to think its irresponsible for my OH to leave our 2 yr old downstairs on his own?

[YummyMummy1208]

Argh!

I'm so angry with him rite now and generally since our little boy was born cos he just has no clue how to watch him properly but if i ever have a go at him its 'oh shes off again...' and switches off.

Is this just a general 'men' thing??

Thismorning is a prime example, hes been taking over morning duties of late due to me being 7 month pregnant so thismorning he takes DS1 downstairs and then i can hear him saying 'So r u gonna stay downstairs and be a good boy while Daddy has a shower?' now forgive me if im being unreasonable but surely im not the only one here thinking you dont leave a 2.5 yr old downstairs - on his own - while u go upstairs to have a shower??

Whats everyones opinion on this one - Am i being unreasonable to have a go at OH??

Oh it just keeps getting better!!!! And I have a childfree night so no early morning!!!

I posted a lot earlier in the thread and I wasn't taking the piss at all. I think it is right that you should let your partner know how important things like shutting gates are however you do need to toddler proof your home. You leave your child unattended downstairs, by your own admission, and even for a short time this is dangerous if your home is not childproofed - knives lying around etc as you have described. If you feel that your husband will not take any notice of you about safety issues then, unless you are going to chuck him out, for the sake of your son you need to rearrange your kitchen and get cupboard locks and fit them yourself at your own expense if necessary. Either that or you will not be able to leave them alone unsupervised. Surely it would just be easier to childproof the house?

I reckon we could get there morloth :o

This thread is even more amusing when you've been out drinking to be honest :o

"what fucking good advice has anyone posted on here?!" Posts telling you to fuck off were pretty good advice

YM - you have had some good advice, and have managed to take some of it on board. When you have calmed down, try rereading the more helpful posts about getting some counselling for you and your DP - your children WILL pick up on the tensions, even if you don't think they do. For their sake, get some help to improve how you both communicate before you move overseas.

FWIW, I think it is very common for first-time mums to think they know best and I know I was guilty of that too. It was only when ex-DP took over childcare fulltime that I 'let go' and realised what an amazing parent he is. Yes, he does things differently and sometimes makes 'mistakes', but DS is never in any real danger. They have a wonderful relationship and ex-DP is so, so much more confident as a father now that he has the space (away from me, the moaning minnie ) to work out his own parenting style.

One last thing - as others have said, post this stuff in relationships, not AIBU if you are looking for support rather than objective responses.

18 pages.

Wow. That's a lot of pages (I'll confess I haven't read them) dedicated to something so trivial.

I can't believe anybody could get upset about their partner having a shower.

In third world countries, kids of this age are left to fend for themselves for 12-14 hours a day (usually being cared for by their not much older siblings), so that their parents can go to work.

They survive.

Stop wrapping your child in cotton wool and give your poor, long suffering partner a break.

Have waded my way through this and just wanted to say that Freecycle is a good place for stairgates. Knives were in a high up cupboard when DS was little, as was the bleach etc.

I recommend a pair of earplugs OP. Your DH is gong to have to work this parenting thing out for himself, especialy with two to juggle. If it stresses you out listening then it's probably best not to hear it and let him get on with it. To be fair some people aren't that great with babies and children, I count DH and I in that group, it took 2 of us to feed a friend's 9 month DS a banana when babysitting whilst I was 7 months pregnant, plus DH couldn't work out which way to put DD's nappy on when she was born. But the DC's survived us and we're actually pretty good at this parenting thing now they are 6 and 11.

I too like Afternoons:
"If 1000 people tell you you're a duck, you'd better check your back for feathers."
God. That's good.

AM also laughing at Stewie. BF'ing. we haven't even got her going on Giselles bf'ing. CC ? GF ? Smacking ? Greggs ?

We could could have FIELD-DAY here

pmsl @ "constructed advice"! And she calls us morons?

Starlight, whats the lowdown on priyag, then ?
come on over priyag. lets hear your views on this.

can't wait.

Are we in classics yet ?

good morning Morons.

Whats joyus comments do u have for us today then? i see ur all on here nice and early ready to start...

OMG! There were 302 or so comments when I last looked. My views are still the same and yummymummy you are completely ridiculous, fancy coming back for more!

I've had my ready brek. ready to rock and roll.
where shall we start OP ?
Smacking ?
Controlled crying ?
Giselle bunchen's bf'ing advice ?

or shall we go back to your OP issue. thats probably best.
Have you talked to your Oh about how awfult eh MN ladies were to you ? Did you tell him that loads of those MN'ers felt really sorry for him ? What was his response to all of this ?

YM - you are just coming on here to wind people up now. Do you seriously think that you will be proud of this thread when you look back on it? It's only going to end in tears and I don't think they'll be anyone but yours.

Please step away now and concentrate on your lovely DS and looking forward to your new baby.

Not again! I will get no work done - AGAIN! (SHAME)

y on earth would i have told him that?

no, i went home and had a lovely night with my OH and DS actually. then thismorning i tied him to my back whilst i had a shower and once id finished i re-applied the cotton wool around him.

where do u want to start oblomov? u tell me.

YummyMummy1208 "OH will walk off mumbling 'here she goes again..'"

Morning fellow morons

where are you emigrating to YM btw?

How do you nominate a thread for classics? This really is the best thread I've read in ages!
Can believe its still going on.

YummyMummy, surely you could have done that in the first place and none of this would have ever happened!

Can we have some of your constructed advice oh Wise One?

I can't believe this is all still going

and most of the other responders are only coming on here to (try) and wind me up.

i think its hilarious and wouldnt dream of shedding any tears over this thread. its just a bunch or bored housewives trying to be funny.

i like watching so carry on.

I don't think I've never said this on MN. I'm normally so callm.

But.

OP. Fuck. The. Fuck. Off.

(wonders if the OP is a MN hating journo trying to wind us up and get a story?)

Op's Oh still doesn't know that most people think he needs some support. I wish Op would shoe OH this thread. then he might also be able to sit down with her and have a constructive conversation with plans for the future.
I suspect he is intelligent ? has a decent job ? becasue the criteria for emigrating to ??? Aus perhaps ? is quite stringent. so he can't be a total twonk, can he ?