to think its irresponsible for my OH to leave our 2 yr old downstairs on his own?

[YummyMummy1208]

Argh!

I'm so angry with him rite now and generally since our little boy was born cos he just has no clue how to watch him properly but if i ever have a go at him its 'oh shes off again...' and switches off.

Is this just a general 'men' thing??

Thismorning is a prime example, hes been taking over morning duties of late due to me being 7 month pregnant so thismorning he takes DS1 downstairs and then i can hear him saying 'So r u gonna stay downstairs and be a good boy while Daddy has a shower?' now forgive me if im being unreasonable but surely im not the only one here thinking you dont leave a 2.5 yr old downstairs - on his own - while u go upstairs to have a shower??

Whats everyones opinion on this one - Am i being unreasonable to have a go at OH??

Oh Afternoons I like that quote, am committing it to memory.

IS this thread ever going to end?
I have wine, kids are in bed....

Spacehopper - I am perfectly chilled thank you. Dp has the cricket on so I'm almost comatose in fact. Could you just double check what forum you are on though? You stated 'yanbu', thereby agreeing with the op's judgement of her oh's parenting, and implicitly judging this yourself. Qed, not really sure why you are arguing about this, bit of a moot point surely?

Snort, tea came out my nose then Starlight.

This thread is absolutely hilarious - its brightened my day.

I came on wanting a bit of a moan and for someone to just agree with me so i can get on with my day, moan over. instead i get a bunch of idiots trying to call me a twat cos i abreviate - y would i want to spend twice as long typing out each word in full cos u lot r brain dead and cant read??

Yummymummy
Then you posted in the wrong topic. This is Am I Being Unreasonable and the consensus was a resounding YABU. If you wanted to moan and have a pat on the back then you should have posted elsewhere.

Are you new to MN? I think you said that you have seen AIBU before so you must know that.

And tbh, SGM, Starlight, myself and many others have been polite and helpful. For that we get called "morons". Thanks for that.

This is so entertaining! I can't believe how long this has been going on and I have been glued!! This afternoon....I was watching...........Got in from work............I was watching..................Cooked Dinner......................I was watching..........................Then I watched Eastenders ..................Had a shower...........................And I'm still watching!!!!

Priceless!!!

Wow I am completely gobsmacked. I have just read the whole thread..... and I am totally amazed, this has been very insightful for me. I am currently 38+ 4 with my first child and I would say I was probably a bit controlling with my DH wrt our relationship.

This has really opened up my eyes and I will strive (when LO is born obviously) to let my DH have his own time with him and to develop his own parenting skills. So thanks to all on here for helping me in advance.

Plus my sides are now aching from all the laughing I've been doing. Never been on the AIBU thread before, but its hilarious

She's just doing it to get a reaction now, to ruffle feathers.

thedogwalker - it can be difficult to step back, especially if you are the main carer but it is possible, just remember to count to ten and ask if the fact he parents differently to you is really so bad. Congratulations on the imminent arrival and good luck.

God yes thedogwalker best thing you can do is leave them to it. Assuming your DH is an adult human being who loves your DC as much as you do, they will be just fine. DH has a completely different relationship with our DSs to what I have, is a wonderful thing, I don't interfere with it.

veyron where were your children while you were doing all those things? Won't somebody think of the children?!

Careful thedogwalker - all that laughing at 38+4 and you might get an early surprise!

Ps aibu isn't always as interesting as this, but then the ops are rarely as bonkers

Morloth I left her looking after the deep fat fryer, whilst I poured us both Aftershocks

Well I wasn't going to join in as it's become a bit crazy on here (think we all enjoy this type of thread really ;) but OP - my DD is also 2.5 and if you know it's not safe down stairs then yanbu to not want him to be left alone. I leave mine to have a shower, clean up etc but I know she's safe and very responsible for her age. We're not all perfect parents so you should cut some slack with your DP. None of us do things in exactly the same way as parents - it sounds like you are expecting him to read your mind. As others have suggested, perhaps you should both ensure that everything is childsafe and then you would not have to worry so much.

I have not thoroughly read every message on this epic thread but just wanted to say that if you have a local surestart childrens centre its worth contacting them as ours will supply stairgates and locks and medciine cabinets and other gubbins and even fit them for you if your not a diyer.

Thankyou for taking the time to read my post . I did nto spell check it.

the whole text speak, is lazy, irritating, hard to read and rather pretentious.

You come over as totally self obsessed, nagging, unpleasant and rather ignorant.

hey ho

Well as long as you gave her something to do veyron so that she didn't get up to something dangerous.

Yummy Mummy - you are being quite defensive to most repsonses.... cant you just egt the fact that hardly anyone agrees with you??? So therefore YABU.... stop trying to keep offering excuses / reasons as to why you are right and DH is wrong. You asked for the opinion - and its almost a 100% consensu that YABU - therefore before you type more why doesnt that make you stop and think that maybe you are being controlling and maybe YABU????????? I cant understand why you would ask if you are overreacting and when people say you are you disagree?? If your so sure why are you on here?

how long would it take to read the whole thread? I really cannot be arsed but want to

I think everyone is entitled to a moan, but doing it on AIBU is not the place if you want people to a) unanimously agree b) be sympathetic.

I haven't read 17 pages just bits but I would hate to be on the receiving end of this thread, especially if I was 7 months pregnant. I wouldn't dare post on AIBU if I was pregnant as I would find it all too much ( I was ridiculously hormonal and would cry at anything!)

BUT I think calling people stupid (or variations of) because they cannot read text speak is not doing any favours.

Anyway back to OP, Im not sure whether YABU or not. I personally wouldnt leave my daughter (17 months) while i took a shower. Not sure when she is 2, can't imagine so my niece is 2 and wouldn't leave her

sorry i am poo on aibu, pretty sure your not allowed to sit on fence here..........

[scuttles off]

Hi YummyMummy,

So sorry you are being given such a hard time. I agree totally with you that a child aged 2.5 years of age should not be left alone downstairs on their own.

Your husband should get himself organised and get out of bed earlier to have his shower, so he can then spend some quality time with your son before he leaves for work.

If you son has spent all night asleep in his room, for you husband to think it is acceptable leave him alone downstairs, whilst he has a shower, is in my opinion simply selfish.

Please ignore all the nasty personal attacks, you sound like a loving mum and you are certainly not being unreasonable by being annoyed at your husbands behaviour.

priyag Thu 05-Aug-10 23:28:27

''So sorry you are being given such a hard time. I agree totally with you that a child aged 2.5 years of age should not be left alone downstairs on their own.''

And why not???????

''If you son has spent all night asleep in his room, for you husband to think it is acceptable leave him alone downstairs, whilst he has a shower, is in my opinion simply selfish.

Please ignore all the nasty personal attacks, you sound like a loving mum and you are certainly not being unreasonable by being annoyed at your husbands behaviour.''

What aload of shite!

YummyMummy, given you're still on the thread, and you've said several times that you've read the posts from people who are just advising you and appreciated them, can I suggest you try to put all the flamewars to one side, see if you've got any further questions in your mind about what to do and if so, just stick to responding to the people who've given you advice rather than the people with whom you're currently slugging it out? Cos it really would be a better use of your time...