to think its irresponsible for my OH to leave our 2 yr old downstairs on his own?

[YummyMummy1208]

Argh!

I'm so angry with him rite now and generally since our little boy was born cos he just has no clue how to watch him properly but if i ever have a go at him its 'oh shes off again...' and switches off.

Is this just a general 'men' thing??

Thismorning is a prime example, hes been taking over morning duties of late due to me being 7 month pregnant so thismorning he takes DS1 downstairs and then i can hear him saying 'So r u gonna stay downstairs and be a good boy while Daddy has a shower?' now forgive me if im being unreasonable but surely im not the only one here thinking you dont leave a 2.5 yr old downstairs - on his own - while u go upstairs to have a shower??

Whats everyones opinion on this one - Am i being unreasonable to have a go at OH??

i wouldnt try and stick up for me - they only like people who agree with the majority on this forum. aparently leaving a 2yr old downstairs on their own is perfectly fine and those who dont do that are molly coddling their kids...u may need some duct tape to tape them to the wall while u take a shower as previously suggested.

like i sed...iv had some rather constructed advice to my post.

You haven't had wine b4 coming bac????

spacehopper, just because you wouldn't, doesn't mean that it is unreasonable for someone else to, and when it's your dp/oh, then it is their parenting decision, not yours

and, as you can see from this thread, the general consensus is that a 2 year old can generally be left safely, unless they are particularly, um, immature

Pour yourself a glass then Starlight

amazing.

u people cannot see or hear anything other than what comes out of ur own petty little mouths/keyboards as it happens to be!

im actually laughing now becos u really really believe what ur saying - i have sat and said i can see things from others points of view, if u havent read the whole thread then please dont comment. i tried with these morons but they just have a hard time trying to listen between all the piss taking with each other.

but again, lets say its all my fault as im not listening to ur good advice etc. total bullshit. what fucking good advice has anyone posted on here?! none. apart from a teeny few who r actually decent members trying to help people. to which i responded. to all the other idiots i spoke back to them in the way/tone they spoke to me. end of story really.

You are heading into nervous breakdown territory, YummyMummy1208.

Go and have a cup of decaf tea and a sit down. You're making yourself ill. Why do you care what people you clearly find contemptible think about you? Nobody here gives a crap that you think they're neglectful because they know they're not - so why do you care so much?

Hormones, at a guess.

This will all look very silly in 6 months time. You're expanding valuable relaxing time getting angry on the internet.

And me? I'm not angry. I enjoy these bunfights, and find them quite interesting, but you're just getting crotchety.

Nice

1001, you say MilkNoSugarPlease?

thank you Spacehopper5, my point was that i was just upstairs, he had no reason to take DS downstairs just to come back on his own to have a shower. y not just leave him with me whilst he had a shower? like u say its not hard work - toy, lock door have a shower.

but people dont seem to be able to see the bigger picture on here. and for that i feel sorry for them

It's nice that you feel sorry for us because we feel sorry for you too.

Are you feeling calmer now you have had your blow out?

Yummy Mummy YANBU I totally agree with everything you say. Your OH is being a complete idiot, your 2 year old child should never be left alone downstairs when you live in a child unfriendly house as you do.

Pats YM on head and mutters "there there" in a consoling tone of voice.

Hopes that now someone has agreed with her the OP will fuck the fuck off and when she gets there fuck off again.

at lj

Read from beginning to end. Had a shite day.

ALL BETTER NOW!!

Well done all concerned (bar the obvious!)

Spacehopper - you were responding to the op, in which the op was questioning whether her oh's parenting decision was unreasonable, yes?

Deep breaths are necessary as it takes a lot of mental control to try to explain things to people who aren't reading or listening properly. If you want to be sarky about it.

well done Yummy, for latching on to the single person in the last 300 posts that actually agrees with you.

and if you're going to type 'rite', then extend your fingers to a single extra character on the keyboard and type 'right'

ffs.

You first went wrong with the title, and the tone of your OP. You implied that people who didn't do as you did were wrong/neglectful. When the VAST majority told you that you were being unreasonable, you picked on the teeny little critisisms and focused on that, rather than any advice that was being offered.

As you got more and more defensive, refusing to listen to other posters opinions (ignoring the obviously offensive ones) people got sick of your whining and txt spk. they told you so, and you didn't like it. Now you're saying that this isn't affecting you, and you don't care.. in which case, why not just fuck off to another forum and calm down, dear.

You are a bit bonkers, OP.

Hilarious thread!

OP:

If 1000 people tell you you're a duck, you'd better check your back for feathers.

(or you could just keep asking untill someone tells you you're not)