not?
Why do we have a thing about cleaning. Would you suggest that I ought to sack the gardener or the decorator?

Hiring people to do 'mens' tasks around the home is fine. 'Womens' tasks being done buy paid people is considered wrong and lazy.

It is odd .

some people couldnt imagine hiring a painter / joiner / gardener to work for them when they could do it themselves

lots of people make all their own soft furnishings and woulndt dream of paying someone to make them or buying them ready made

some families make all their own bread/ grow all their veg / knit and sew their own clothes while other buy these things

dont see how that's different from hiring a cleaner. if they can afford it, its their business how they spend their money

X post pagwatch

must learn to type faster

i wouldn't do it,but hey up to you. out of interest what will you do? surely not fluff and fold and wifie lunches

Pag - v.true.

Oh Alouiseg, i'm quite ashamed of you, a kept woman